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My attachment issues are so bad
LiKe
WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN IM ALREADY ATTACHED TO PEOPLE IVE ONLY MET FOR A COUPLE DAYS???!?!?
I'm an attentionwhore :3
If I actively seek you out and talk to you all the time it means either
A. I love you in a "I dont know if I have a crush on you but ur my pookie and we do gay shit together and maybe kiss as bros[No homo]:3"
B. I love you in a "I love you but only as my chaotic sibling/child:3"
C. I will do anything for you regardless of romantic or platonic feelings. I will defend you till the day I fucking die :3
The biggest problem for overthinkers is that when they get too attached to someone, their entire mood depends on how the other person responds to them. They are so attuned to other people's emotions that they can notice the slightest change in someone's Behavior.
The funny thing is when you start feeling happy alone, that's when everyone decides to be with you.
Attachment binds us, detachment frees us. But in the quest for detachment, we risk losing sight of our own worth.
We forget that we are special too, diminishing our essence in the shadow of others. Balance is key: nurturing connections without sacrificing our individuality. Remembering our uniqueness ensures healthy relationships and a fulfilled self.
In the dance of love and care, it's strange how swiftly people replace you, despite claiming affection's vow.
THE REAL REASON WHY
YOU'RE SAD?
you're attached to people who have been on/off with you. you're paying attention to people who ignore you. you make time for people who are
"too busy" for you. you're too caring to people who are careless when it comes to you. let those people go.
The way I detach myself from people is by far the scariest part about me, because I can love you to death and never speak to you again.
Don't get too attached. Remember what happened last time.
PLEASE!! I've been needing a cuddle buddy🫂🧸
I can’t sleep…wanna cuddle?☹️💔
Let go. Just let go. Why can't I just let go?
why did ig let this flop
I used to not believe in the quote, "Time heals all wounds." It felt like a cop out of some bullshit, but as time goes on I realize there's truth to it.
Time heals all wounds. You'll get past your trauma, a break up, and many more. Just cherish yourself.
for everyone who thinks they will never be able to move on:
i used to think that too. you're not alone. they're not wrong when they say time heals all wounds but there is more to it.
i used to be friends with someone i talked to every single day, we were even on call at night to fall asleep. for 5 years. i was in love with her, at some point we even were together for about 2 years. we were in a long distance relationship & heavily connected through the writing rp's with our oc's. it was something very deep & personal for me, since my oc's are like my own children (i have autism, they're a part of my special interest so they are very heavily engraved into my heart & brain).
the friendship was very toxic, pretty much from the start. i isolated myself to be able to talk to her more but she usually treated me like shit. we saw each other every holiday, in summer even for a month straight. i was convinced i would never be able to live without her. i was unable to have a happy moment without her, i was so unhealthily attached. she didn't allow me to have any friends, or even spend time with my family. so she really was all my focus lay on.
i broke up with her & blocked her a few months ago. i needed a lot of support to even be able to do that. i feel so free now that she is gone. i can finally live. i got to spend time with my family, make new friends, go past the trauma she put me through (that i won't mention here but she did put me through a LOT). and even now that i feel happy without her, there are times where i feel nostalgic and miss the bond we had. or maybe i really do just miss the idea of her. the version of her i created in my head. i think that's what i was doing. taking the good feeling, longing for it to come back, and completely forgetting about the shit she put me through.
my point is, i thought nobody would understand this. i thought i was the only person on this planet who felt so attached to a person. but that's not true. many people go through that. and many people can live past it. so did i. the person i thought i couldn't live without is not in my life anymore, and i feel better than ever. my brain still wants to get back into contact with her, just to feel that feeling of nostalgia one more time. many things remind me of her and i can assure you, the constant reminders of her in things i loved almost tore me apart. but the wound healed. as more time passed, i realised that i live for myself, not for others. and the more i radiate love, the more will love come back to me.
i don't need a person in my life to feel happy. people are an additional support. additional. you live for yourself. there will be people who love you. but you have to start loving yourself. and if i manage to do that, you will manage this too
if there is anyone out there who can relate to this and needs a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen, feel free to dm me 💜
Disney, hire me as your Attachment Advisor, I will shove so many George Lucas quotes at your producers and writers, I will shove so many context-laden clips from the movies and TCW at your creatives, I will make powerpoint essays about how it's more Buddhist-aligned, not Attachment Theory-aligned, I will cite literally every time attachment has ever been discussed by Lucas AND in the show itself and show you that it's always aligned with fear, possessive feelings, and selfishness, I will do this work for you for free, I can even literally just point you to my Jedi Citations collection, DISNEY, HIRE ME AS YOUR ATTACHMENT ADVISOR, I CAN HELP YOU.
I hate that it took some folks 25 years to finally see it (and Screen Rant of all places), but THANK YOU!!!
God bless you, Ahmed Best.
i miss you but i know you don’t care about me
the greatest gift you can give yourself is release. release attachment, release resentment, release pain, release grief, release negativity. allow yourself release.
