Me Fr Lmao

Me fr lmao

foreplay is hot (required for good sex)

aftercare is hot (required for healthy play)

foreplay is hot (required for good sex)

aftercare is hot (required for healthy play)

////SUBS AND DOMS BOTH NEED AFTERCARE////

softly grinding against a lap of a flustered top is really under appreciated i think. i think kissing along a flustered tops neck is too. tops who are more vocal than the bottom, tops who just want to please the bottom so bad and be a good boy (or any preference). tops who beg to finish inside, tops who get so clingy and dig their nails into the bottoms side when close. top posts often talk about the sadistic silent types who man handle to have the authority but i think soft tops deserve just as many posts. give your top who's like this a big kiss and say how cute they are next time they're pounding into you <3 catch them off guard. make them lose their voice from overstimulation 🪴

Oh fuck it's past my bedtime, better go to bed so I'm not tired in the morning

*masturbates for the next hour and a half*

Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

Sent my boyfriend a whole list of kinky fantasies, hentai images, and the like and asked him to pick his favorites.

Bro liked all the ones where I was the sub and was okay with trying the ones where was the sub.

He lets me peg him and plays his part as a submissive, but I can tell it's not his preference, and that hurts me deeply. I personally am a switch and feel I need to be in both roles at different times to have a satisfying sex life.

Is it petty to consider ending our relationship over this? He is in every other way completely perfect for me. Treats me right, listens to my opinions, adores and respects me. We have many similarities as people and have aligning life goals.