Its Okayto Have Clumsy And Awkward Sex And Its Actually Really Common

it’s okay to have clumsy and awkward sex and it’s actually really common

the ability to laugh while you’re lying tangled and naked together bc you realize just how silly something is is really really intimate and trusting, and it’s the best feeling to be like that with someone and to be relaxed

it happens with long-term partners, it happens on hookups, and it’s rarely as bad as it’s always made out to be, except we usually think it’s bad we're told that’s not how sex is supposed to go. but that’s not true. 

it can still be passionate and intimate while being messy and clumsy, absolutely. you don’t need to “perform well.” sex isn’t a show: it’s about feeling good. sometimes it takes experimenting to figure out what feels good, and fumbles and awkward moments and laughter is all just part of it. sometimes that’s a huge part of the fun.

The radtrash on my sex work post need to be launched into space I swear

"Consent isn't for sale" except it fucking is. I would never, ever consent to ring people up FOR FREE. I would NEVER consent to standing for eight hours FOR FREE. I would NEVER consent to the majority of work I've done FOR FREE. I would never fucking consent to letting anyone talk to me the way the majority of customers and coworkers have FOR FREE. What is for sale here is my fucking consent.

I do regularly consent to fuck for free. I have fun doing it. I've had fun having sex as a hobby for a decade and a half at this point. I've been doing different forms of sex WORK since 2009. I've had sex with people I wasn't attracted to for FREE for fun! I've had sex with people I found extremely attractive for cash! But because I think differently from them, they will call me all sorts of mentally ill to justify their hatred for women acting out.

And the audacity of them to claim I don't understand CLASS ISSUES BECAUSE OF THIS when I literally am an intersex autistic woman who cannot get hired anywhere much less use the bathroom in public without worrying about clowns like them specifically assaulting me for being intersex is incredible

I haven't been able to make real money in a long time because of disabilities combined with lack of ability to advertise without every single account taken down. We only haven't lost our 300sq ft studio apartment we've been trapped in for a year and a half becayse I'm good at begging. I bought these pants last year before we lost food assistance:

But it doesn't matter if disabled people like me die from poverty so long as they get to enforce their hypercatholic brainrot on everyone about sex being the inherent evil that will destroy all women and us whores who choose it are ruining life for women everywhere

It doesn't matter that MONEY AS A BARRIER TO FOOD AND HOUSING is the exploitation, not sex workers who don't hate sex. Because even if all of sex VANISHED OVERNIGHT we would still have CAPITALISM. Slave labor still exists in the United States and is fully legal as a punishment and doesnt rely one bit on sex. Fucking stupid assholes

When hozier's "someone new" said that sex is holy and beautiful even in the context of one night stands he flipped every conservative off while still acknowledging the love associated with sex and he was so real for that

I used to think romance was a social construct, but I'm changing my view. Here's how I actually think it works

Attraction (i personally don't use the split attraction model because I experience both every time) occurs when I meet someone and they have personality traits and appearance I like

This desire makes me want to be around them, get their attention, and talk to them more

Some of what people describe as romance- like wanting to be around the person or always thinking about them, is just the biological symptoms of attraction

Yet the ways we express this and shape our relationships is shaped by social expectations for how we should act. Like the ideas of marriage, big romantic gestures, maybe even monogamy. Rings? Flowers? Dates? These things are made up.

It's like gender. Something we intrinsically feel which has been drastically shaped by society's norms.

i'm sorry i stopped giving you head for a second to tell you that i would be perfectly happy living the rest of my mortal life between your legs. i meant it.