Talking About System Stuff And Just Saying It To Someone Is So Validating. A Whole Two People Know I

Talking about system stuff and just saying it to someone is so validating. A whole two people know I have DID irl and it can be so lonely for some of us who love and care for the ppl in our life, yet they don't know that specific alter exists

THIS!

I spent so much time in severe, denail-induced breakdowns that lasted days because I thought something was wrong with me or my system because we were all having so much trouble figuring ourselves out.

One thing that helped - We realized we'd all been living as one person our whole lives. None of us had gotten the chance to even consider having an identity of our own. Ofc we had our fundamentals, but with the newfound freedom to explore our individuality - it can be amazing yet jarring and terrifying. It can feel like you're losing yourself somehow.

So yes, please let's not normalize knowing everything. It's harmful through and through.

We should probably normalize not knowing information about your system like what an alter's role is, total alter count, who is fronting, etc, since that is actually very normal.

Omg I never meet other avoidants!!

PSPSPSPSPSPS

ya girls + rylee want some mutuals

reblog and we will prpbably follow back if you are one of the following ! :

narcissistic! (Npd)

borderline! (Bpd)

a system (we're did!)

lover of cartoons

autistic

lover of toys

dependents! (Dpd)

avoidants! (Avpd)

physically disabled

toy lover!! (Mh beloved)

madoka / sailor moon fan!

south park fan (plz i promise im normal it's my special interest since i was very young!)

selfshippers :3

flag / template people or likers

fnaf fan

endos , rqs , and bigots dni!

super fun system things like not knowing really who's fronting or who you are or where or why you are-

I hate it so much when people say "I'm so ocd" like I LOST MY EYEBROWS TO OCD let's be real for a sec here-

In-system relationships can be so intimate.

Waking up together, opening the same eyes, and stretching the same limbs. Yawning in time and saying a good morning that only you who are involved can understand what it's for.

Sharing a meal, not only from the same plate, but with the same hands and the same senses. Deciding what to eat together, something that fits all of your tastes.

Curled in the same bed, in the same blankets, in the same body, drowzily mumbling about nothing and everything to each other. Joking around and feeling their sleepy laugh as if it were your own.

Living life, and inviting them to share yours and your time in it--performing your daily tasks in the unison of cofront. Seeing and hearing and feeling everything together.

Feeling them blush when you flirt or compliment them. Feeling their joy when you get them a gift, or how safe you make them feel simply when you're around them.

Enveloped in the same love, from the same brain, with the same feeling of care for each other palpable between you. Feeling the emotions you feel yourself, coming from the other person. Feeling their love for you, in the rawest, most direct possible way.