Ok Hanging Out On Reddit Is Actually A Great Idea. Someone Said They Didnt Like Henry Cavill As Geralt

ok hanging out on reddit is actually a great idea. someone said they didnt like henry cavill as geralt because witchers move "10x faster than a human", but cavill only moves at human speeds, and someone replied they were "fascinated by what actor they would suggest instead" given the limitation that all actors are human.

My dear lgbt+ kids,

If you want a conversation to keep going, you have to keep giving them something to reply to.

A (super oversimplified!) example for not doing so:

Person A: "How was your weekend?"

Person B "Good."

Person B may give such a short reply because they don't want to annoy Person A by stuffing too much info into their response or because they don't want to embarrass themselves by getting too personal right away. But short, closed-off replies like that are often seen as a sign of disinterest or even annoyance. Person A is likely to assume that Person B doesn't want to talk more about their weekend (or even that they do not want to talk to them at all) and won't ask further questions.

This type of reply cuts off the flow of the conversation. Many people make the (subconscious) assumption "Well, if Person A really cares about me, they will keep asking". But from Person A's point of view, asking more questions after a closed-off reply likely seems like prying, like crossing a boundary and bothering Person B with unwanted conversation - which they avoid because they care about Person B!

You may think now "Yeah, makes sense but I don't want to launch into a huge monologue and embarrass myself! What if I give a detailed answer and it turns out they just wanted some quick small-talk?" Those are good points - a detailed description of everything you did over the weekend would not always be the appropriate answer, either (and if your natural response tends to be on the shorter side, you wouldn't feel comfortable doing that anyway, so that'd be useless advice).

So, what to do instead? The important part is to open up your reply. It can still be short - just try to put in one little thing Person A can reply to.

This can be as direct as a question:

Person A: "How was your weekend?"

Person B "Good, thankyou. How was yours?"

Or it can be a statement they can reply to:

Person A: "How was your weekend?"

Person B "Good, I went to the beach!"

As you see in these (again, very oversimplified) examples, you don't need to give a long speech or put in lots of private details. You don't force Person A to do so, either. You just give them something to reply to if they want to do so. They can choose to deepen the conversation by telling you details about their weekend now or asking about your beach trip - and if they really just wanted to exchange some pleasant small-talk, they can go that route and give a shorter, more superficial answer.

In either case, you signaled interest in a conversation by giving an open reply and are likely to leave a positive impression on them!

With all my love,

Your Tumblr Dad

T H I S

I feel that in the studyblr community nobody actively talks about the study environment some of us have, so shoutout to those students that:

• live with their parents (not everyone goes to college/uni where they have dorms, and even then, not everyone can afford it)

• have to deal with parents/family members constantly arguing in the background

• work / have to worry heavily about just getting by (paying rent, groceries, medication)

• need loud music to study and drown outside noises

• can not "study prettily" at coffee shops

• take care of other family members, and thus have to be ready to drop whaterever they are doing to assist them at any time

• can not concentrate or get "in the zone" no matter what they do

• do not have a personal computer/tablet

• do not have a room of their own

• are neurodivergent and the advice of most study masterpost/tips is not applicable.

You are valid, you are seen, you are not alone. If nobody has told you already: if you are trying the best you can then the best you can is good enough.

sincerely, a student who needed to hear this.

small dick jokes are shitty and you should feel shitty

fyi the point of fucking up your data patterns isnt to avoid suspicion. it’s to make EVERYONE suspicious. same logic as the bloc, pals.  protect your comrades, be suspicious. ESPECIALLY if you aren’t doing anything likely to get you arrested.

Video essays that make me go "oh, so you're like smart smart"

Elon Musk and Grimes: A Retrospective

Bo Burnham vs. Jeff Bezos

The Systemic Abuse of Celebrities

Lana Del Rey: the pitfalls of having a persona

we need to talk about Call Me By Your Name

MYTH OF THE AUTEUR: Stanley Kubrick vs David Lynch

In Search Of A Flat Earth

Envy

The Commodification of Black Athletes

The Lies Of The Lighthouse

The Green Knight: The Uncanny Horror of Masculinity

Max Payne, Kane & Lynch, and the Meaning of Ugly Games

Time Loop Nihilism

How Bisexuality Changed Video Games

The Golden Age of Horror Comics - Part 1 (Part 2)

Weighing the Value of Director's Cuts | Scanline

The True Horror Of Midsommar

a few more -

You're Wrong About Cyberpunk 2077 | An Overdue Critique (this is such great critique of both the game and the genre)

Disney's Fast Pass: A Complicated History

It Has Come To My Attention You Don't All Love BIRDS OF PREY

Adaptation.

The man who almost faked his way to a Nobel Prize

Music Theory and White Supremacy

Here's the YouTube playlist! ill be adding more but that's all so far pls like and reblog xoxo 💕