Literally If Youre New To Tumblr: Reblog Shit

literally if you’re new to tumblr: reblog shit

“it wont fit my aesthetic” make a sideblog. reblog to it.

“i hate tagging” don’t tag then. reblog it anyway.

“but my likes are public” ppl here dont fucking look at your likes. they dont do anything anyway. reblog it.

“you just want attention” jokes on you, I dont make shit anymore. I’m talking about other artists.

“it’s embarrassing” tumblr is an anonymous platform. make a sideblog if you’re too cowardly

“but on twitter its fine to have lurk accounts” well they suck ass here and are assumed to be bots. reblog.

Day 2 and 3

What does your url mean...

I am fully aware that it’s not leviOsa  spelled with “un”. It’s not perfect in it’s imperfection and honestly, that’s what I am aiming for with that url... Sometimes my notes a beautiful mess and sometimes they are just a mess! Hell, sometimes I am a mess. University life is... Well, it's adult life. Never expected it to be easy, but it's coming together. Still looking for a job and it kind of sucks. Gotta love those entry level jobs that want like 5 years of experience, driving license and 3 references, am i rite?

I wish I could wear cute skirt and a white shirt, but how do you do that if you need to clean the house before leaving? How do you go to coffee shops and not starve later, bc... y’know... money? How do you get into "a zone" if there is a person who needs you and who needs a dinner? I wish I could be a cute distaster in a messy bun and wearing an oversized sweater, but honestly - not within my reach.

...and why did you start your studyblr?

I want people to remember that if you study and work and need to care for another person, you are still VALID. If you do this, while being an anxiety filled mess, you are still VALID. Hell, even if your grades aren't great, you are still VALID. If your notes aren’t cute, if you scribble on your papers, if you cross out words instead of using correction tape. It's alright. You are doing your best, your work is just as valuable. It took me so long to feel like I belong with community living... The Life™. I eventually realized that my notes just won’t be perfect and it’s alright. They need to be good enough. And I feel like people need to hear this.

My desk is just not big enough to fit in a notebook and a laptop at the same time. My laptop itself is dying during video-calls bc of the processor. My house is fucking cold, because we can't afford heating and i’m seating curled up under a blanket. My back hurts. I will be able to afford stationary i want in the future life (altho yellow highlighter is kind of a vibe???), maybe, but for now I am struggling to afford a bus ticket. They lost my student ID and i don’t know when will it come to me. I had to pay 5 pounds for a T-shirt I didn’t like. And then I came home and studied hard, because honestly - if shit can’t be perfect, it can at least be good enough.

PS. One of my new friends offered to give me a few of his colorful gel pens and honestly - I aspire to be this level of kind <3

Video essays that make me go "oh, so you're like smart smart"

Elon Musk and Grimes: A Retrospective

Bo Burnham vs. Jeff Bezos

The Systemic Abuse of Celebrities

Lana Del Rey: the pitfalls of having a persona

we need to talk about Call Me By Your Name

MYTH OF THE AUTEUR: Stanley Kubrick vs David Lynch

In Search Of A Flat Earth

Envy

The Commodification of Black Athletes

The Lies Of The Lighthouse

The Green Knight: The Uncanny Horror of Masculinity

Max Payne, Kane & Lynch, and the Meaning of Ugly Games

Time Loop Nihilism

How Bisexuality Changed Video Games

The Golden Age of Horror Comics - Part 1 (Part 2)

Weighing the Value of Director's Cuts | Scanline

The True Horror Of Midsommar

a few more -

You're Wrong About Cyberpunk 2077 | An Overdue Critique (this is such great critique of both the game and the genre)

Disney's Fast Pass: A Complicated History

It Has Come To My Attention You Don't All Love BIRDS OF PREY

Adaptation.

The man who almost faked his way to a Nobel Prize

Music Theory and White Supremacy

Here's the YouTube playlist! ill be adding more but that's all so far pls like and reblog xoxo 💕

My dear lgbt+ kids,

If you want a conversation to keep going, you have to keep giving them something to reply to.

A (super oversimplified!) example for not doing so:

Person A: "How was your weekend?"

Person B "Good."

Person B may give such a short reply because they don't want to annoy Person A by stuffing too much info into their response or because they don't want to embarrass themselves by getting too personal right away. But short, closed-off replies like that are often seen as a sign of disinterest or even annoyance. Person A is likely to assume that Person B doesn't want to talk more about their weekend (or even that they do not want to talk to them at all) and won't ask further questions.

This type of reply cuts off the flow of the conversation. Many people make the (subconscious) assumption "Well, if Person A really cares about me, they will keep asking". But from Person A's point of view, asking more questions after a closed-off reply likely seems like prying, like crossing a boundary and bothering Person B with unwanted conversation - which they avoid because they care about Person B!

You may think now "Yeah, makes sense but I don't want to launch into a huge monologue and embarrass myself! What if I give a detailed answer and it turns out they just wanted some quick small-talk?" Those are good points - a detailed description of everything you did over the weekend would not always be the appropriate answer, either (and if your natural response tends to be on the shorter side, you wouldn't feel comfortable doing that anyway, so that'd be useless advice).

So, what to do instead? The important part is to open up your reply. It can still be short - just try to put in one little thing Person A can reply to.

This can be as direct as a question:

Person A: "How was your weekend?"

Person B "Good, thankyou. How was yours?"

Or it can be a statement they can reply to:

Person A: "How was your weekend?"

Person B "Good, I went to the beach!"

As you see in these (again, very oversimplified) examples, you don't need to give a long speech or put in lots of private details. You don't force Person A to do so, either. You just give them something to reply to if they want to do so. They can choose to deepen the conversation by telling you details about their weekend now or asking about your beach trip - and if they really just wanted to exchange some pleasant small-talk, they can go that route and give a shorter, more superficial answer.

In either case, you signaled interest in a conversation by giving an open reply and are likely to leave a positive impression on them!

With all my love,

Your Tumblr Dad

Day 4 and 5 and 6, and i don’t even know anymore

Let’s get this shit started, shall we? Three days at the time, to procrastinate on recommended reading... But it will be worth it <3 Days 4-6 for the challenge of @myhoneststudyblr

Y’all know those stories about golden children that starting failing at uni? I am an overachiever who just realized that if I am going to survive till next year - there is no way I can overachieve if I want to also: a) have enough money to sustain myself b) not eat trash and live in a trash pile c) not die at 18 due to sleeping 3 hours a day.

On the bright side - I cleaned the bathroom. I picked up my gown from the campus (i am pretty sure I am studying at modern Hogwarts tho?) and I also got a job! I am excited. As much as it seems like something you say to please your boss - this is my favourite grocery shop ever. I could DIE for that shop. They let me buy like 4-5 days worth of food for 2 people for 14 pounds.

How long have you had a studyblr?

... it will be like, my 9th day now.

Have you ever done a challenge before?

I am not much of a challenge person. My brain just resonates with “well, you gotta”, so if I decide that I am getting up at 6 am every day, then I just... will. The thing is, life sneaks through the backdoor, so Tumblr challenges are far from my priority. They are fun though, I think I did like one or two when I was younger ;)

Why did you decide to do this challenge and what is your goal?

Honestly, I am here to empower all of the folks that also get up at 6 am, do their lectures, prepare dinner, do their seminars, clean the hourse, do their readings, attend bussinesses and then still find time to be their own person.

I wanna show to the world and to myself that it’s attainable. And that it doesn’t have to be a fight for perfection. I will probably slip more times that imaginable and that’s okay. I think we need such realistic outlook on studying and bettering yourself. It surely would have helped me a lot ;)

Also, I hope it will make me more consistent. I do study everyday, so we are off for a good start.

For people who haven’t heard: this month, the DSM (diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders) are planning on updating the criteria for getting an autism diagnosis. On paper, this sounds like a good thing. It’s not.

The DSM is the handbook used by healthcare workers worldwide, for diagnosing mental disorders and the like. You may have read that the autistic diagnosis criteria is getting updated and, like many in the autistic community, hoped that this meant that it would be expanded, to make it easier for AFAB, transgender, and non-white people to be diagnosed (as it is notoriously hard for anyone except for white, cisgender men to obtain an autism diagnosis). However, they recently released a statement saying that they were not expanding the criteria, but were instead making it more ‘conservative’, as they feel autism is being ‘over-diagnosed’. (Which is, of course, bullshit for a whole plethora of reasons which I’m sure you’ve heard before.)

As-of my posting this, they have not released the official, updated criteria yet, so there is not much we can do right now. But there is one thing that we must agree upon: DO NOT SHAME PEOPLE FOR SELF-DIAGNOSING WITH AUTISM. Because obtaining an autism diagnosis is, quite literally, only getting harder.