Heyy! Are You Up For Another MBIT Analysis For Kuroo In A Relationship? Your Oikawa One Was Amazing

Heyy! Are you up for another MBIT analysis for Kuroo in a relationship? Your Oikawa one was amazing 👌🏼

I had to research again with this because I was mainly looking at Oikawa before but luckily, there's enough similarity between him and Kuroo plus Kuroo and my own type for me to work with. So... once again, disclaimer, I'm a baby learner.

— Never have to worry about the relationship staying stagnant with an ENTP, these are the ones who always looking for changes and improvement within the space of your own relationship. Kuroo is one hundred percentage enthusiastic about whatever future changes coming your way, as long as you're ready to go along for the ride.

— It's a struggle to know if this bedhead is interested with you or not because he's naturally friendly and charming to everyone. Kuroo can flirt like it's second language but when it comes to someone he actually likes, he's tongue-tied. All of his smooth lines suddenly become goo goo ga ga. If Kuroo is interested in you, well first he will commit existential dread because he can't compute that he's catching feelings.

— Depends on your current relationship status, his reaction will vary. But if you're a friend, then notice that Kuroo is even goofier than normal around you. He wants to make you smile but also because making jokes is the only want he knows how to suppress his feelings. Whenever he can, he will try to spend time with you but in an awkward, oops I have a crush on you, way. It's pretty adorable.

— This also extends to him always including you in a group settings as well, Kuroo will go out of his way to talk to you if he saw you unoccupied by the conversation. If anyone also makes you laugh, he's suddenly feeling jealous and queasy, it annoys him and that's kind of pathetic but oh well. Expects him to tease you more because of this as well, he wants to look charming and clever in your eyes, please throw him a bone.

— He's also suddenly very helpful? Like extra helpful, you don't even have to carry anything when you're going out with him. He just wants to impress you. Ooh, he's also never mean to you, ever, and try his best to be nicer to you than the rest. Sure, you're not spared from his teasing but him making fun of you is always obvious that he's playing. Also, much more physically affectionate, mostly in the cute ways like throwing an arm around you, giving you his hand to hold, patting you, etc.

— He might seem laid-back and chill once in the relationship, but make no mistake, he's committed to you and loyal to the end. The only problem coming along with dating him would be the possibility of him growing bored of the relationship. This is because ENTP often searches for new entertainment and stimulant, if the relationship does not grow or develop, they'd feel dull and tired.

— This is one I would think that has many experiences with past relationships. As said before, this boy is loyal, but if he can't see him and his significant others staying on the same wavelength in the long run, then he would break it off before further damage. He's really good about handling the breakup, too, he's charming, nice, and manages to ease off the pain.

— He also stands at the other side of a fair share of break-ups, mostly because Kuroo can get caught up in unreasonable places. He chases after big ideas, plans, then struggles to actually go through with it in the end. Also, he's kind of... annoying, really. He sometimes riles his significant other up sometimes to debate with them, mostly him wandering into an argument as a by-product of his natural way of discussion. It's mostly about insignificant things, never to the point of an actual argument.

— ENTP are debaters, you cannot take it out of them, which makes them vexing for others who desire harmonious experience in a relationship. Kuroo would want someone who can actively throw better comebacks at him and push him to be better. As mentioned before, excitement and improvement.

— An upside to this is that Kuroo won't linger on an argument or a breakup for too. If it's an argument, then depends on the severity of it, he'd try to deal with it quickly whether who's on the wrong. If it's a breakup, he's also quick on the recovery and can even stay friends with his exes. However, he's not likely to get back with them, especially if the reason to break up was valid in the first place.

— Okay, I've talked a lot about his downsides, let's talk about his positive traits. He's actually someone with a developed Fe, which basically means he's much more receptive to the emotions of others than the standard ENTP. This mitigates the worry about him being unintentionally insensitive, he actually can see when his provocation upsets you and ceases his teasing when you get mad at him.

— He also acknowledges when he's in the wrong, so honestly, win-win.

— If anything, your boy is endearing, he will give you ideas and place adventures into your mind. Always attentive to whatever your needs are because he wants to improve and get involved as a boyfriend. He's spontaneous and that can be either good or bad, depends on if you can match his energy level.

— Sometimes his ideas are horrendous, and you still want to support him anyway because he's just so excited about this. Other times, it's actually interesting to listen to him share his newest passion. His enthusiasm can be infectious and you might get dragged along with him, so it would help for you to ground him from time to time. He’d be notorious for starting things that he doesn’t go through with, so someone to keep him consistent would be wonderful.

— He's a weirdo, have you ever seen him... okay, back to the point, these ones are the ones who will have fun with you and lead you to the next big things. He's humorous, doesn't take himself too seriously, fun-loving. Because of his natural charming personality, you bet your hind side that your boy will manage to make friends almost everywhere he goes.

Letting go - Chapter 259

One thing this chapter makes me think about a lot is, what does "letting go" really mean? Is it something to absolutely aim for? and where does Hak position himself in relation to it today?

Hak is worried above all about the dragons right now, but we know well that he's also making a reference to his experience with Soo-won here. After all, even if Zeno did talk about forgetting them, he never said anything about "letting go" specifically. To let go is however very much something he said word for word about Soo-won in the past (chapter 153). If it wasn't already obvious enough, Hak in his turn makes the parallel between what happened with Soo-won and what is happening now with Zeno.

The end of chapter 153 hinted that even if Hak hasn't reached the point where he can let go of Soo-won yet, this is something that will eventually happen down the road thanks to Yona. And how can we not wish it for him? He suffers from it, it makes him angry, depressed, frustrated, it makes him grieve. Hak has always struggled from Soo-won's betrayal, he first tried to repress the feelings, then started walking a long road of trying to reconnect with and make sense of them, the present and their past together. He was slowly healing, he started being content with having a role in the sky tribe as long as the Yona and the hhb were with him. It was all for the best, everyone was walking in the same direction.

And then chapter 243 happened.

To be honest, when I read chapter 259 I couldn't help but have mixed feelings about this. After all, chapter 243 happened just one year ago, and this chapter devastated me like no story had ever before. This past year I thought hard about chapter 243, I tried to make sense of it in multiple ways and get over the devastation it made me go through. I also needed time, a lot of discussions with friends and the distance to see that yes, it is a chapter where both Soo-won and Hak are at their worst emotionally, and they both give up (among many other things but this isn't a ch243 post) but it won't be the end, it's them both failing to get out of this maze. But I just couldn't accept it. I felt angry. That Hak simply accepted how Soo-won, in a way, pushes him away again and the fact Soo-won will die, be replaced, and there is no hope for him. That he didn't contradict Soo-won saying the country will be fine without him, that this is their goodbye and it's over for them. That Hak will forget what they shared in chapter 61. That Hak is letting go and moving on.

So technically speaking I should be more than happy with chapter 259 and Hak saying he sucks at forgetting and letting go! But well, I got fond of chapter 243 with time. I spent so much time thinking and discussing about it, to engage with it, to question every line and to give them a meaning that slowly started to make more and more sense to me. It became precious to me. Yes I'm this dramatic over a single manga chapter but you have to understand the degree of emotional turmoil it made me go through, it was that bad! Anyway,

So when I read chapter 259, while I feel validated and relieved, I can't also can't help but think "But then, what was chapter 243 for?" What did it change in Soo-won and Hak's relationship? Does it not matter at all anymore because anyway Hak said sike and he actually just can't forget and let go? I can't accept this either. And I don't think that's the case.

And in a way, Hak did let go. But forgetting his dream of walking side by side with Soowon as his equal, on the same path, is different than forgetting Soowon whatsoever. Hak decides he won't remember it anymore and takes a different path. But what does it entail? What does he keep and embrace and what did he let go?

The vow of 10 years that tied Soo-won to the people following him, and the vow of 10 years that tied Hak to him. The formers cling to it, not taking into consideration Soo-won's true self and his ability to change. It chains him. It forces him to act not as his real self, but as the ideal image they project on him. They don't respect what the real Soowon wants, they try to make him the Soo-won that /they/ want. Soo-won changed from 10 years ago and corresponds to neither their ideal, neither Hak's. That's why it was so violent for Hak in 243. Hak couldn't see Soo-won's own circumstances, experience and current struggles and even less accept them. But in chapter 251, Hak doesn't let this vow chain them anymore, and in a way, that helped him gain confidence in the entirety of their history together instead of clinging into one aspect of it, no matter how precious it is to him. So I believe Hak needed chapter 243 to realize he was again projecting on Soo-won, and he needed to part ways to put things into perspective right now with the Zeno plot, so for that it's a good thing.

Still, when I put chapter 243 and 259 together, when Hak said he would forget his past vow to Soo-won and that there was no need to remember it anymore, I still think it was also him giving up, not having the strength to fight back because yeah, what can Hak or Soo-won even do about the Crimson Illness? Soo-won himself is convinced he will die, that he will be replaced and things will be perfectly fine without him, and so that he has to let go of Yona and Hak because what they want is the dragons, not him. He's not completely wrong, but this is not taking into account that both of them still care for Soo-won and want him to be there. That it's not about being replaceable or not, that they can care for the dragons and still want Soo-won to live for no other reason than because he is Soo-won. This is something Hak and Soo-won have both been struggling with since they said goodbye, and they are still coming to term in their own pace that they actually don't want things to end there.

Hak let go of his vow of walking by his side as his equal, but he still cares, he still can't forget, and he needed Yona to put it simply into words for him. It's okay to still feel conflicted, to carry contradictory feelings. What is undoubtely there is he wants him to live and to be there. That even apart, even when his priority is saving his friends and protecting Yona, Soo-won is still a part of him and he can't just erase him from his life. And it's fine. I don't think he should have to if ultimately putting things with Soo-won behind him, letting him go, hurts him so much. He deals with things differently than Yona and he doesn't have to do the same as her if that's not what is good to him. Yona shows that even after letting go of the hairpin, it still doesn't mean she can't think of Soo-won and wish for him to live. Letting go isn't erasing someone's existence from your life, it can just be taking a different path without tearing the bond apart.

But what this all makes me think about is, maybe letting go, in the sense of completely putting things behind them, is precisely the problem with Soo-won and Zeno. They're too good at it. We know they struggle to do it completely and honestly, but they are much better at killing their feelings than Hak, and they're able to at least act and pretend as if they were really letting go. What is so similar between Soo-won and Zeno besides betraying Yona and Hak to accomplish their respective goal and their tendency to hide their most unpleasant feelings, is that they are driven by the conviction that they have no other choice. Why does Soo-won discard people, his soldiers, prisoners, his friends? Because he doesn't believe in a path where he can keep them that wouldn't compromise the rest of the country. Before the coup, despite how much he longed for it, Soo-won couldn't believe a future with Yona and Hak by his side would ever be possible. So he gave up this dream, he acted with this fact in mind, he didn't try to pursue it. A self fulfilling prophecy. Chapter 243 was the same. And Zeno now is exactly the same as well. He doesn't believe in any other solution he could come up with together with Yona. He does what he does because if he doesn't, he is convinced he won't have another chance to be free and to end the cycle. Soo-won pretended the one they knew never existed, while Zeno pretends he already forgot them and that they should do the same.

They push them away, they tell themselves that Hak will protect Yona anyway and they will be fine without them. They let go, put an end to their bonds themselves in an (probably unconscious) attempt to have some agency on the end rather than to wait to be left behind.

But Yona's grip is strong, and despite everything Hak sucks at letting go. For their friends and for Soo-won and anyone on their path. And maybe it is important too to not let go. To be stubborn and selfish about it. To not leave anyone behind, to not avert your eyes from those in the shadows. Maybe "to let go" isn't something to wish for as an absolute solution to grief. Maybe letting go just brings more pain sometimes and is the killer of trying to fight for a better solution. Maybe there is worth in keeping what is precious to you close to your chest and fighting for it against all odds.

Honestly, as I write this I am not even sure of the answer. Zeno does deserve rest and to be allowed to go. And I can't tell if Hak will let go of Soo-won for good in the end. There is definitely a lot of good out of letting people and things go sometimes, even in Hak's case. It gives him the space to explore his feelings and come to term with them, and I don't expect him to live his life with anyone but the HHB. But all I feel is, surely, there is a better way to say goodbye. A way to say goodbye not out of resignation and despair. A way for them to listen to their hearts and be honest with their feelings. So I can only wait and keep faith for it, as I watch the characters slowly but surely try to change their fate and not submit to it.

Social life affirmations 🦋🪩

(part 1 : social butterfly)

I have a bubbly, fun, outgoing extrovert personality.

I am the embodiment of a social butterfly.

Everyone admires my bubbly energy.

I am so talkative and I love talking.

I always let my personality shine.

I have such a good reputation.

I have great social skills and I can socialize with others easily.

I always have interesting things to say in any conversation.

I always have the right thing to say at the right time.

I'm a great listener.

I radiate positive energy everywhere I go.

People enjoy conversations with me.

I can keep any conversation going for hours.

All my conversations go fully smooth and fun.

I always have the best arguments ever.

Arguing is a child's play for me.

I effortlessly build fulfilling and harmonious friendships.

I always attract true, supportive and kind friends

I always have the time and the opportunity to go out with my friends frequently.

I always get invited to so many interesting social events.

I always go on cool adventures with my friends and create great memories.

Confidence is my middle name.

I am so confident in everything I do.

I am excellent at public speaking.

I have a beautiful clear voice and pronunciation.

People love to hear me speak.

I can be a magnet of fame whenever I desire.

It's so easy for me to become popular if i want to.

I have my desired number of followers on my desired social media account.

I am grateful

@venuslilgirl...🩷🌷

babes wake up, official kuroo hair-down art is released 😱😱

hehe he’s so cute

random boyfriend hcs for my favorite haikyuu boy because i would do literally anything for this man

what dating kuroo is like ♡

→ loves getting into arguments about meaningless things with you (is a hot dog is a sandwich? he thinks yes)

→ and really likes pulling at your hair when you’re not paying attention to him, like an elementary schooler who has a crush 

→ kuroo just enjoys seeing you get riled up because of him, and he thinks your reactions to him – like rolling your eyes or scowling at him – are really hot

→ you often catch him looking at you with the softest smile, especially when he sees you talking to his friends and getting along well with them

→ other people notice, too, but kuroo thinks people calling him a simp is a compliment

→ he has a habit of saying “i love you” whenever you two say goodbye to each other or end phone calls, which has resulted in him accidentally saying “i love you” to friends and teachers multiple times

→ will do anything to make you laugh!! he’s not afraid of embarrassing himself as long as it makes you crack a smile

→ if you’re shorter than him and walking down the stairs, he likes when you stand a step or two so you’re taller than he is and then bend down to kiss him

→ loves telling you about dreams he has, but he also gets embarrassed because a lot of them involve you

→ he secretly thinks you’re way out of his league, so dating you is like a dream come true. had to pinch himself on your first date together because he wasn’t sure if this was real life

→ kuroo hides his phone screen whenever he’s texting you because he wants your conversations to be just for the two of you

→ and if you send him a suggestive picture or text, he will drop everything and go to wherever you are immediately

→ he doesn’t actually know how to flirt, and if you say anything remotely flirty to him, he’ll go beet-red and just stutter for a few seconds. he’s not nearly as suave as he thinks he is lmao

→ likes to kiss your neck and make his way down to the rest of your body, too

→ also loves coming up to you from behind and resting his chin on your shoulder or the top of your head (!) kisses on the top of your head are very common

→ insists on giving you his jacket if he notices you shiver, even if it’s hot outside

→ the first time he sees you wearing his shirt, you can see him having a meltdown

→ 100% boyfriend material, and it’s obvious how much he’s in love with you <3

kuroo is the “have you drank any water today yet?” bf