The Level Of Respect And Understanding Of Boundaries And The True Meaning Of Consent Being Shown In This

The level of respect and understanding of boundaries and the true meaning of consent being shown in this show (so far) really makes me so happy.

We often see consent depictions in shows solely focusing mainly on sex but it applies to so many more aspects too, about your autonomy and what you decide is okay to happen to you in any setting, not just a sexual one. And we see this shown perfectly in episode 3 when Win accidentally walks in on Team showering. Just because previously Team has consented to his body being seen before doesn’t mean it applies always - this is a completely different and separate time. He wasn’t prepared or expecting to be seen and based on the reaction doesn’t want to be seen - he hasn’t consented to it. Win isn’t entitled to seeing Team’s body just because he has previously and I love that he gets that. Win perfectly understanding that, quickly and immediately apologising, leaving, and letting Team have his space, control, and privacy back. He respects Team both as a person and also his choices, needs and boundaries. This is the representation I love to see.

Just because there’s consent to one thing it doesn’t provide a blanket consent for everything. Past consent doesn’t mean future consent. Consent can change and be revoked at any time. It’s so refreshing to see it shown outside of a sexual moment too.

The changes in the kisses across the first three episodes of Between Us. Win starts with passion but Team starts so shy and so soft and the way they each love and care and Win is passion and seeking while Team is reluctance, in need of teasing and gentle nudges, how each of them wants and chooses this again and again but also what they share... a mutual need, a mutual want, a mutual love that they are building in their cracks, shoring up the other's faults, finding the places that they are strong when the other is not.

Win is flames and passion and need and Team responds to that so strongly but Team starts smaller, starts sweeter and Win cannot resist even the lightest peck from him.

So far, the show has focused on Team's struggles but Win is there as well, Win who has never had anything of his own and does not know how to hold onto things, Win who has always been the middle child given leftovers and giving everything away when he outgrows, Win who wants to hold Team like the most precious thing but does not how to hold on.

Team knows how to need and to hold but he cannot fight his own fear while Win knows how to face fear head on and how to comfort but he does not know how to keep anything.

Round of applause for Fort Thitipong

This might be my last LITA Post (I want to CRY) but I wanted to take the time to point out how GREAT of an actor Fort Thitipong is.

With how versatile Fort was he rarely took me out of a scene or had a facial expression that did not match the situation. There’s always room for improvement, but for his first series as a main lead, I HAVE to give it to him.

So here are 5 of my favorite acting moments for Fort in no particular order

1. Angry Prapai when Sky worries him

No but look at his face, this man was ANGRY, FLABBERGASTED, HURT, and so much more. You can tell he wanted to CUSS Sky OUT but also wanted to properly address sky’s actions. It was this scene that confirmed to me that Fort was definitely going to EAT his role up!!

2. Prapai beating the shit out of Gun

I already made a post on it, but FORT’S PUNCHES WERE REALISTIC! It’s rare that we see punches in media that look like savage beatings which are what some fights look like in reality. This mainly happens when someone falls down. As people who commented on my post said, he was using “hammer fists” to just repeatedly pummel Gun, no regular ass person squares up like Mike Tyson😭. Thank you Fort and the director for not trying to give us professional MMA Fighter moves LMFAOO.

3. Emotional Prapai when Sky tries to cut him off

Still can’t believe Sky really tried that😭. But when fort/prapai said “so you pick up the phone when it’s not my number” and “do you realize what you’re saying?!” I could feel his emotions. He was so hurt and the way he gripped the phone to calm himself down….Fort delivered

4. Bathtub special episode Prapai

Had a hard time choosing between this scene and the seaside almost proposal (?) cuz both were so captivating. I don’t know if it’s the mixture of Forts acting and the cinematography, but every scene he had in the special was amazing. This bathtub scene in particular because the conversation, the way he physically reacted to Sky, THE EYE CONTACT. You could tell he was intently listening to sky based on the changes in facial expression and the eye contact.

5. King of Breaking and entering

This is the scene that had the girls SOBBING, and by the girls…I mean me💀There were so many emotions Fort conveyed while he was reading that diary, I was on the EDGE of my seat. Definitely in the top 5 moments in the entire show.

Often times we focus on Forts golden retriever like expressions, but we should also appreciate him for being able to portray different feelings with his eyes. That’s something some of my favorite BL actors have in common, they act with their eyes (which is definitely not an easy task). These are of course not all of Forts best moments but if I kept going it would be too long.

Gonna miss him and LITA

honestly love the Goncharov posts today. We are playing a massive game of pretend. We are on the playground running around yelling "pretend I'm Al Pachino! Pew pew! I got you Goncharov!" and drawing pictures as we keep adding to a collective mythos. It makes me feel optimistic about the world, somehow. May your paths in the streets of Naples be clear of snow.

ETA: I'm sorry I'm just super emotional about this right now. This isn't a "hallucination" this is people, connected only by screens and words and pictures, building a film that does not exist. We are playing and creating and "yes and"ing, spinning a wild game of Telephone into a grand feat of imagination... I don't know, it's just got this feeling of profundity to it.

my girl manow just congratulating pruk on dating her😂😂😂😂

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