theanalyticsofkindness - The Analytics of Kindness
The Analytics of Kindness

Avatars: Lois and Clark, and Dove

320 posts

In 1984, When Ruth Coker Burks Was 25 And A Young Mother Living In Arkansas, She Would Often Visit A

“In 1984, when Ruth Coker Burks was 25 and a young mother living in Arkansas, she would often visit a hospital to care for a friend with cancer.

In 1984, When Ruth Coker Burks Was 25 And A Young Mother Living In Arkansas, She Would Often Visit A

During one visit, Ruth noticed the nurses would draw straws, afraid to go into one room, its door sealed by a big red bag. She asked why and the nurses told her the patient had AIDS.

On a repeat visit, and seeing the big red bag on the door, Ruth decided to disregard the warnings and sneaked into the room.

In the bed was a skeletal young man, who told Ruth he wanted to see his mother before he died. She left the room and told the nurses, who said, "Honey, his mother’s not coming. He’s been here six weeks. Nobody’s coming!”

Ruth called his mother anyway, who refused to come visit her son, who she described as a "sinner" and already dead to her, and that she wouldn't even claim his body when he died.

“I went back in his room and when I walked in, he said, "Oh, momma. I knew you’d come", and then he lifted his hand. And what was I going to do? So I took his hand. I said, "I’m here, honey. I’m here”, Ruth later recounted.

Ruth pulled a chair to his bedside, talked to him

and held his hand until he died 13 hours later.

After finally finding a funeral home that would his body, and paying for the cremation out of her own savings, Ruth buried his ashes on her family's large plot.

After this first encounter, Ruth cared for other patients. She would take them to appointments, obtain medications, apply for assistance, and even kept supplies of AIDS medications on hand, as some pharmacies would not carry them.

Ruth’s work soon became well known in the city and she received financial assistance from gay bars, "They would twirl up a drag show on Saturday night and here'd come the money. That's how we'd buy medicine, that's how we'd pay rent. If it hadn't been for the drag queens, I don't know what we would have done", Ruth said.

Over the next 30 years, Ruth cared for over 1,000 people and buried more than 40 on her family's plot most of whom were gay men whose families would not claim their ashes.

For this, Ruth has been nicknamed the 'Cemetery Angel'.”— by Ra-Ey Saley

  • imaginationcornerstuff-blog
    imaginationcornerstuff-blog liked this · 9 months ago
  • navy67goat-blog
    navy67goat-blog liked this · 9 months ago
  • elizeshiro
    elizeshiro reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • creepydeeps
    creepydeeps reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • squidarts
    squidarts reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • resident-nickname-collector
    resident-nickname-collector reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • hiihavebrainrot
    hiihavebrainrot reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • gello-strands
    gello-strands reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • gello-strands
    gello-strands liked this · 10 months ago
  • prinnamon
    prinnamon liked this · 10 months ago
  • gumbuk9
    gumbuk9 liked this · 10 months ago
  • kreetzel
    kreetzel reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • meepingpenguins
    meepingpenguins reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • wabbiteee
    wabbiteee reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • legendfinder
    legendfinder reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • virtualfisherman
    virtualfisherman reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • lintwriting
    lintwriting reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • eggie-o
    eggie-o liked this · 10 months ago
  • hyggehooligan
    hyggehooligan reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • celestialautifutch
    celestialautifutch reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • iste1971984
    iste1971984 liked this · 10 months ago
  • blastoffresearch
    blastoffresearch liked this · 10 months ago
  • afacetomeetthefaces
    afacetomeetthefaces reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • thesingingone
    thesingingone reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • saintgratia
    saintgratia reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • citrineocean
    citrineocean reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • stargazerintraining
    stargazerintraining reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • chimaeray
    chimaeray reblogged this · 10 months ago
  • fellty
    fellty liked this · 10 months ago
  • phuongcmg
    phuongcmg liked this · 10 months ago
  • bookworm85blr
    bookworm85blr liked this · 10 months ago
  • belphegor1982
    belphegor1982 liked this · 11 months ago
  • familyofpaladins
    familyofpaladins liked this · 11 months ago
  • alexfeelyx
    alexfeelyx reblogged this · 11 months ago
  • trisockatops
    trisockatops reblogged this · 11 months ago
  • kuh-boose
    kuh-boose liked this · 11 months ago
  • dawntreaderflynne
    dawntreaderflynne reblogged this · 11 months ago
  • blueroses96
    blueroses96 liked this · 11 months ago
  • mimeparadox
    mimeparadox reblogged this · 11 months ago
  • theorlyfactor
    theorlyfactor reblogged this · 11 months ago
  • gillipop-plus
    gillipop-plus reblogged this · 11 months ago
  • lynn-227
    lynn-227 reblogged this · 11 months ago
  • hist490
    hist490 reblogged this · 11 months ago
  • vidamorgan
    vidamorgan liked this · 11 months ago
  • noenergyavaliable
    noenergyavaliable liked this · 11 months ago
  • 0wls-owls-0wls
    0wls-owls-0wls reblogged this · 11 months ago
  • yourregularketer
    yourregularketer reblogged this · 11 months ago
  • yourregularketer
    yourregularketer liked this · 11 months ago

More Posts from Theanalyticsofkindness

The Next Time They Tell You Americans Are Happy With Their Employer Provided Health Insurance Remember
The Next Time They Tell You Americans Are Happy With Their Employer Provided Health Insurance Remember
The Next Time They Tell You Americans Are Happy With Their Employer Provided Health Insurance Remember
The Next Time They Tell You Americans Are Happy With Their Employer Provided Health Insurance Remember
The Next Time They Tell You Americans Are Happy With Their Employer Provided Health Insurance Remember

The next time they tell you Americans are “happy” with their employer provided health insurance remember that that “happiness” is fueled by willful ignorance of what the alternatives are really like and fear of losing what little crappy health care they currently have.


Tags :