Sometimes, Someone Isn't Going To Have A Simple Identity. That's Fine! Being Queer Was Never About Fitting

Sometimes, someone isn't going to have a simple identity. That's fine! Being queer was never about fitting in boxes. So use that label, and use the other one, too. I can assure you that the random fuck that started screaming at you for your identity isn't the CEO of queer labels, and their opinions on YOUR identity are certainly not important.

Intersex and multigender solidarity is defending tf out of dyadic multigender people’s ability to be transfemmasc, AFAB transfem/trans women, AMAB transmasc/trans men, boygirl, etc. none of these labels are intersex exclusive and Im tired of people treating as such.

-Anintersex multigender

I actually really appreciate that! I recently started identifying as transfemmasc and there seems to be a lot of backlash and people claiming that it's intersex exclusive (which there is no source for), so it's very nice to see some intersex/multigender solidarity :)

Frr, like they go out of their way to harass endos who are just. Chillin. Like my God.

Sysmeds: Endos invade traumagenic spaces! >:( We don't like you!

Endogenic systems: You can have spaces just for traumagenic systems! We'll make our own space!

Sysmeds: *Invades endogenic spaces* >:( We still don't like you, get out!

Endogenic systems: But we made our own space? You're literally doing what you accused us of. Hypocrites.

*cough* Alastor *cough*

having oc fictives is literally source: i made it up

people love it when lesbians are some guy until those lesbians are actually some guy.

people love lesbian masculinity, lesbians who use he/him and lesbians who are just some guy, and lesbians who call themselves boys and men and guys and dudes, and lesbians who are indistinguishable from men until they come too close to actually being men.

people love it when you blur the lines between gender, but they don't want you to blur it too much, otherwise you're not a real lesbian and you're invading lesbian spaces. if you blur the lines too much, flirt with the concept of being a man too much then you might as well be committing a hate crime because you explored gender in the wrong direction.

accepting that gender is a spectrum includes acknowledging that yeah, that spectrum includes lesbian gender, and yes, sometimes lesbian gender overlaps with being an actual honest to god guy. this is not something that will change, so i recommend making peace with it.

Idk a lot of the backlash to broadening who falls under what terms comes from the need to distinctly fall under the specific label you worked towards…but distance from adjacent labels only limits your allies and puts you in a rigid box you can’t come back out of either.

Saw a post by a trans woman horrified by the concept of having overlapping experience with femboys because “fuck you I am a woman.” You are. A woman with a lot of overlapping experience with a GNC man. You’re not a GNC man. He’s not a woman. And the gap between you two is not a chasm.

“How dare you say trans men are similar to butch lesbians. Trans men are men.” Yeah, men with similar experiences to butch lesbians. The butch lesbian isn’t a man. You aren’t a woman. And the gap between you is not a chasm.

This mindset doesn’t even account for GNC men who also ID as women, trans men who use the label of lesbian. Butch can be a label for a person of either AGAB.

Binary trans people wanna separate themselves from each other and from nonbinary people sooo bad. Now it makes eggs feel like the jump from GNC woman to man is an insurmountable journey. A femboy gets told he’s making a mockery of trans women’s experiences. A transmasc femboy is seen as just a faker. A butch trans lesbian is seen as a faker.

These labels are all just plots on the map, not one side or the other. You journey to the farthest edges and you find twinks and lesbians who look and act identical despite being supposed opposites. It’s all made up, we’re all queer.