When Discussing Toxic Parenting, It's Disheartening To See How Some Parents Resort To Mean Comments,

When discussing toxic parenting, it's disheartening to see how some parents resort to mean comments, physical harm, and mental abuse, only to justify their actions by claiming it's for their child's own good—to make them strong enough to face the world. While I understand that parents often don’t intend to harm their children and may genuinely believe they’re acting in their best interests, it raises the question of why they don’t take the time to heal their own traumas before having children. Addressing their unresolved issues could foster healthier bonds.

Yet, many refuse to accept that their trauma affects their behavior. Parenting can and should involve positive methods. When parents complain that their child is a rebel and doesn’t listen, they need to recognize that this behavior stems from their own actions. When a child is born, their mind is like an empty cup; whatever you fill it with—through your teachings and actions—shapes how they will adapt to life.

The rise in childhood depression can often be traced back to inadequate parenting education and unhealed trauma that leads to repeating toxic generational patterns. Ultimately, if you want to ensure a bright future for your child, it’s crucial to understand them rather than exerting power over them. This approach can help prevent heartbreaking situations where children feel the need to hide their pain or worse. The focus should be on addressing the parents' issues, not blaming the innocent child.

Expectations kills excitement.

"But you never told me what’s wrong with you, I just don’t understand you," they say. Exactly—you don’t understand me. You never will. Because you’ve never felt what it's like to have the person you love most scream at you, telling you they wish you were dead and that you're the worst thing that ever happened to them. You don’t know what it’s like to give everything you have just to make them happy, only to hear that their life is a living hell because of you, that you’ll never be enough.

You don’t understand the pain of watching someone else get everything you’ve ever wanted without even trying, while you’ve fought, struggled, and nearly broken yourself, only to end up with nothing. And still, all you hear are the same words—"you are never enough."

It’s ironic how people talk about staying hopeful through tough times, as if depression and anxiety are just conditions you can easily cure. Isn’t it strange how, when someone takes their own life, the conclusion is always, "Their mental health wasn’t okay"? Then all you hear is, “They should’ve opened up. If only they had spoken to someone, they’d still be alive.” But what about the countless times they tried to open up, tried to express themselves, tried to talk? And all they heard in return was, “Oh, come on, you’re being dramatic. It’s all in your head. Your life is fine.”

What about acknowledging the smallest struggles so that maybe living would feel a little lighter? Where’s the maturity from those who are 30 or 40 years old, the supposed "adults"? Where’s the understanding? And then they dismiss it, saying, “It’s just a phase.” But what if it was never a phase?

Some people suppress their pain until they can’t take it anymore, while others become so hardened by it that they end up hurting those around them. Villains aren’t just born—they’re shaped by those who mold them into one.

"They say, 'But she’s so closed off.' That’s because when I truly let someone into my energy, it means I genuinely care for and love that person, and they actually deserve it. Not everyone needs to be a friend—sometimes terms like 'acquaintance' or 'mutual' are more fitting, so use them. I don’t know, maybe it’s just me, but when I love someone or something, I can’t unlove or move on. If I love, I love fully, and it’s forever. That’s just who I am."

When we talk about love, it’s important to recognize that, in this generation, the term is often limited to romantic contexts. But love exists in every aspect of life! For instance, appreciating a flower you see on your walk—that’s love because it brings you instant joy. Anything that provides you with inner happiness reflects your love for that thing, and being joyful in yourself is the highest vibration.

Yes, love can manifest romantically, but it’s a misconception to think it exists only in that form. Love for yourself, your friends, family, and children may not be romantic, but it is love nonetheless. Can we please stop limiting its potential? I believe that everything is made of love, exists to love, and is for love. So let’s embrace the magic of the word "LOVE."