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im sure you dont need me to tell you this but that song what goes “where r u now, under the sea” is very lapis/malachite

You’re writing PTSD dreams wrong

But don’t worry, most writers are and I’m here to help because reading them is making me cRAzY.

I’m writing this because I’ve read three otherwise great romance novels back to back featuring characters dealing with PTSD (or PTSD symptoms) and each one of them made the same dream mistakes. I honestly can’t think of a fiction book I’ve read that didn’t make these mistakes, so I thought I’d compile a handy dandy list of mistakes and how to fix them. 

Lucky for you, I have PTSD and a ton of fellow veteran friends who deal with these symptoms. 

*This is based on my experience and things told to me by friends. This is not to say that the below doesn’t happen in real life, only that it’s not as common as you might think.

The issue with these dreams is twofold: on one side is the psychological accuracy of the dream and on the other side is how you’re using the dream within the narrative.

Oh an Black Sails spoilers-ish ahead. 

1) Stop writing the dream as a shot-by-shot accurate retelling of Traumatic Event.

Listen, not only do dreams seldom follow reality, but our own memories are tricky at best. I don’t remember getting beaten up because a) it was horrifying and we block stuff like that out and b) I was going in and out of consciousness. It would be pretty strange for me to dream something I don’t even fully remember. Our brains are simply not wired to do these vivid factually-accurate cinematic retellings.

My friend dreams things that did happen, but in his own words those dreams are always wrong in some noticeable or bizarre way. For instance, he’s getting chased through the streets of Iraq by a werewolf. 

2) Dreams are informed by reality, not direct reflections of it. 

It’s entirely likely my friend dreamt of a werewolf in Iraq because I got him binge watching Supernatural and the two ideas merged in his dreamstate. But see, that’s how dreams work. 

The trauma event exists as a constant in his subconscious, but he has all this other information right there in his conscious mind all day, every day. In dreams, there isn’t a clear delineation between that information.

My dreams are often dependent on whatever I’ve fallen asleep watching on television. The themes are consistent, but not the content.

In Black Sails, Captain Flint’s trauma dreams feature his dead partner and friend following him around his empty ship. You have an element of the trauma (the animated corpse of his friend) + his daily existence (his ship). The two things intersect to form these unsettling nightmares as expressions of his fears and grief. He never once relives the event itself in his dreams as shown on screen.

Speaking of…

3) Trauma dreams often revolve around feelings, not necessarily the events themselves.

The PTSD package generally includes heaps of shame, guilt, anger and fear. As someone who survived a beating when I should have had control of the situation, my dreams tend to revolve around fear that people will know I’m a fraud or being unable to act in a dangerous situation. 

Again, it’s entirely common for trauma victims to not remember large chunks (or the whole thing) of the trauma event. So why should their dreams be stunningly accurate? What we remember are feelings. Real strong feelings.

You cannot go wrong if you write your trauma dream around feelings, not a specific event.

4) If you present trauma dreams as expressions of themes, you can let go of the trauma dream as an exposition dump/way overused suspense trope.

You know you’ve read this: MC has dreams that are a shot-by-shot retelling of Traumatic Event that always cut off right before Traumatic Event, so that the Big Reveal must happen by a discovery later in the novel. 

If I were the MC in a book, the easy and common thing would be to use the “dream sequence” as an expository retelling of Traumatic Event as a way to give some backstory to why I might be surly, mistrustful, afraid to try something new, whatever, and to clumsily shoehorn in suspense where there doesn’t need to be.

The much more interesting thing might be if my dreams were inconsistent in content but consistent in theme. In one I’m on an alien planet (because I fell asleep watching the Science Channel again) and the ground opens up and I fall into a pit from which I can’t escape because I am helpless. In another a man is watching me while I sleep where I am again frozen and helpless. This would force the reader to think: what is the recurring issue in these dreams? Why is it important? What is this telling me about this character and what happened to her? 

It could be a personal preference, but I’d rather see the Traumatic Event either told in narrative flashbacks (not dreams) or verbally retold by the character in question. Let the dreams tell me something deeper about the character. It’s not that I was beat up, it’s that I feel like a failure because of it. One of these things is a shallow factual detail, the other tells you something about me as a person that I’m sharing with you, gentle reader, because talking about this stuff is healthy.

5) The Traumatic Event doesn’t have to be a big secret. 

In Black Sails, we know what happened to Captain Flint’s partner. It happened in real time in the show. That didn’t make his uber disturbing dreams less disturbing or mysterious. Fans still debate exactly what the symbolism was and what they were telling us about James Flint in those moments. We do know from the dreams that he was disturbed, obsessed, and also monumentally guilty and blaming himself for what happened. 

The mystery was perhaps more heightened by the fact that the dreams weren’t direct reflections of reality. We know who this person was, what she believed, and why she died. That Flint is imagining her screaming silently in his ear is horrifying and discordant with what we know to be factual. This adds emotional complexity to his character and the decisions he’s making while suffering these dreams. 

^^^this didn’t happen. It was a dream. A real unsettling dream.

Once you let go of the concept of the trauma dream as a literal retelling and exposition dump, you have the entire dreamscape to work in other narrative elements, like symbolism, metaphor, foreshadowing, etc. 

*1st gif source: @idontwikeit

Internet gave LGBTQ community a backbone, a place for somewhere to belong.

Internet raise awareness against social problems like fatphobia, body-shaming, sexual harassment, molestation, eve teasing, toxic masculinity, stigma around mental health, catfishing, scams.

Internet helped us fast tracking donation — blood donation, money donation, organ donation.

Internet helped us to be political.

Internet helped us to make a world where we can help a complete stranger.

Some people use it as a weapon of mass destruction, but that's not Internets fault. It makes me really irritated when someone says it's internet fault when something bad happens or cultural change happen when the actual issue is human being inhumane piece of crap.

is your art sfw or are they fetish related? (please use tone tags)

Some of y’all need to stay off the internet until you’ve gained the ability of critical thinking😐

one thing’s for sure is that I will never ever recover from this

Soul on Fire: Masterlist

Author: vyduan Pairing: Kim Seokjin | Reader Genre: soulmate touch AU, slow burn, strangers to lovers, smut, idol au, angst Word Count: ~24.1k Rating: Explicit, 18+ Warnings: swearing, legal consumption of alcohol, light mentions of Ehlers-Danos Syndrome, light mentions of disability in general, eventual smut

Summary: What happens when you find your soulmate accidentally at a gala and he’s international superstar Kim Seokjin of BTS and you are both engaged to other people? Or the soulmate touch AU that no one asked for but I absolutely had to write. 

Notes: I went on a tear of reading soulmate touch AUs recently (where once you touch, your soulmate’s touch replaces food) and I’m indebted to the intricate worlds created by @bagelswrites and their fic “Love at First Touch,” “Turbulence” by @fallencairns, and “Trip No Further” by new bestie @matchstick6812​. 

Soul on Fire Masterlist [IN PROGRESS]: 01 | 02 | 03 | 04 | 05 | AO3 For more of my fics, here is my Masterlist.

Go ahead and trow your stones

Cause there's magic in my bones!

Don’t forget to reblog with the answer to the piercings question ♥️😂 We’re all waiting on it

Done! 😘

The best keto chocolate lava cakes

decembermoonskz taglists ♡

hey guys!! so i’ve decided to make a form for you guys to use so you can sign up for my taglists!! 🤍 this way you can be tagged for groups, individual fics, or all of the stories i post. i’ll be able to keep track of this better now hehe

to sign up for my taglist(s), click this link!!

Atleast its not hot all of the time so you dont have to worry about it being hot all of the time. Though rain does suck most of the time. I know i know, i do have my times of feeling down I just want to be happy but if i definately need to talk about something i will. And thank you! I'll keep that in mind. I always have myself unmuted as I typically dont bother to mute myself, i just let my friend listen to whatever is playing on my tv which is typically music as I write. That sounds nice im sure those sprints are enjoyable and teaches you plenty on how to get better with your writing (which is already so amazing btw, I cant help but to look forward to reading your newest posts whenever you post something.) That sucks and was pretty mean of him to do, but atleast you still have the memories of making them! yes ! they will, such as our money as well i only have like atleast 40 dollars left from when I had my birthday in may.

That's very true, it's nice to have some time when it's not overly hot and not raining. Spring is one of my favourites, just because its just the right kind of temp to not wear a jacket and not get too hot or cold lmao! <3 Anytime sweetie, I'm always here if you need me

I really wish I could listen to music while I'm writing but I always end up getting too distracted or end up writing the lyrics instead of what I'm actually writing. Props to you for being able to multitask haha

That's not bad considering May was about a month ago, you've done well I'm sure! I'm currently saving up all I can for birthdays and Christmas. I always have something in a savers account incase of a comeback for Skz T-T

220629 - seokjin on instagram: black and white

tumblr tuesday: horseshoe crab appreciation

Hi, yes, hello. This is a horseshoe crab appreciation post. Have some horseshoe crabs. Why? We just think they’re neat. And so do you, apparently.

@its-a-beautful-day: 

@infinitebrians:

@arthur-bn​:

@xiphosuras:

@creaturebuilder:

@meeks-just-wants-to-scroll​:

@lil-tachyon​:

@watermelon-sheriff​:

@surferofrowdybliss:

@hoot-alex​:

@thisdastampdoesnotexist​:

jay: i wish i was a cat, but not in a furry kinda way

jay: more like a “i can sleep all day and hit people with no consequences” kinda way

220321 V’s Instagram Post with Edit

전하🧎🏼‍♂️ 죽여주시옵소서🥲

Your highness 🧎I deserve death

(T/N: Written in very formal, historical language. Asking to be killed was a way of acknowledging a mistake made towards the king and asking for forgiveness.)

[EDIT]

내 죽기 전에 부탁 하나만 해도 되겠소?🧎🏼‍♂️ 에요 사또 드랍 더 장단

Could I be permitted to make one last request before my death? 🧎🏼‍♂️ Ayo sire* drop the beat

(T/N: *‘사또’ was traditionally the title for the governor of a village or district.)

Trans cr; Aditi & Faith @ bts-trans © TAKE OUT WITH FULL CREDITS

Yeonjun: Milk or cereal first?

Soobin: We're not having this conversation again because last time it led to a full-out war

Hueningkai: Bowl-

“Because you are right, does not mean, I am wrong. You just haven’t seen life from my side.”

— Unknown

hello there!

humans is an official blog run by actual people who work at tumblr. we made this blog so that we can reply to y'all in the notes of various posts.

actual humans:

Cyle (@cyle, he/him)

i like cheeseburgers

James (@macmanx, he/him)

Happiness Engineer at Automattic, GIF-maker on Tumblr, Trumpet in Polyhedra, and general doer of things at place.

Jas (@jezzuminah, she/her)

Artist on Tumblr, and Walking Encyclopedia. I've screamed about Chinese history at McD for 5 hours before (feel free to ignore me if that happens)

Lucila (she/her)

I refused to eat cows in the 80s, before it was cool

Emily (@emilyfowler, she/her)

lied about my age to make my first tumblr account and now I work to make sure kids don't lie about their age to make their first tumblr accounts

Bea (@key, she/her)

i like building towns for cute animals for my silly mental health and hyperfixating on things i learned about on tumblr.

Cates (@adulthoodisokay, she/her)

Secret old and extremely online. If something's trending on Tumblr I probably know why.

Jess (@theinex, she/her)

I have a dog named Kirby who loves watching the Food Network (obvi Guy Fieri). If there’s something weird, wild, but most importantly fun, happening on this Hellsite (affectionate), I’m probably one of the wizards behind the curtain.

Rocco (@photosbyrocco, he/him)

i make a lot of buttons here on tumblr dot com

Caroline (she/her)

i'm here for kpop and memes

kat (@kat, they/she)

i use [tumblr].

Elena (@reallyserious, she/her)

Recovering single-subject-Tumblr creator.

Lindsay (she/her)

Some of my favorite things are immersive podcasts (Mission to Zyxx 🛸, Seincast), gaming in VR, and learning alongside my fellow humans.

Namjoon: Stressed

Seokjin: Depressed

Yoongi: Possessed

Hoseok: Impressed

Taehyung: Obsessed

Jimin: Blessed

Jungkook: Chicken breast

BTS:

BTS:

Jungkook: What

Jungkook: I just wanted to join in

tumblr tuesday: turns red

No thoughts head empty. Except for the red floof. Here’s a selection of the frankly ebullient Turning Red fanart you’ve all been making. It’s long. This is a long post.

@monniponi:

@zeigarian:

@molleyc:

@c-art-y:

@blackhuajia:

@tropicalfreckles:

@raven-s-art:

@sapphickx:

@soda-squids:

@pinapaliart:

@auridi:

@munespice:

@maryheart22:

@nightsky-wonderer:

@yarart4ever​:

@jaess-jinx:

@ivysundews:

@teadrawstuff:

@suukhei:

Yeonjun: Oh my god Kai just put Soobin on the phone

Hueningkai: I don't know... Soobin's pretty big*, I think it would be easier to put the phone on him

Soobin: I love you guys so much. You're the best thing that's ever happened to me.

Yeonjun: I-

Beomgyu: We're the best thing that's ever happened to you?

Hueningkai: Us? Out of everything in the world?

Soobin: Of course!

Taehyun: I'm really beginning to feel sorry for you hyung