I Don't Get How Systems Can Accept Themselves So Easy

I don't get how systems can accept themselves so easy

When we got our medical recognition when we were like 14 years old I enter in a horrible denial and it took me like 2 years to finally accept I had DID

In those 2 years my amnesiac barriers got worst thanks to the panic and denial of the psychiatrist telling us the most probable thing is that we have DID but he needed more time to get the final diagnosis, we search a lot of CDD in those times and was a horrible process

I genuinely don't get how some self diagnose systems accept it so easy, for us was a horrible 2 years denial and investigation, and we don't finish accepting the complete idea now, damn

This is a vent like post, but it's ok if you reblog cause you feel identified with it or want to share a similar experience, we don't care for that so you can do it

One of the worst things as a system with low split tolerance is when you are in a relationship based in trauma bonding, and you end up splitting or forming an alter because of thta

When you form an alter that make sure you don't get out the relationship as a response of the trauma bonding

When you form an alter that tries to get you out of the relationship but you can't because of the trauma bonding

When you form an introject of that person to help the reinforcement of the trauma bonding

When you form an introject of that person to try and cope the relationship (Good, neutral or bad way)

It doesn't matter how the alter ends up pressenting, is related of that trauma bonding relationship, and even if you get out the relationship you'll see that alter and you remind that relationship, you can't help but feel guilty

Even if the alters gets dorman, fuse or fragments after the relationship broke out you're conscious that alter once was there, and you can't help but remember something about that relationship, and how the impact on you was so strong that ended up in formation/splitting of someone new

Guys this is a good reminder that not because someone is a system they'll understand you better than a singlet

We say this because we had a horrible problem irl regarding a shitty person, when that was happening we were friends with two systems that we know personally irl, and they were kinda involved in that problem because they were my friends

My singlet friend was more supporting and considerate than the two systems, and in the end those two systems didn't understand at all the suffering we were going trough although they have expirienced similar things (when they were in those problems we helped them and stayed with them) and in the first sign that we were at the edge they abandoned us and cut friendship, the only one that sayed by our side and understood us was our singlet friend

So this bad experience we had can be taken as a learning for all the systems out there, not because some is a system they will understand you better

Let's talk about: Fakeclaimers and Internet, pt.2

So... This is a part 2 of our previous post about fakeclaimers and internet, so if you want to read the previous part you can, but you don't need it to understand this one

We already said that fakecalimers are just wild, they want to target systems and mock/troll them, that's not surprise

But something that I have seen that makes me question if the systems online really understand how internet works is because the reaction that they have with them, and it always confuse me

As I previously said, I was very angry about fakeclaimers, I was in that whole thing of why the're wrong because they target us and some sys friends in the past, and we evolved just to ignore them and get out of those spaces, and that made us realize how dumb is fakeclaiming at certain level

All the bases for the fakeclaming regarding OSDDID systems are just bullshit, that you have many alters, that you don't have enough alters, that you can talk about trauma, that you can't talk about trauma, that you know your system and alters, that you don't know your system and alters. Fakeclaimers just want to fakeclaime everything without knowing about the information about systems, they're just haters

Try to reason with one is useless, you're just gonna horribly frustrate yourself, you're not going anywhere and you're giving the fakecalimers the attention they want

You can't win in a debate or talk with a fakeclaimer cause they don't fucking care about you nor your arguments, they just wanna hate on you

So why give them what they want? Just ignore and block them

They're just a random in the internet, they don't know more about you than yourself, they're not a professional in mental health and expert in OSDDID, and if they are, they didn't studied your case close enough and with a good amount of time to know if your faking or not; they just can't know something like that by just looking through your post, videos, profile, etc.

The one who can know if you're faking is you and your psychologist/psychiatrist, not some random user on the internet, so why get mad about it? They can never know, so stop getting mad about it, if they choose to fakeclaime you is because they saw in you an easy target and it's a you thing to give them the reason or not about being an easy target

Also I think is dumb how systems online get mad or drive crazy when they get fakeclaimed in internet, it's the internet, everyone will hate and attack on everyone

When you make yourself a public system in the internet you should know and be aware that you will eventually get fakeclaimed

So yeah, it's dumb and effortless to be mad or something like that when the internet act like the internet. I'm not saying that if you feel bad for that you're a loser or dumb or something like that, just that you need to be aware that being fakeclaimed is a possibility and you should be mentally prepare for that, if you can't stand being fakeclaimed you shouldn't be a public system online

Cause yeah, even us that we did this post get mad or angry when people fakeclaimed us, but then we calm ourselves knowing that strangers have power on us only if we gave it to them, and we won't

If a fakeclaiming affected you is totally valid, you can take a rest, quit socials, bloq and react however you like, just be aware that when you decided being publicly a system you signed for the whole package, fakeclaiming including, and it's your responsibility to act and react mature enough with the topic without minimizing your emotions and feelings

Sorry if I sounded rude or something, but I needed to take this out of my body, this and the first part, if you want to comment, ask or discuss about the topic I'm completely open in comments and DM. Remember to take care, and don't pay attention to those trolls

I just entered in a state where I wanted to be certain fictional character so hard and that was helping me a lot to keep me safe and cope with certain personal problems, and when I realize I was being accompanied in front by a semi-formed alter that was formed to help me cope and don't hurt myself (The same thing I was doing alone when I was making myself think that I'm that character)

Like... Ok brain, curious way of using a blank fragment and give him a purpose... I guess..?

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I'm gonna take me and my verse as an example, I'm a brainmade formed long time ago, at some point a "new me" was formed thanks to a problem, altough this "new me" share name with me and some likes and things like that he was his own brainmade alter that just had similarity in name and personality wise

This is also an interesting topic that I'm willing to explain more regarding labels, we personally don't like autojects as a label (introject of someone who already is in the sys) and so we call them brainmades

Hope this explains a little bit the question

I'm curious, do you have a "verse" in your system?

Explanation: A verse is when you have multiple alters from the same source and/or are classified as similar or the same; it's not always about introjects cause we have brainmades who are a verse

We have like 10 verses lol

Brain doesn't have budget to make original ideas /j