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-Zoë Lianne

Watching the thunderstorm from my bedside window tonight

Summertime sadness- Lana del Rey

Don't count all the minutes while the days are counting you

Sometimes, the only way to get through it is to keep yourself busy. When you need to forget, heal, or grow, the best way to pass the time is to dive into something that by bestowing it your full attention, you're guaranteed to change your life for the better. No movie, book, workout, or even the company of friends can consume your mind quite like challenging work while having a direct impact on your quality of life. So, embrace the challenges your job can offer and don't let it become monotonous.

Not everything has to be a quest for deep meaning or a philosophical endeavor to keep your mind off consumerism. Sometimes, you just have to let yourself fight for something as vain as money—because, after all, it is indeed a significant source of happiness.

I love my solitude but I was meant to be a lover

Hoederer: ...Why did you drop your other job? Why? Hugo: I believe in discipline. Hoederer: Don't talk so much about discipline. I distrust people who always have that word on their lips. Hugo: I need discipline. Hoederer: Why? Hugo [wearily]: There are too many ideas in my head. I must get rid of them. Hoederer: What sort of ideas? Hugo: "What am I doing here? Am I right to want what I want? Am I really just kidding myself?" Ideas like that. Hoederer [slowly]: And at this moment, your head is full of them? Hugo [uneasily]: No.—No, not at this moment. [A pause.] But they might come back. I have to protect myself. By installing other thoughts in my head. Assignments: "Do this. Go. Stop. Say such and such." I need to obey. To obey, just like that. To eat, sleep, obey.

— wolkenleere, excerpt of a book I’ll never write

Just some autumn vibes

I need a drink poem.

You smiled at your crush just to end up being ignored

Read before you feel frustrated or sad:

You shouldn’t find any meanings in the acts of strangers or acquaintances. They don’t know you, neither do you. You don’t know why they did that and what it meant. They also don’t know you and what they’re missing out on.

They were your friends? Then they’re idiots that even though they knew you enough, they let you go. But hey, “Whenever you feel like criticizing any one, just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had.” Cut them out before you’re even more hurt, things like this don’t really change… They’re just not drawn to you.

They’re free to not like you, just as you’ve been free to not like myriad of people who liked you. Be mature in respecting the differences in general, and especially when it comes to something as primal, animalistic, and uncontrollable as attraction.

You’ll eventually find someone who’ll love you just the way you are. Be patient and grateful that the people that aren’t meant to be in your life don’t even step into it—minimal cost, right?

Have they entered your life, and you’ve clung to the hope that they’d eventually feel something for you? Then you’ve learned your lesson. If not, go back and read from number 2 again.

Acceptance no. 1

Growing mature is not for everyone. It needs a constant effort, and some people just don’t have the resources for that.

My Ongoing Struggle with Existentialism, Episode 999

For a long time, I wrestled with the bleakness of existentialism, convinced it was a philosophy rooted in despair. It wasn't until I encountered ChatGPT that I began to see existentialism as a source of hope.

Existentialism confronts us with the reality that no feeling—whether joy or sorrow—is permanent. This can lead to two opposing interpretations: on one hand, it might seem pointless to cherish happiness if it’s destined to fade away. Why revel in joy if it’s only a matter of time before it’s lost? Why endure the repetitive cycle of suffering? On the other hand, this impermanence can be liberating: every moment of happiness is unique, never to be experienced in exactly the same way again, urging us to fully embrace it. And as for suffering, knowing it will pass can offer comfort. Herein lies our power: because nothing lasts forever, we have the freedom to shape our lives and imbue them with whatever meaning we choose. No one else has the authority to dictate how we should think, feel, or what should matter to us. (Don’t let a dictator read this)

Yet, this raises a crucial question: “Are we truly free in a world where certain conditions—our family, nationality, gender, and so on—are imposed upon us?” While these initial conditions are beyond our control, existentialism isn’t about absolute freedom, which is a fantasy. Instead, it’s about being in the driver’s seat for the decisions we can make. Though our freedom is limited, it’s still enough to live authentically and guide ourselves closer to our true desires and goals :)

Doomed to rut at home

The one meetup I actually care about—on existentialism—has to happen on the exact day I'm traveling. Now I’m left with the option of unleashing my half-baked existential musings on Hinge dates who are as interested in Nietzsche as they are in tax law #no

How Do You Perceive Knowledge?

There was a time when I began to believe in the idea that "ignorance is bliss." The works of pessimistic philosophers like Nietzsche, Schopenhauer, and Kafka resonated with me deeply, and I found myself trapped in the self-fulfilling prophecies my 20-year-old mind was constructing. Even philosophers who are often considered neutral, like Sartre, seemed nihilistic when viewed through a pessimistic lens. Their ideas made life appear inescapable, as though there were no way out of the pointlessness they portrayed. Every piece of philosophy, psychology, literature, or art I encountered seemed to reinforce the idea that life, and the people within it, were ultimately shallow. The suffering, the happiness, the agony, and the pride all seemed fleeting and insignificant—so why bother feeling them at all?

As a result, I began to view positive emotions as too temporary to anchor my happiness upon, and my mind started to dismiss them. Over time, it even began to ignore the sadness, seeing others as simply whining over things that would soon be irrelevant, only to be replaced by new challenges, new sorrows, and new disappointments. I began to think that perhaps resilience and reflection were all that mattered—maybe everyone should grow cold. But seeing life as a constant grind is exhausting.

Philosophy certainly offers profound insights, and I believe it's essential for those who are capable of grasping it. However, it often falls short when it comes to practical, actionable solutions for self-help. I realized that instead of remaining trapped in analysis paralysis, searching for meaning in the midst of perceived pointlessness, I could take a more proactive approach by understanding and managing my mind. This shift in perspective came through exploring neurology, which transformed my view of the mind from an uncontrollable force dragging me through life to a powerful tool I could harness.

Through various podcasts and, notably, Dr. K’s YouTube videos, I'm gaining understanding of how the mind works. Learning about the brain’s mechanisms—such as what drives addiction and how to counteract it by addressing primal impulses—gave me a newfound sense of control. I now see emotions not just as fleeting experiences to be acknowledged or endured, but as evolved survival mechanisms that we can consciously harness to our advantage. Rather than simply accepting emotions, I’ve learned to leverage them, guiding my life toward the outcomes I desire.

P.S. I'm not saying YouTube has accomplished what centuries of philosophical thought could not, I still don't know what I'm doing :)) I'm just... I'm still kinda gloomy and clueless, and this is what you get for asking GPT to roast you as a way to debug your logical shortcomings!

@lovesdaya

Let them.

When you're 20 you care what everyone thinks. When you're 40 you stop caring what everyone thinks. When you're 60 you realize no one was ever thinking about you in the first place.

Winston S. Churchill

Yes, people may talk about you, but their judgments are often reflections of their own upbringing, past experiences, intelligence, empathy, emotions, and even their hormonal states, not their thoughts of who “you” really are. Only you know yourself well enough to think accurately about who you are. Let others fall into the trap of shallow judgments; by doing so, you’re dodging bullets. Those who misunderstand or criticize you are simply revealing themselves as individuals who never truly sought to understand you in the first place. A hater just speeds up the process of weeding out these narrow-minded people from your life. But most of the times, haters create no significant change, as the saying goes:

The most persuasive people don’t argue more — they observe, listen, and ask questions. Persuasion is an art that requires a paintbrush, not a sledgehammer. 

Sahil Bloom

They're looking for your reaction more than your notoriety

I was trying to explain myself to everyone, thinking I was doing damage-control, but I was just giving them more to talk about. The day I stopped caring about the chatter behind my back was the day the chatter finally died down. The world doesn’t revolve around your indifference, but “yours” does. So stop feeding their drama and start focusing on the success they’re so desperate to distract you from. They’ll eventually get bored and move on to someone easier to rattle—because let’s face it, they only want to see as many people as miserable as themselves.

When you look at life in a 3D model with an added dimension of reflection on top of the 2D circle of the ordinary happenings, it seems less pointless.

The path isn’t a straight line; it’s a spiral. You continually come back to things you thought you understood and see deeper truths.

Barry H. Gillespie

My version of flirting is looking at someone I find attractive multiple times and hoping they're braver than me.

Anything good can be used the wrong way, really.

It's a metaphor, see: You put the killing thing right between your teeth, but you don't give it the power to do its killing.

Augustus Water from "The Fault in Our Stars"

While Instagram may not be anywhere as severe, the principle still applies: You can have the app, but don't let it waste your life away. Deleting it in hopes of rediscovering focus might only lead you to other distractions like video games or another social media platform. The key isn’t to escape, but to master your impulses.