The Reason 99% Of This Website Hasno Terfs In Their Descriptions And Yet Transmisogynist Ideas Run So

the reason 99% of this website has “no terfs” in their descriptions and yet transmisogynist ideas run so rampant is that almost no cis lgb people on this website know actually what transmisogyny is and what terfs actually want.

like you see thousands of those annoying “respect trans women juice” and no actual thinking about what it actually means. and i think that’s partly because of the name we use - trans exclusionary radical feminists. what does being “trans exclusionary” means ? the problem of terfs isn’t that they “exclude” trans women, it’s what they think of trans women.

because… a lot of transmisogynists are trans ! usually some version of afab-non-binary-transmasc-adjacent-lesbian-or-bi. so when you call them terfs, they say they can’t be trans exclusionary, since they are trans. and they also reblog trans women’s donation posts or news about harassment, they usually don’t deny that trans women are women, they also protest the bathroom bill, they also criticize the gender binary system. so everyone cheers, and since terfs don’t do those things, it means they are ok.

but they still adhere to a worldview of “women and trans women”, so to speak. that trans women’s gender are “trans women”. that being a trans woman is in itself a particular position of gender. which means that they don’t include trans women butches when they talk about butches, for example. they don’t include trans women when they talk about women’s problems. trans women have their own problems, their own experience, that is distinct from women.

so, big news ! if you ever, in any case, use the words lesbian, butches, women, etc. and you don’t include trans lesbians, trans butches and trans women in this discussion, then you’re a transmisogynist. that’s it ! saying “no terfs” isn’t enough. you need to include trans women in your worldview, in your feminism, in how you talk about women, all the time, and not only when talking about trans issues. anything else will get you a bunch of crypto-terfs followers.

Rb if you support she/her gay men and he/him lesbians

by Holly Warburton

The Swaddle

‘Masking’ for Years Can Leave Autistic People Confused About Who They Really Are

"When you’re acting all the time, you tend to get confused between the character you’re playing and yourself."

This. So much this. I spent so much of my life mimicking the very conservative bigots who surrounded me, trying to "fit in," and it took so many years to figure out who I really am. Hell, I'm STILL deprogramming myself and learning to unmask.

it’s time 2 quit being sedentary. If you are physically able, go outside. Not in a “go outside you strange internet hermit way” but just a “go walk down the street and be present in your own neighborhood” type way. Just noticing the seasons changing and paying attention to people and houses and street signs and critters is very very good for mental health and shakes off that dissociation, depersonalization feeling.