That Discord Server Post Made Me Remember The Stark Difference Between Serverstuck (a Minor Populated

That discord server post made me remember the stark difference between Serverstuck (a minor populated server) and Degrees of Lewdity (strict adult-only server)

Serverstuck has the worst mods and owner I've seen because they're all Antis and abuse the rules by excusing anyone who are close to them & punishing others who are strangers, lying to people on why some got banned, and allowed sensitive political topic go unregulated

Degrees of Lewdity, despite filled with people who has crude & cursed-level sense of humor, has strict mods & owner, write the correct information on why some people are banned or muted (they even allow users to request to be ban from the server for mental health reasons), and immediately shut down any conversation of sensitive political topics that cause infighting between members

I feel safer in a server for an adult game development than a "minor friendly" homestuck rp server

While I do welcome servers that have a mixed age range, I don't think I've ever or will ever join a server moderated or owned by someone who is either/both an anti or a minor.

To run or moderate a server you need to be impartial, objective, socially aware, able to appropriately manage conflict and relatively socially seasoned. I've personally found most minors often lack or are incapable of most if not all of these qualities.

(And that's not me hating on minors or calling them ignorant. Some of those qualities are just things you learn or develop with age and time. Some adults never learn them at all, even, but they are qualities you need if you're going to, essentially, be in charge of other people.)

Sephiroth's Server Safety Tips

Always do a thorough check into who is advertising the server, who owns the server, and other members before joining a server where possible.

Once you've joined the server, immediately use the search function to look for key words related to topics you want to avoid, possible past conflict, bullying, ect.

Immediately check the server rules. Its a red flag in itself if the server doesn't have any. Also, 'just be nice' is not a rule. Servers should have clear, clean cut rules and regulations.

Don't be afraid to message server owners, moderators or users privately and ask questions. They shouldn't get offended and if they can't or won't answer questions about basic rules, server safety protocols, ect, you should reconsider joining.

Don't be afraid to ask around other people to see if the server is known or has a reputation, either. If a server is based on a specific fandom, for example, search through that fandom for any past mentions of the server or ask other fans if they've heard of it.

the answer to the possible issue of glorification and "romanticization" of taboo topics in fiction is not to censor and harass.

It's to advocate for the targeted demographics to have access to proper resources and education regarding those topics.

-signed me, who benefited greatly from the discussions, discourse and resources surrounding relationships and kink in reaction to Twilight and Fifty Shades of Grey.

If you tell victims they need to be ashamed of how they cope with or heal from their trauma and that they need to be hidden and silent about it because you disagree with it or it makes you uncomfortable, you do not care about victims. You care about your own comfort and consider it more valuable than theirs.

"READ MY DNI" no. use your block button like an adult. i'm not scrolling through the many-paragraphs-long pinned posts of every blog i reblog something from. if you insist certain types of people aren't welcome in the notes of your posts then it's your responsibility to curate that. or choose a closed social media platform like facebook or instagram. or go and live in a barn away from humanity if you really don't like sharing the world with people who are different from you

Just love it when assholes think they get to act like the least conscientious people whilst calling everyone else immoral and evil

Yes you also should have to tag for triggers even if you are complaining about a ship you don't like!

There's a constant contradiction between antis and following their own rules. The one thing that can be said about the proshipper side is we are ultimately more respectful of maintaining the safety of online spaces in regards to tagging, being overt about triggers, shutting down malicious or harmful behavior in private spaces, ect.

If you're going to reblog a post of mine with a bullshit claim and try to spin a false narrative, at least have the guts not to block me immediately afterwards I can't correct you. You said what you said, babygirl, own up to it. Unless you're scared I will correct you. In which case, you shouldn't have made that reply in the first place.