roy, he/him, 22yo, slime kinallegedly a writer?
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i love it when people trap the warden in minecraft by making a moving piston that makes noise so the warden just quietly stares at it. ipad baby
Took my son to see his favorite band. I think they look a little gay, but whatever makes my Smallfry happy
Love bombing is not a euphemism for "too much affection too soon," or "high desire for contact."
"Love bombing" is a term originally used in the context of cults to describe a deliberate and coordinated recruitment method that involved feigning friendship and interest in a potential recruit, via flattery, flirtation, physical affection, and very directed positive attention to everything the recruit says in order to lure them into the cult.
Since cults and abusive relationships operate in similar ways and use similar tactics, love bombing in an interpersonal relationship looks like manufacturing closeness in order to trap someone into a relationship in which the abuser has all the control.
And I know these days there's a million bullshit junky articles out there that make you think this is a symptom of cluster b personality disorders, but there is no way for you to be love bombing somebody without realizing it.
If you are an affectionate person and the level of affection and attention you give makes someone uncomfortable, you are not "accidentally" abusing them.
If you are uncomfortable with the level of affection and attention someone is paying you, they are not de facto abusing you.
Love bombing is about using someone's desire for human connection to fast track them into a situation you control that they will feel disinclined to leave.
so it’s a wednesday night in july and you’re at home and you’ve showered and you’ve masturbated and you’ve gnawed at the inside of your mouth and you’ve eaten and washed the dishes and fixed a corner of the fitted sheet on your bed and texted your grandmother and thought positive thoughts and still the feeling comes. what then
me, having hit the back of my head on the floor after passing out: huh. This is good writing material
biting and gnawing at my fist like an anxious dog because I have no friends to discuss my oc with
Boop! I'm proud of you. Life is a shitty thing that's getting more complicated with each passing day, so don't be too hard on yourself because you're doing great. Remember that you are the only person guaranteed to stay with you, so please treat yourself better. Drink some water, get a power nap, eat a snack that will cheer you up, find a hobby that excites you for the next day, and treat yourself with proper respect. You are incredible, so don't beat yourself down over the minor things out of your control, and take a deep breath for me. I hope you smile today, and please remember that your feelings are valid. Your pain, however insignificant you might think of it, is worth acknowledging, and it's not shameful to ask for help to deal with it. I'm sending you the warmest hug I could master. One last thing - please remember that even if your mind might try to convince you otherwise, your life is worth living, and I'll be devasted if you're gone. Have a nice day!
P.S.: If you want to reach other people who received this message, use #boop of hope
what the heck! this is so nice??? whaet ? hn??
uwaa. lineart is going well, but i had too much fun with the details and completely lost the world trigger style...
character ref. 最上 蓮 / Ren Mogami
