Trans Woman Needs Help To Leave An Abusive Home!

Trans woman needs help to leave an abusive home!

My name is Sara and I'm a 19 year old trans woman in need of serious help.

I've been mentally and physically abused all my life by my parents and brother and that continues to this day. I'm trapped and afraid for my life. I can't take it anymore. I've been suicidal since I were a child and it's becoming too much to handle. I can't take this for who knows how many more years, I seriously can't. I feel so miserable living in these conditions and the dysphoria is intolerable. I can't do anything about it whatsoever because my parents are heavily against the lgbtq+ people. It makes me even more suicidal. I'm miserable and desperate.

My parents are keeping me dependent on them and not allowing me to work, making it impossible to escape. I did find an online job but my parents found out I was working in secret and made me quit. This has also made the home situation even worse :( I'm too scared to try to find anything else, especially non online because of the abuse that will follow. I can't do something like that in secret and I can't take the pain again.

For now I just need the money to guarantee my physical and mental safety: to move out to another city and be able to pay rent and food for a couple of months so I can find a job that pays enough to not end up homeless. I also need money for driving lessons and a cheap car so I'm not tied to one place and can go to work if it happens to be a non walkable distance away. Later I'd like to start therapy and transitioning but that's the lowest on my priority list right now, as survival's most important :(

I'm estimating it to come out like this:

- Rent and food for 2 months: ~$2800

- Driving lessons and a cheap car: ~$2100

- Transport to another city: ~$50

Total: ~$4950

I understand these are hard times and not everyone will be in the position to help me out and that's alright. I'm really sorry for having to ask like this :( I just don't know what to do anymore.

If anyone could donate even one kofi ($3) it will be immensely helpful for me to get out of here 🙏🏻 If you can't please please consider reblogging so more people can see this. Thank you very much!

Unfortunately my parents have a hold of my paypal, so I set up a kofi with my friend's paypal so all donations go to her and then she will give them to me. I don't know how paypal donations work and don't wanna trouble my friend too much as even giving me her paypal email was a lot to ask for. Please consider donating on kofi ❤️

You can be anonymous, don't need a profile and don't need a paypal 🙏🏻

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umm i need reassurance that my presence is wanted but i can’t ask for reassurance because that’s really Embarrassing and it wouldn’t feel genuine if i asked for it

LINK TO HELIO'S GOFUNDME

Thank you for clicking on my Gofundme. My name is Sol, and I’m a 22 year old black trans + queer college student who is trying to leave my childhood abusive home, and I need some support to do it.

Those of you who have been in abusive environments will understand how hard it is to actually leave. I’ve tried to several times and faced sabotage, manipulation and gaslighting to force me to stay. My abusive parents do not want me to leave and are using every tool they have, including other family members and their financial control over me to make me stay. I simply can’t go on in this environment any longer, having my safety constantly at risk because of my identity is grating at me and wearing me down. It’s thanks to my friends and community that I’m choosing to have hope and make this post at all.

This Gofundme is to help provide me with the financial support and cushion I’ll need to move out. I am currently job searching, and having money for necessities such as my car insurance to drive to work, first + last month rent and security, a laptop for school and emergency money in case I need to leave immediately will be a huge weight off my mind. I have a month to raise these funds in order to move in August.

I just want to be able to wake up every morning without the feeling of fear for my safety and walking on eggshells so that I might not face verbal abuse that day. I want to be able to heal from the 22 years of trauma I’ve suffered. I appreciate everyone who helps me with getting there.

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I guess only some black lives matter.

Yall don’t care about black women or black girls.

I work in a public school system in the inner city. I’ve worked with kids from k4-12th grade. I’ve seen fights that look just like the video of Ma’Khia. People throw chairs, they bang other kids heads into lockers, they punch kids, they kick kids, they grab whatever they can and try to use it as a weapon. I’ve deescalated fights, school security, school staff, teachers, and admin have all broken up fights and deescalated them. Funnily enough, we’ve never had to murder a kid; even when they were hurting other students, we calmed them down and everyone lived. The fact that police can’t calmly break up this situation - what with all their training and their gear that they have- and their first instinct is to fire a gun no questions asked is ABSURD. Especially because it’s not for reasons you all keep making up. It’s not because “she was about to kill the other girl” if that was the case why is Kyle Rittenhouse still alive after walking around with a weapon after ACTUALLY killing folks. Why did police treat him like he was one of the good guys? Why did Dylan Roof not get dropped on the spot after slaying 9 black people who were praying in church!? I thought yall said that police have no choice when they see a weapon and lives are in danger, THEY HAVE TO SHOOT!!! Oh… I guess that’s only when they see black people. And I guess that yall’s empathy is only reserved for black males. 

Ma’Khai was a little too black for yall, and a little too big, and a little too loud, violent, aggressive, and hostile for yall. You saw her as an animal so it was ok that she got put down like one. “Hey, the cops are just doing their job! They didn’t have a choice here!” But wait a minute, I thought ACAB!? My, my how quickly you all change your tune. I thought that it doesn’t matter if someone is breaking the law or not, they don’t have a right to be murdered even IF they aren’t cooperating. Damn, what happened to that song yall were singing when it came to black males?

I’ve not felt this much pain and hurt since Trayvon Martin. I’ve not felt so discarded and so hopeless and let down in a long time. The most disrespected, unprotected, and neglected person in America is the black woman. I knew yall hated black women but I’m always surprised by how much. Yall hate us so much that you think it’s ok for police to unload 4 bullets into the chest of a 16 year old who was defending herself in a fight. And the thing is, even if she wasn’t defending herself, even if she had started the whole thing, she still doesn’t need to be shot 4 times. Not when police are able to take violent white criminals into custody and make stops at burger king while they’re at it. 

We gotta have our own backs as black women and it fukin sucks. But the kicker is that black women themselves are throwing their humanity under the bus to shuck and jive. Why are black women themselves saying that this baby deserved to die and that she needed to be held accountable, killing her isn’t accountability. Basically yall sayin she deserves the death penalty for something she might have done. Black women have to have their own backs because not even other black women will have our backs. And don’t even get me started on the black men who watch us drown as we toss them our life jackets. We are out on the front lines for black men and they just simply cannot show up for black women. Black men, Shannon Sharpe and Don Lemon publicly tell America that it’s ok because Ma’khia was unruly and uncivilized. Nows ya knows ya gots ta ack rite fos massa come round… I feel like now that yall got the verdict for George, now yall don’t wanna step outta line too much and Ma’khia is who yall are willing to sacrifice in order to show white America your utmost gratitude.