Me Tryna Be Romantic Like...

Me tryna be romantic like...

Bro I always thought breeding kinks were kinda weird (no judgement, just not for me), but why do I get kinda turned on at the idea of my (cis) boyfriend being pregnant with my babies

What is the most attractive physical trait in a man (not including personality, even though that's a factor, just pick one based on what he looks like)

If something else or something more specific add it in the tags

And ofc choose the parts that apply to the attractive men in your life, if someone you like doesnt have some of these you can still vote on the poll!

I want to make myself pathetic for my dom. I want to grovel like a good boy for their touch. I want to beg them and be at their mercy. I cum for their pleasure, I'm denied for their pleasure, I'm edged for their pleasure. I want to be their toy, their plaything, their perfect submissive. I want to praise them with breathless moans, with fluttering eyelids, with heady, ecstatic pleasure that is their gift to me, "thank you, thank you, thank you."

okay so here’s something i was talking to a lover about last night. being a “dom” is not something inherent to you, it is a role you take on. you can have naturally dominant tendencies, but when you go to be a dom or dom someone, that’s a role you’re taking on, and with it, there’s responsibility you’re accepting.

I am once again recommending the new topping book to anyone who wants a more detailed look at this, but i’m going to talk about some key points here that have changed the way i dom for the better.

- you need to be aware of your own capacity. it is better to say “that’s really hot but i don’t currently have the energy to provide the kind of aftercare that would require” than to do a hot scene and get lost in the drop.

- when you dom, you are taking on responsibility for the physical and emotional well-being of both your sub and yourself. you need to be prepared to do this. emotionally this means being prepared, provide aftercare, check in with them, deal with bad sub drop if it happens. Physically this is where we get into some basic RACK.

- I want to talk a little bit about the risk aware part of RACK. it is your responsibility, and this one applies to the sub and the dom, to do your research. knowing “oh this is risky” does not count as risk aware. you need to be looking into specific risks for specific scenes and seeing how one should handle them. for bondage this means learning how to do it properly, always having safety shares on hand, things like that. for knife play, it means having first aid stuff on hand. i for one know where my closest ER and urgent care are just in case.

- another thought on risk awareness and risk management, there’s nothing wrong with saying “that’s hot but it’s outside of my risk tolerance.” or even, i can’t tell you how often the conversation is “that’s hot but i need to do more research first.”

-when your sub is deep into subspace, or when the scene is already going on, it is your job as the dom to remember their boundaries and enforce them on their behalf. when your sub is out of it, part of taking responsibility for them is saying “i know that’s outside of your boundaries, we’ll need to negotiate that when we’re not in a scene” or like “that’s hot but we’ve never done it before and i’d feel more comfortable if we talked about it outside of a scene first.” it is better to wait and do the thing later, or not do it, than to risk violating your sub in a way that matters!

i’m sure i’ll have more thoughts on this, ill add them as they come to me.

*me ovulating*

*my bf getting spammed with unsolicited nudes*