This Was Literally Their First Date

this was literally their first date

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casual survey: reblog if you want to kiss a girl right now

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A portrait of an extraordinary Black French lesbian living in San Franciso in 1990

Not to be rude but a lot of white lesbians on here will see an attractive white(and especially if they're skinny, conventionally attractive, cis, and feminine) woman and go "omg she's so pretty and gorgeous and elegant, gosh, why are women so beautiful! I want her to hold me and hug me and kiss me!" but the second you see an attractive non-white woman(especially if they are fat, trans, dark-skinned, or butch, but lbr y'all do this to femmes of color as well due to how masculinized we are), suddenly y'all's brains short-circuit and you don't know how to complement us without depriving us of our humanity because you still internalized the idea that woc are wild impure animals and so out comes the "omg I want her to step on me and choke me and slap me across the face and make me her slave!!!" and y'all think it's okay because you're making yourself "subservient" to us but really all you're doing is reinforcing harmful stereotypes of woc as more aggressive, sexual, violent, inhumane, and less feminine, sweet, loving, and/or gentle than white women, and you guys think it's a compliment but it's really fucking not and I'm here to tell you that being a lesbian doesn't invalidate your white privilege if you talk about and fetishize lesbian woc this way. 😡

caption too real 😭

"Ira Jeffries (far right), with her girlfriend, Snowbaby, and her mother, Bonita (standing), celebrating Ira's sixteenth birthday in a Harlem club" from the Lesbian Herstory Archives. Captioned: "I'm the butch but I'm not allowed to dress as I please yet."

source: The Persistent Desire: A Femme-Butch Reader, edited by Joan Nestle

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