No More Four Shaming!

No more Four shaming!

Most people refuse to identify with, or do not see themselves as Fours because of the stigma attached to this type. Typology is not kind on Fours. It paints them as difficult, crusty, hard to love, defective, insecure people who are moody, hyper sensitive and emotional grenades primed to explode at any moment.

Fours can be extremely aesthetic, highly abstract, original artists and thinkers. They are sensitive to emotional nuances within themselves, and others. They fiercely protect and honour the individuality within themselves, as also in others. With their unconventional worldviews, they are  almost able to reach out to that something sublime that ties us all together.

Something Four has to keep in mind is that you beget what you put out there. So if you put on a crusty front fearing nobody will love you because you are not perfect, or not allow people to get close to you because you are afraid they will never understand you… They will NOT. If you want people to understand you and love you, you have to let go of expectations and allow yourself to open up without preconceived notions about the outcomes of social interactions. Focus less on how you are perceived, and more on the quality of interactions as well as a mutual give and take.

- ENTP Mod.

Elizabeth Bennet: First impressions are very important.

Mr. Darcy: But you married me anyway.

There is some quality character development right there.

I messed up, okay? I-I messed up. Okay? Really. Please. I just want to make things right. Okay? Please. Please…

How People View INFPs vs. How INFPS Actually Are

Four: Excuse me. I would like to buy this abstract, surrealist, post-modern painting of this depressive and tormented person.

Salesman: I’m sorry, that’s a mirror.

If you want to heal your loneliness, you first have to learn how to heal yourself, be there for yourself, and cultivate your own garden of love, acceptance, and understanding.

Thich Nhat Hanh