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It's Not Fine.

Abuse and trauma survivor - these are my stories in no particular order. Content warnings and triggers everywhere. Adult blog; 18+ only.

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What Would Make Someone Want To Stay In A Relationship Like That?

“What would make someone want to stay in a relationship like that?”

It’s been two years tonight, as of this very moment. Two years since the first time I hated him for a minute. 

It took the worst thing that ever happened to me to get me to even consider leaving.  And it still took me a year.  

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6 years ago

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My city puts up a light display for the holidays.  It’s common for families and couples to go and take pics in various spots.

Over the holidays my woman and I went as part of a date. It was cute, and it was a good night.  But recovery, as always, made an appearance.  She’s a goof ball - she kept trying to photo bomb selfies, and couples pictures.  I kept pulling her away and refusing; all I could think of was “He’ll see me in the background and then FIND ME”  

I only really had it in me to explain it to her yesterday, but she completely understood.  She said she had only wished I had told her at the time so she would have stopped being playful about it (thinking I was just being shy).

I can’t shake thinking I ruined a bit of fun for her.  Which makes me really, really sad that he’s tainted a memory for her too.


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6 years ago

I just realized he deleted all of my pictures from my trip to Brazil.

I am so furious. He tried to erase my history!


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6 years ago

hi! im a survivor of domestic abuse also, and i just wanted to say thank you. one of your posts showed up in my recommended and i clicked on ur blog, and i just. im so happy? ive been in a downward spiral lately and your posts about recovery really gave me hope. (especially the one about pierogi!). so anyways, i just wanted to thank you. ok bye ^w^

Hi there!  

I’m sorry you have gone through this hell.  Downward spirals are, regrettably, all a part of the healing process.  There’s some horrendous moments, and some horrendous weeks.  I know that hearing that doesn’t help you feel better in that moment, but it does get easier to manage.  Hopefully knowing that This Too Shall Pass helps?And you really are so strong.  

Hope, validation and the love of my friends kept me from succumbing to the dark.  I’m glad I could give you a little of that. Lean on your people, if you got ‘em.  If you don’t, keep reaching out.    Wishing you the best.

6 years ago

My parents are spending their Friday night going through old unlabelled spices and dried herbs in their cupboards and trying to guess what they are based on the smell. They're so pumped when they're certain they've identified one; they may just be having the time of their lives.

This is clearly #relationshipgoals. So I wonder how I grew up seeing my folks who genuinely love and like one another and still ended up in a relationship that nearly killed me.

What went wrong in this brain of mine?


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