Like I Would Almost Love To Write Out In Full What I Think About What Porn Has Done To Society Or Rather

Like I would almost love to write out in full what I think about what porn has done to society or rather what our social culture has created via porn (which really is way more apt, I say this as a sex worker) but I wouldn’t even know where to begin, it’s so far-reaching and in the meantime it’s sus and annoying as FUCK that the average person doesn’t care too much to treat this discussion as worth repeated attention- the conversation is dominated by zealous TERF/SWERF radfem trash.

dude shut up. i know how to cum i just dont feel like proving it alright

so in psychology class we got to learn why foot fetishes are so prevelant! basically your brain stores the structural information for your body generally in the correct order (i.e. the info for your ears is stored next to the info for the head, which is stored next to the neck, etc.) BUT. The info for the feet is stored right next to the info for the genitalia and so sometimes these two sections of information can overlap and make you wanna lick some toes

men are literally like “my biggest fantasy is seeing a woman locked in a cage being beaten like she deserves” and people who call themselves feminists are just like “haha nice :)”

Here’s the thing, a lot of gay adults didn’t get to explore their sexualities as teens. I don’t just mean that they missed out on common teen experiences like a first kiss, dating, or even sex — I mean a lot of them didn’t even get to fantasize or think about their sexuality, because they didn’t feel safe to acknowledge that part of themselves.

This is why a lot of those adults make up for that loss of experience through writing. They can never turn back the clock and have their first kiss as a teen like most other people, but they can write about a gay kid who gets to do everything they wished they could. They can live out their secret childhood crushes through writing. They can go through the necessary process of developing their sexuality by writing about what they would have liked to do as a teen.

This isn’t a process unique to queer people — it also happens to straight women who were told by society that they couldn’t form a sexuality at all. It also happens to people who were abused as kids and didn’t develop at the same time as other kids, or who were too traumatized to explore their sexuality as teens. It happens to a lot of people for a wide variety of reasons. Writing — and especially fanfiction — becomes an outlet as well as a helpful tool for marginalized adults to explore their sexuality the same way other people are allowed to (and encouraged to!) as teens.

This is why it bothers me to see claims that adults who write romantic/sexual fanfiction about teens are somehow pedophiles, simply for writing about common teen experiences with romance and sex. Oftentimes, those are adults writing about their own experiences (or the experiences they wish they had) as teens. Frequently, they’re writing about the same characters they had crushes on when they were kids — now they may be technically older than those characters, but at the time they developed a crush, they were the same age or younger (see: adult lesbians writing fics about Elizabeth Swan, a 17 year old they had a crush on when they themselves were 10, or adult gay men writing fics about Naruto, a character they’ve had a crush on since they were six). Fictional crushes are tricky because while you age, your crushes often stay the same age, and it’s ludicrous to call someone a pedophile cuz they still like or relate to a cartoon character they grew up with, or a live-action character played by an actor who’s ten years older than them, but was a minor in 2006.

You have no way of knowing what someone’s motivations are for writing a fanfiction. You have no way of knowing if they’re “getting off to it,” even if it’s erotica — and it’s none of your business either way. It’s not your right to interrogate people to determine whether their fic aligns with your morals.

What we see in anti circles on this website is people taking a universally accepted opinion (pedophilia is bad!) and using it to bully and harass people who are 100% not pedophiles. They use it to convince marginalized people who are exploring their sexuality (and frequently their trauma) in a normal, healthy way that they’re actually the lowest scum on the face of the earth for doing so.

It goes without saying, but that’s not an appropriate response to finding a pairing you don’t like.

almost every single man I’ve met in recent years has been into rough sex or kinky sex/preferred it which is terrifying, and many men will have rough sex with a woman as the default and let me tell you having a strange man you’re having sex with for the first time try to choke you or throw you around in the bedroom or hold your neck down is terrifying and these are like Feminist ™ Liberal ™ Woke ™ men who buy into all the bdsm garbage liberal feminist rhetoric although they also don’t care deep down in their blackened souls