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he's going through a hair dye phase (sleeping in a berry patch)

"in 2023 i'm going to get a girlfriend" "in 2023 i'm going to get a boyfriend" in 2023 I am going to get more aromantic

everyone say happy birthday Frances Janvier!! 🎂🏙️🎧✏️🌟🛸🪐

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HAPPY ACE WEEK YOU WONDERFUL PEOPLE! Now go munch on the haters.

stop removing usb ports and audio jacks and buttons from electronics stop it you're hurting them stop it stops top stop it

stop removing usb ports and audio jacks and buttons from electronics stop it you're hurting them stop it stops top stop it

stop removing usb ports and audio jacks and buttons from electronics stop it you're hurting them stop it stops top stop it

Scrolling through my blog looking at my posts and reblogs and forgetting it's not my dash, then all of a sudden I see my icon and am like wait, this is my post??

stop removing usb ports and audio jacks and buttons from electronics stop it you're hurting them stop it stops top stop it

“Sometimes i think if nobody spoke to me, i'd never speak again.” -Frances Janvier, Radio Silence

The A in LGBTQIA+ stands for aromantic, asexual and agender. It will never stand for ally. Being an ally should be basic human decency. You don’t get a gold star for being one.

People who like to complain about how "cringe" or "repetitive" Nick from Heartstopper saying "I'm bi, actually" over and over again is have obviously never experienced, seen or even heard or read about things like bi erasure or comphet. Bi erasure sucks because it shows just how close-minded people can be. Like supposedly if you date someone of the same gender you're automatically ONLY attracted to that gender because only gay/lesbian people exist. Men who are bisexual supposedly are just "too scared to fully accept being gay yet" while women who are bisexual are "just doing it for attention" or "bisexuality is obviously their last stop on their trip to lesbianism". Comphet is a deeply rooted issue in society and older generations who aren't even necessarily homophobic, but absolutely everyone they know has been telling them for their whole lives that there isn't even a different option other than heterosexual relationships and feelings. It literally starts when you're just a toddler, your own parents pestering and teasing you about a boy you said you're friends with, because being a girl means any boy who as much as speaks to you is attracted to you. Or even worse supposedly them inflicting pain on you just means they "don't know how to show affection". Or being 7 years old as a boy and getting told that "you're going to be a heartbreaker when you're older" because for some reason your aunt from the suburbs believes boys breaking girls' hearts is just how it's supposed to be.

It is SO hard to break patterns like these because they literally start being applied to your life and pushed into your head the moment that you start speaking cohesive sentences. So shows like Heartstopper that show just how real bisexual people are, and just how much they struggle with problems like this ON TOP of generally being queer is amazing.

Having icons on the dashboard increases community. I don't take the time to read every username, but with a quick glance, I know who posted something. It means I can associate what they posted with them. Otherwise it's just Stuff. (It's also fun to see the icons. It's a unique personalization that makes people happy, and their prominence makes tumblr unique.) It doesn't take up space. Why take that away?

it's honestly alarming that they're making this shift to depersonalize and disintegrate community.

part of me feels like this is the progression they want:

can't tell who posts -> don't care who posts -> no connection to who is on your dash -> FYP/algorithm

and it's horrible that they seem to be taking such a beloved website and sending it in these directions. probably overreacting but it's sad and frustrating to watch it go

anyway. it's a good reminder to reblog the posts you love, because that's how the website can keep functioning like it does

Wait do people go to school to become librarians???

I think it’s time for us to all collectively return to the library. Get a card, go to a club meeting, volunteer on an off day, rent some equipment. You don’t even have to read a book. But since the digital world is rapidly becoming a subscription-only hellscape requiring a criminal amount of private personal information to use even CASUALLY, the library has become our last safe haven to just exist with information present and not have our labour or information exploited for money.

Reblog to save a library (and our privacy!)

I think it’s time for us to all collectively return to the library. Get a card, go to a club meeting, volunteer on an off day, rent some equipment. You don’t even have to read a book. But since the digital world is rapidly becoming a subscription-only hellscape requiring a criminal amount of private personal information to use even CASUALLY, the library has become our last safe haven to just exist with information present and not have our labour or information exploited for money.

so embarrassing when i forget im checking someone's blog and i start scrolling through and liking and reblogging shit as if it's just my dash. it feels like wandering into someone else's apartment and not noticing and making myself lunch

I would LOVE to read this

high key would LOVE to write a story between two aroaces and put them into situations that are widely perceived as romantic. just to make the audience question the way they view love and relationships. just a sprinkle of relationship anarchy... oh whoops i accidentally poured out the whole tank of relationship anarchy on them let's see what happens

when albert camus said “the sea; i didnt lose myself in it. i found myself in it” and when sylvia plath said “if i lived by the sea i would never be really sad” and when hozier said “love, when the sea rises to meet us” and when an anonymous writer said “and yet my heart wanders away, my soul roams with the sea” and when homer said “I’d rather die at sea”

I don't understand how people can just hate entire groups of people. Like recently I've been seeing posts about new anti-lgbtq+ laws and stuff and I check the comments and there's so many saying stuff along the lines of "like if you don't support/hate LGBTQ" with over 5, 6k likes and I'm just here like what is wrong with the world? WHERE did all this hate come from? Like did we not learn from the Holocaust??? Why can't we just let people live their lives? Like literally what's wrong with that???

I mean, what even is this!?

Books with songs in them >>>>>

Trying to figure out if you’re ace or aro can be so goddamn hard because it’s like, trying to find the absence of something. Imagine you’re at a pond and you want to know if there are any turtles, or fish. Say you find a turtle and you’re like “great! Now I know there are turtles.” Or a fish, now you know for sure there are fish. Or you find both, and now you know for a fact there are both turtles and fish in the pond.

But like, if you don’t find any turtles it might be that there are no turtles or maybe you’re just really shitty at looking for turtles and maybe you THINK you saw a turtle over there or maybe it was just a stick. Maybe there are only a few turtles. Maybe you need to do something special to find the turtles. Maybe a bunch of these rocks are actually turtles but you couldn’t tell them apart. Maybe there are no turtles. You have no idea. Meanwhile some people are saying “Oh there have to be turtles! You’ll find them eventually ;)” or “How many turtles have you found in your pond?” or “Try planting some vegetables at the shore to attract the turtles.” Or “Oh no! What disaster happened to your pond that there are no turtles?” And you’re just standing there wet with an empty net and a tired expression.

But whatever because whether there are turtles or fish or not your pond’s ecology works just fine without them because that’s what eco-communities do they form a system around what they have. You aren’t missing anything if you don’t have turtles you just have a pond system without turtles. If someone tried to change you by pouring a bunch of turtles into your pond it would probably fuck something up.

So you don’t have to be entirely sure. You don’t have to search every inch of the damn pond before you can decide there are probably no turtles. If you want to take the aro or ace label because you think it fits go for it. And if you do find your turtles you can rename the pond. That’s fine.

I'm obsessing over Alice Oseman books HARD. Like, how can someone create a universe in which you can relate with EVERY SINGLE CHARACTER?!