Friendly Reminder That "colorism Is A Real Issue And We Need To Adress It, So We Can Erase It" And "there

Friendly reminder that "colorism is a real issue and we need to adress it, so we can erase it" and "there are unique problems and prejudices that mixed people go through, sometimes from 'all sides' and those need to be adressed" are NOT mutually exclusive.

rly sick of y'all thinking it's ok 2 b ableist against ppl w/ npd and demonise them just bc u lot want a new mental illness 2 hate on, idc if u think ur "doing the world a favour" ur not, ur just being ableist, stop it, saying ppl w/ npd r inherently abusive monsters is not ok and it's the same as saying that every1 w/ DID is inherently a serial killer, it's just as demonising, just as inaccurate, just as ableist and no just bc u wanna play doctor and try 2 say that u think ur abuser might've had npd doesn't make it ok 2 act like every1 w/ npd is an abusive monster or that they were abusive bc of the npd, im friends w/ some1 w/ npd and they r the nicest person i ever met and seeing the way u lot talk abt them makes me fucking sick, ppl w/ npd r ppl and they c the way u talk abt them so mayb stop being dicks, idc if i lose followers over this, if ur honestly that ableist that u think having a diagnosis is the difference between some1 being a person and some1 being a monster then i don't want u anywhere near my blog this also goes 4 any1 who calls abusive behaviour "narcissistic behaviour" i get that u probably didn't realise that u were linking abusive behaviour 2 npd but u r and it's not ok so pls just stop doing it, if u continue then ur just adding 2 the problem

yeh as some1 who is ""white passing"" [don't like the term 4 in it's current use 4 so many reasons] ppl just always assume im white and then when i tell them i'm not they try 2 tell me that me being mixed w/ black "doesn't count" or w/e bc it wasn't 1 of my parents who's black it's my grandma but like,,,

1] it still makes me not 100% white

2] fuk u if there was a literal racial slur made 4 ppl who r "a quarter black" like me then i don't think u then get 2 turn around and call me white and say that my black side doesn't count [not putting the slur here bc i don't trust like that but if u know u know]

3] my mother despite being technically born in the uk was raised entirely in zimbabwe and doesn't rly consider herself english

4] i've experienced racism on multiple occasions despite what so many ppl like 2 think, if im black enough 2 experience racism u don't get 2 tell me im not black enough 2 call myself mixed

5] im not even fully white passable [which i would still b able 2 call myself mixed if i was i just find it weird how ppl act like i am fully white passable] like,,, my hair and body r different bc im mixed pale skin isn't the same thing as being able 2 pass as white and it's not like ppl don't notice those things abt me

sry if i got angry in the reblog im just glad some1 else is talking abt this bc it rly sucks bc it's not just white ppl who do this [which is bad enough already] but u even get monoracial poc doing this as a way of trying 2 pit the wider poc community against mixed ppl and it sucks

This isn’t like, specifically a fandom or media thing, but I’m kind of tired of the way people discuss (or often don’t discuss) multi-racial or multi-ethnic identities. Mixed people are literally so diverse and no two of us are going to have the exact same experiences. I remember once during class (I don’t remember what the exact topic or whatever was, but I think it was a writing class) we were discussing an article written about a mixed-race woman (I believe white/black) and everyone was just repeatedly referring to her as a black woman. And I didn’t say anything at the time because I was uncomfortable and I’m bad at speaking up for things that make me uncomfortable. But now I wish I had. Because maybe she thought of herself as a black woman, but none of us knew whether or not she did.

And like. I’m half-black, half-white, and I would be extremely uncomfortable if someone referred to me as a black woman. Because 1) I don’t look black. Straight-up, if you just looked at my face you would never assume I was black or part-black. I know because many people have guessed or assumed my race and they have never gotten it right. I am Ambiguously Brown. 2) I was raised by my mom, who’s white, and there are a lot of gaps in my knowledge of African-American history and culture (part of this is also a failure on the part of the American education system but what else is new). One of my friends and I (also a multi-racial woman, though not the same as me) used to joke that we were basic half-white bitches. No I would not be comfortable if someone who wasn’t a close friend, or if someone who wasn’t mixed, tried to do this with me. 3) Even if the first two weren’t true, I’m not black. I’m part black, and all aspects of my race are important to me, not just the ones that are most “obvious” to other people.

And that’s part of my biggest problem like this - people making assumptions about other mixed people’s experience with their identity. The first one that comes to mind is Keanu Reeves. I’ve definitely seen people make jokes about him being a popular unproblematic internet white guy - but he’s not white. He’s part white, part Chinese, part Hawaiian (his name is literally Hawaiian). And I can feel people rolling their eyes that it doesn’t matter or he still has privilege, so it doesn’t “count”. And I won’t deny that he may have privilege because of his appearance, but it is not your place to say that other people’s identity doesn’t count. You don’t live in other people’s brains, and you don’t know how he relates to his identity. You don’t know his experience. You don’t know how it’s affected him - or how assumptions like that affect him. This also goes for people on the opposite end of the spectrum, like my high school friend “Dimitri”, who was part black, part Native, and people typically assumed he was black. I wish now that we’d talked about this together - I don’t know how it affected him, but I do know how other people’s assumptions can affect you.

update; i had 2 go 2 a&e and it turns out i don't hav anything fatal i just hav mystery illness

love having an asthma attack so bad that i can't fkin stand or walk w/out feeling faint or being in pain a month l8r and then being told by my dr that i don't need a wheelchair since im not an old person and 2 "drink lots of fluids"/s

so recently i decided 2 go back and read the 1st peter pan book now as an adult and hav concluded that peter is awful and hook was right 2 want 2 kill him in this essay i will,,, ok but fr tho let's begin w/ other stuff aside from that, 1 of the things i was *not* expecting was that from the way J M Barry wrote hook,,, hook was black, he's constantly described as "the black pirate" and also was described w/ an old timey word 2 mean "some1 who has a dark complexion" so basically disney whitewashed captain hook and then every1 else copied disney's design so now every1 thinks hook was white, not relevant 2 the point im making here but i thought it was interesting

ok so now the actual bs peter pan is a over 100 year old pedo, hook in the story was said 2 b black beard's bo'sun which means that peter has been around since b4 then [will explain y b4 then and not at the same time l8r] now this book [peter and wendy] was published in 1911 according 2 the website im using 2 read it [bc i rly don't feel comfortable owning a copy of a book written by an alleged pedo] [c also J M Barry's other work where he wrote a book 4 a family who he was friends w/ abt their irl baby being stripped naked as a gift] and i also no longer hav the audio cassettes of the book i had as a kid and even if i did i don't hav any way 2 play the audio, however if peter is alive in 1911 and was also alive when hook was a child and bo'sun 2 black beard [yes some bo'sun's were children due 2 kids being enlisted in the navy and having 2 run away and a bo'sun is a job where they would just report 2 the captain if any of the crew was doing anything they weren't supposed 2 so this makes sense] peter would at this point b over 100 years old since the golden age of piracy was somewhere in the early 1600s and blackbeard himself died in 1718 according 2 google, so even if we're being generous and say that hook joined peter in 1718 that would still mean he met peter almost 200 years ago

so now onto y i think hook was younger than peter i don't remember 4 sure which book it was in [the 1st book, the 2nd or peter pan in scarlet] but i remember something abt the pirates being the lost boys that peter got bored of that grew up, which would suggest that all the pirates [hook included] were once lost boys, i am choosing 2 stick w/ this given that it is very in character 4 peter, 4 example in the 1st book it's stated that as well as killing the pirates [yes, killing, not fighting and "defeating" them] he also kills lost boys, this is shown by the book saying he "thins the heard" and then again when tootles tells peter 2 kill him and the only reason he doesn't is that wendy stops him

so what makes me think peter is a pedo? i can think of off the top of my head [from what i hav re-read of the 1st book] -a line where it is said that peter "does something" 2 the kids 2 make them fit their trees -peter pan's name being based on a word that was at the time a kid word 4 penis -him sharing a bed w/ all the lost boys and there being a "strict rule against turning w/out giving a signal at which all of them would turn" [which kinda implies they r all spooning] -peter being the father and wendy the mother -his constant flirting w/ wendy -hook being thankful 2 hav gone into the hideout "unmolested" [which suggests that he was by peter when hook was a lost boy] -the bit where wendy asks for a type of flower called "babies" for her house they r building around her and the lost boys not knowing that this is a type of flower and knowing peter doesn't either "rush to start singing again before peter orders babies" so basically they knew that peter would demand for them 2 try 2 make babies if they didn't stop him

aside from that peter is also just abusive even if u don't agree w/ me abt him being a pedo [again just what I remember off the top of my head from book 1] -despite what the films say, in the book his imaginary meals only made him feel full but he hit those that didn't play along -as mentioned previously he kills lost boys -he hits the fairies -he kills pirates even when they aren't going anywhere near him "for fun" -the lost boys "aren't allowed 2 know anything peter doesn't know abt" -2 make the lost boys look different from him he makes them make clothes out of bearskin from bears they hav 2 kill themselves

so yeh peter pan was awful and hook was right 2 try 2 kill him given that peter was just kidnapping children and then doing all this bs

as some1 who is "white passing" this is bs erasure is not a privilege, being mistaken 4 ur oppressors and being pitted against ur own community is not a privilege not 2 mention racism is not only colourism there's also featurism ect [sry if bad spelling i haven't seen that word written down b4] p much none of us that r considered "white passing" even look fully white bc most of us still look different bc of being mixed even if it's not our skin colour that looks different and those of us who do still belong in our community [speaking as some1 considered white passing but my hair and body shape r different bc im mixed]

some1 acting like us saying we're mixed is asking 4 special treatment

just 2 b clear the problem isn't ppl not guessing our race right it's ppl insisting that they know what race we r better than we do even when we tell them that we're mixed and then being racist even when they do acknowledge it

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fuck this im having a bad day bc of ppl being weird abt me being mixed w/ black and mixed w/ white so im just making this a masterpost of all the kinda bs i deal w/ bc so many ppl don't seem 2 believe me when i say me and others like me go thru this shit, gonna reblog this w/ any new shit i find

apparently they r comparing us 2 coffee now

weird race fetish bs

weird eugenics bs

in case u thought it was only 4 coffee cups