Uhh... So I Think I Saw A Post That I Think Had The Map Pride Flag On It But I Couldn't Remember If It

uhh... so i think i saw a post that i think had the map pride flag on it but i couldn't remember if it was that or not and so then i tried 2 use the search feature 4 "map pride flag warning" 2 c if i could find posts abt ppl warning ppl abt it so i could remember what the map pride flag looks like so i could recognise it when i c it but then tumblr said that that search was "against community guidelines"? so now i can't search tumblr 2 try 2 recognise dangerous stuff when i c it.... bc "safety" ig.... wow....

If the idea that trans men don’t exist for the benefit of cis women bothers you, sit down and ask yourself why. Why do you think a minority group exists for the benefit of those who are privileged over them.

Before you say the reason trans men in the workplace is good because they’ll reduce sexism against cis women, ask yourself why you’re putting the responsibility on trans men to make cis men treat women better rather than asking cis men to treat women better. Do you think trans men caused them to behave like this? If not, why do you think this is a reasonable expectation of trans men?

Before you talk about the ways trans men make better boyfriends, ask yourself how you’ll react when the real trans men you meet don’t meet that expectation you’re building up for them. Will you get offended if he rejects you for any reason (gay, aromantic, he’s just not interested, etc)? Will you get upset if he doesn’t want to have sex with you (ace, not in the mood, etc)? You expect him to not be misogynistic and ~understand women’s experiences~ but will you expect yourself to never be transphobic and understand trans men’s struggles? Will you fight for him if he goes to an OBGYN and they tell him they can’t help him cause he makes the cis women there uncomfortable by being a man seeing an OBGYN? Will you use gender neutral language around the subject of abortion and reproductive rights? Do you expect him to be your protector solely or do you plan to protect and defend him when he’s the one in danger due to transphobia? Do you see trans men as people or potential boy toys who know where the clit is and will eat your pussy upon request and listen to your problems while having none of his own?

And before you say “nobody says this, this didn’t happen,” why is it you’re so quick to assume trans men are lying about the types of cis women we’ve encountered? I wrote this because I made a post saying trans men don’t exist for cis women’s benefit and had someone respond with “but you can’t expect me people to ignore the perks!!! Trans men are trans men not men!!” As if it’s ridiculous for me to suggest I’m not an object.

speaking as a wheelchair user myself who has tried both electric and manual wheelchairs i thought i would add my thoughts on this since OP is asking

so first of all, i really like how comfy and cozy the design looks, it looks like it would be very comfortable to sit on (more comfortable than my wheelchair tbh 😅) the design overall i think is just very nice and has a cozy feel 2 it but im going 2 give some notes, not exactly criticism but just stuff 2 keep in mind 4 if u were drawing different poses ect

okay so the 1 small piece of criticism i hav is that i don't c where the battery 4 the wheelchair is meant 2 go, this is a fairly easy fix tho and wouldn't require changing much of the design since in most wheelchairs the battery is stored in a small compartment under the chair itself

so as 4 just notes:

1) not necessarily an issue but the edge of a couch style backing like it looks like this chair has i find can b quite hard but that's from the perspective of some1 w/ chronic pain, it might b worth considering what specific needs ur character has and if they would mayb need a higher backrest that stopped above their head or a backrest w/ a seperate headrest or some extra cushioning there or so on, as some1 w/ chronic fatigue and chronic pain which is especially bad in my back i really benefit from having a bigger back rest with head rest

2) this wheelchair looks 2 b a little on the wider side, not an issue some wheelchairs IRL r just like that, however it does mean that going thru narrow spaces and doorways might not b an option

3) the wheelchair looks similar 2 a couch chair so it's probably going 2 take a lot of maintenance 2 keep it clean if this person is going outside if its made out of standard fabric instead of something they can just wipe down

4) the wheelchair looks like it's 1 where the main wheels r in the back instead of the middle or the front, this is pretty common but it also leads 2 a bigger swing when turning the chair and less of an ability 2 make tight turns so this likely wouldn't b ideal 4 a character that needs 2 make tight turns regularly

5) not a criticism since some IRL wheelchairs also have this problem so it's just realistic but since we can't see the back of the chair im assuming there isn't a wheel at the back 2 prevent tipping, meaning that the character could tip over in their chair, since im not sure what genre of story or art ect this is 4 i thought i would bring this up, that combined with the chair being probably slightly top heavy means that the character wouldn't be able to safely make many risky maneuvers in their chair that could result in them tipping over on their side or backwards, so no sudden tight turns or trying to go up kurbs probably unless the character in question is the type to decide to do this anyway and is then shown having some wobble on their chair maybe?

so yeah hope this helped!/g

Hey! Bit of an odd post but i wanted to ask for people's opinions on this electric wheelchair design/concept!

I know its not very realistic (like a real world design?) but i tried to go for something more stylized/cartoony and comfortable looking- but im unsure if i strayed too far into unrealism. The character is also still in very early developement- so i cant tell much about them yet. (apologies)

Any/all critique would be extremely welcome and very appreciated!! 😀🌷💖💕💖💕

personally i think he's gay, especially considering the creator of the character says he fits the song "no girl's toy" that was sung by raggedy andy, as a gay guy 2 me personally that song is abt being a gay guy who's tired of society thinking that being a gay guy means u hav 2 b an accessory 4 straight women by being the "gay bestie" that combined with him having a lot of weird feelings abt being around women is super relatable 2 me specifically bc of being a gay guy

if i had 2 guess i think a lot of the reason ppl don't think he's a gay guy is bc of a few misconceptions abt stuff (long rant incoming!)

1) 4 some reason a lot of straight women don't get that we feel uncomfortable around them and don't know that half the time when we do play into the "gay best friend" trope it's as a defence mechanism bc of our gayness being seen as inherently predatory if we don't force ourselves into the "gay best friend" trope and so we're often forced 2 pick between being seen as an accessory or a threat, Jax is in a situation where since he's not part of society in the same way anymore it's a bit safer for him to not rely on that defence mechanism as much, also combining that with my hc that he has ASPD (i hav ASPD and noticed some traits of that in him) i think he's probably just so fucking tired of having 2 put up w that shit 4 so long

2) simply put, Jax has a lot of women in the fandom simping over him so they probably don't want him 2 b gay bc that would mean he isn't into them, not saying this is a bad thing, he's a fictional character and his sexual orientation isn't confirmed rn in any way just saying its probably partly y a lot of ppl r saying they don't think he's gay

3) the creator of the character said that he dresses more modestly and a lot of ppl think that all gay men dress very revealing, nothing wrong with how any1 dresses but it's annoying that ppl don't get that some gay men just prefer 2 dress modestly especially given how sexualised our identities are in society, this is also probably partly what lead 2 a lot of ppl hc Jax as ace

4) in a similar vein 2 the 1st point a lot of ppl heard "Jax feels uncomfortable around women" and immediately assumed this was bc he was a straight fuckboy misogynist

anyway that's just my hc on y i think Jax is a gay guy like me but also my theories as 2 y a lot of ppl think he's either straight or ace

I’d be genuinely curious to know how people headcanon Jax’s sexual orientation, because in my mind he’s like, undoubtedly gay, but that doesn’t seem to be the majority opinion!

Can I do polls? I’m gonna do a poll.

ultimately a lot of feminists will look down on or outright condemn transmasculinity and transmanhood simply because it is not narratively satisfying. because transmasculine identity and joy does not mesh with their feminism-as-defined-by-cis-women. they see trans men&mascs and, immediately or deep down, feel disappointed. by the womanhood dropouts. feel that transmasculine people will always be less feminist, or that they relinquished their place when they "quit" or "betrayed" their "sisters." they may not even hate trans men, they may not even be cisgender, it's just that they think it would be such a better look for the movement if you didn't... you know.

anyways. without acknowledging this feminist discomfort with transmasculinity and transmanhood, how it's caused by the friction between trans m&ms and cissexist feminism, we'll keep being failed over and over and over again by our own communities. we need to change the narratives we prize instead of treating trans men's identity as a problem to be solved.

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