Im Not Sure Who Needs To Hear This But Its Normal And Okay To Be DISABLED By Your DISABILITY.

I’m not sure who needs to hear this but it’s normal and okay to be DISABLED by your DISABILITY.

Sometimes it is going to stop you from doing things, and that’s okay. Sometimes it’s going to get in your way or make you struggle or cause problems in your life. But that’s okay, that’s why it’s called a disability.

You don’t need to fight yourself or “not let it hold you back” because a lot of times it will, but that’s the point.

Please, please be considerate of your fat friends' needs and limitations. Fat bodies are heavy to carry around. I move about the world slower than my thin peers, and I've often had to choose between pushing myself to keep a pace that takes absolutely all my energy, or being left behind, when walking in a group. I don't always feel safe to ask that everyone walk slower, because there's a prevalent idea in society that fat people need to exert themselves as much as possible at all times in the service of weight loss, and that we never "really" need rest, therefore it's a good thing whenever we're exhausted. Fat people and thin people alike are taught that fatness is a flaw, one that fat people ourselves are to blame for, so we're not entitled to any accommodation or consideration. A friend of mine who is fat recently told me about a dinner party she went to where the chairs were far too small for her and she was sitting very uncomfortably. After the meal she politely suggested moving the party to the couch, but the others didn't want to. She spent another couple of hours in unnecessary pain, and didn't dare tell them about it. I love my thin friends, but some of them just don't realize that I weigh probably twice as much as them, and yet I balance it all on the same size feet and carry it on about the same size bones. I'm like if they had a whole other them to carry around at all times. Why would that not have an impact on how I function? Please - take us into consideration when we're part of activities. Ask us which activities work and which don't. Adjust the pace so no one has to be dry heaving and sweating barrels on what's supposed to be a casual walk. Make sure venues have seating that fits us. Make it safe for us to speak up if we need something. When we do, don't treat us like we're the problem. Finally: yes, we have heard of losing weight. Even those of us who might (and many never will, whether you like it or not), won't do it on a moment's notice. If your response to "fat people deserve accommodations" is "what if they weren't fat though", you're playing a fantasy game. It's pointless. We are fat and we are here and we do partake in society. Work with that.

btw if your disability has changed the way your body looks in any way i love you

The person I reblogged this from deserves to be happy.

breaking news: if you establish boundaries, the world does not explode and you are not placed into horrible people jail

This post is also very much for people (like myself) whose alopecia areata doesn’t just affect them from the neck up, by the way.

Your body is a work of art.

Patchy body hair is beautiful

“Bald is beautiful”

Okay, but what about patchy?

Why, when I told my doctor that I had come to terms with my alopecia areata and didn’t want to treat my visible hair loss, did she give me a recommendation for a hair growth serum anyway?

Patchy is beautiful

The patterns it creates, unique to every person

The thicker spots that turn to soft, thin hairs as you run your hand across your scalp

The halo when you’re backlit, speckled like light filtering through tree leaves

Beautiful.