Tag Yourself: Autumn Edition

tag yourself: autumn edition

tea or hot chocolate? cozy books or halloween movies? plaid or corduroy? foggy mornings or twinkly nights? orange or black? pumpkin or apple pie? wool or velvet? picking fruit or carving pumpkins? libraries or coffee shops? cinnamon or peanut butter? spooky or cozy halloween? candles or fairy lights?

Subtle ways to change how people view you:

Lean in slightly to appear more interested in the conversation

Speak slower and softer if you wish to seem like a dream / at peace

Keep your bag organized, when you reach to grab things out of it you’ll seem more put together if there’s little to no struggle to find things

Using a fragrance oil on your wrist and under your ears will seem more Sophisticated than spraying yourself with perfume

Read poetry, keep a select few favorites in your mind. When people ask what you enjoy, say poetry and provide an example. You’ll appear more emotionally intelligent

If you’re going to fake smile, move the muscles under your eyes so that your cheeks raises enough to halfway squint. It seems more genuine that way.

Walk with your head up everywhere. And I mean everywhere.

Stop messing with your little imperfections only you notice. There’s no need to straighten your shirt, rub your hand down your pants etc. Leave it be and you will appear more confident.

I think 2016-style "Men's rights activist" misogyny really did a number on our ability to talk about gender online in ways that we have yet to fully unpack.

At this point everyone is so jaded from dealing with those trolls that any time a men's issue of any kind is brought up the kneejerk reaction is "ugh, this again! Reverse sexism doesn't exist!" even if nobody said anything about "reverse sexism."

That's how we got into a situation where a statement like "trans men and tranmascs face specific struggles and prejudices. Maybe we should have a word for that so we can talk about how it affects us" sets off the MRA Troll Alarm and gets everyone on the defensive.

combining the "does it spark joy?" and "if it sucks, hit da bricks" mindsets together for ultimate enlightenment

one of my favorite lotr facts is that gondorians speak sindarin as a first language and yet when faramir was talking to frodo and sam about cirith ungol he was like “we don’t know what’s in there.” like faramir. cirith ungol is sindarin for “pass of the spider.” do the math