BPD Culture Is Realising That No Matter What You Do The People Around You And Who You Love And Care About

BPD culture is realising that no matter what you do the people around you and who you love and care about will always end up feeling like they need to walk on eggshells around you, no matter how hard you try to minimise or control or regulate your symptoms, because eventually you will show your symptoms because you cant hide and mask forever, and when that happens everything will be ruined.

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when i was little, i would look in the mirror, thinking "am i real? am i even here? why am i here? is this even real?". still happens to this day.

quite bpd is receiving a curse within an already cursed disorder. you will wholeheartedly consider that you are faking because you do not meet the criteria, as you are not manifesting the classic symptoms.

but quite bpd is way more than a page of the DSM-V with its 9 criteria diagnosis scheme

quite bpd is having a fearful avoidant attachment style. you do crave intimacy but you would never dare to ask for it. you deprive yourself of love because deep down you consider yourself unworthy of it

quite bpd is fastened images of violence in your imagination, but when you open your eyes and look at your hands and legs, you are still as a statue. nonetheless event after event, conflict after conflict, the anger remains repressed and ready to surface in explosive but rare fits of rage

quite bpd is endless social isolation. something de-clicked in your mind and distancing yourself from the world does not allow any abandonment, be it perceived or real

people pleasing comes as second nature to you, you wouldn’t handle rejection or disagreement so you do as your told not matter how inconvenient and inconsiderate it feels. you turned into a self sacrificing machine and the stop button broke long ago

quite bpd is looking at yourself in the mirror and hating what you see. the feelings of worthlessness consume you. you feel inadequate, broken. the hopelessness turns into self harm and suicidal ideation.

but you learnt how to mask all these struggles and sufferings so well. you excel at pretending to be fine, the facade of normality and happiness never falls off - you wouldn’t allowed it.

and the others will have no clue how you’re constantly on edge and at war at yourself.

and the words of invalidation you will tell yourself linger and you shrug it off - what to get help for if “i am fine”, right?

tired of self-sabotaging myself

Stoic mindset

1. Your happiness is your responsibility.

2. Everything is temporary.

3. We are social beings with a social duty.

4. A philosophy of life must be lived.

5. Happiness is not found in superficial pleasures.

6. We are social beings with a social responsibility.

7. Structure your goals so they become attainable because they are.

8. Be attached to nothing.

9. If you are too scared to lose it, you shouldn’t have it.

10. Associate with people who can improve your life.

11. Accept what cannot be changed.

12. Avoid materialism. Live simply.

13. Do not consider yourself a victim.

14. Live below your means.

15. Maximize positive emotions. Minimize negative emotions.

16. Do not let emotions control your life.

17. Be proud of your achievements but don’t be arrogant.

18. Be disciplined.

19. No quick fixes. Put in the work and do it right.

20. Don’t put yourself in a box. Be open minded and hold yourself to the same standard you hold others.

21. Do not judge a book by its cover.

22. Avoid drama.

23. Learn to forgive. Do not become the pain you feel or the people or things that hurt you.

24. Be there for the people you love.

25. Educate yourself.

26. Give yourself the chance to learn from everyone even when you disagree.

27. Think for yourself.

28. Demand the best for yourself.

29. You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is a habit.

30. Be as you wish to seem.

31. Every obstacle is an opportunity.

32. The more you value things outside of your control, the less control you have.

33. Once you start looking for outside approval you have already compromised your integrity.

34. You become what you give your attention to.

35. The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.

I am tired of ppl that tell ppl with mental health to get over it work through it your no different like shut up you don't know what's it like in my head they just want you to get over so they don't have to deal with you