You Can Be Sexually Dominant And Still Be Deeply Tender. Being A Dom Does Not Mean You Arent A Soft And

you can be sexually dominant and still be deeply tender. being a dom does not mean you aren’t a soft and loving human being

Astrology observations

-Earth signs tend have really good memory

-Libra risings who have Virgo in the 12th house tend to go bed on the earlier side also they can be very organized and have a set routine

-Mercury in the 1st house can be really charming they know what to say and really know how use the right words to get what they want

-earth moons really do love their sleep and are really good at taking of plants animals and can make some good ass food

-Aries risings really do have nice eyebrows and their jawline can cut cheese

-Gemini placements even if they are introverted can be really good at socializing they know what say and what words to use to get what they want don’t underestimate geminis

-Aquarius risings tend have unique and angular features that photograph really well

-Capricorn risings and Scorpio risings can have such sultry eyes like your put under a spell or something when u make eye contact

-Aries mars are similar to Aries moons when it comes to emotions very quick like they’re mad and then their over it so fast

- Capricorn moons can be really surprising like they’re not just cold and stoic I’ve noticed that cap moons can catch u off guard like they’ll tell that they did do this crazy thing that u wouldn’t expect them to do

-I’ve noticed that with Pisces placements people can tell that they have a Pisces placements well it’s cause of their eyes no matter the shape there just something about their eyes they do have really dreamy eyes

-Gemini/Virgo/mercury dominates/ascendant/mercury-ascendant aspects eyes can be really expressive like they express their eyes when they’re talking or observing what’s going on around them can and have really quick movements/reflexes 

-Venus in the 6th house people have a really nice waist shape/line

-Leo placements express their emotions like they’re performing 

Aquarius moon and Sagittarius moon friendship: two detached besties who are emotionally crippled but secretly crave affection

Cancer rising and Scorpio rising relationship

Capricorn❤️‍🩹🎱

• first things first, if a capricorn is judging you, you will know by the look on their face.

• usually minding their business and somehow has the most haters.🤔

• they don’t need approval. they are their own homes, their own pillars.

• naturally capricorns are loners. they won’t join a team if they know they’ll be put the background. they want to reign.

• if they do join forces with someone, they will make sure they are an expect at every subject. they refuse to lack in any category. they don’t want to be caught off guard not knowing something. and strive to be fully capable of holding their own.

• they seek to oversee situations and observe from the top. which is why their always climbing.

• they want to know that the actions they take are making them better. if not, then they question why they’re doing it and will stop if the reason is not satisfactory to them.

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• once others get beneath the shell of a capricorn, they become really amusing.

• capricorns have a goofy and witty sense of humor. typically, a sarcastic response to anything that annoys them.

• they are known to be more carefree as they grow older, becoming an adult that acts like a child.

• when they finally let loose, they are totally different and less intimidating.

• capricorns NEED a release and getaway from everyday life from time to time.

• they love parties, music, sex, alcohol, and drugs. they crave that euphoric state, as it separates them from the seriousness of life.

• in their daily lives, they can seem quiet, cool or mean to others. but most capricorns are going through war inside their heads. just give them time to go through there problems alone.

• and although they are stoic most of the time and look disinterested, they are very sweet individuals.

• with age comes more success for a capricorn. they are the type to still have goals as they grow older and still have the heart to chase their dreams.

• they achieve so many milestones in their lifetime.(if evolved) they use time to their benefit and take it seriously.

• capricorns age with such grace.♠️

• as they get older they become easier on themselves, lifting that weight that thought they needed to carry.

• many aged capricorns never loose their youth.

• capricorns are known to be excellent bullshit detectors. it may be hard to manipulate them because their calculating mind is always open, like a chess board.

• even with friends, capricorns tell the honest truth and sometimes it hurts. but they are so blunt because they want their friends to succeed.

• they are either social or anti social. communicating with others have to feel beneficial to them in some way.

• they hold a certain level of fearlessnes to them and do not respond well to stuck up people or injustice. and if someone tries to embarrass them or tease them, their horns come out. they speak their mind to anyone. (even authority)

• they never back down from a challenge. so if others think they will get away with murder, wait till it’s capricorns turn.

• they are patient and will wait as long as needed to get even. they wait for the right time to strike. when their opponent least expects it.🎲

•they are naturally put in the position of leadership due to their common sense and no nonsense attitude.

• wanna know how to easily spot a capricorn? by how well they’re put together. their fashion game is always on point.

• capricorns somehow seem to have it all together, even when below the surface they don’t. they walk around looking like the ceo of a successful company.

• their air of confidence is magnetizing. they are always busy trying new projects, which causes them to be stalked sometimes.(usually on social media) they attract an audience who can’t help but wonder what is going to happen next.

• they prefer to have schedules so that they can keep up with all the things they need to do.

• they stay polished. they are they type to be consistently working out and watching what they eat, keeping up with skincare routines, paying bills on time, etc.

• they like to be on top of things.

• unfortunately, this is another sign that suffers from the resting bitch face and is seen as arrogant but that is false.

• capricorns are good at being bad. especially in movies where they’re acting.

• they always play the perfect vampire or perfect villain. being naturally tempting, charming and eerie. they also love horror movies and side with bad guys.

• from a childhood they are into very dark, forbidden subjects. when you tell a capricorn that they shouldn’t, it’s basically propelling them further to that thing. this gets them into trouble a-lot but they can’t help but wonder💭

• driven by an emotional nature, they seek to be fulfilled not only physically but spiritually as well.

• most capricorns are addicted to music. whether they are just listeners, singers, writers, or musicians, they deeply feel understood through songs. capricorn artists make a darker kind of genre and style. they make songs that discuss deep topics.

• shyness is normal for capricorns. they dislike too much spotlight and would rather stay low key, no matter how beautiful or talented they are.

• it takes a while for capricorn to recharge and go back into the light but when it’s work time, they are consistent and when it’s rest time, nobody dare bother them or their life will be on the line.🎯

• they are comfortable enough to be still and don’t mind being in the background for a few. cause when they shine they outshine.⚡️

• even when capricorns have nothing, they maintain a regal nature. having the ability to visualize their dream selves and act it out as if they have it now.

• they hold themselves to certain standards and are always growing. most of the time they do not know what will happen, but they keep a brave spirit and carry on.

• they dislike too much stagnation. it’s hard for them to lay back when they have a kingdom to manage.

• wisdom is stored within’ them, guiding them up their mountains. no one understands how they do the things they do. how does the goat climb the mountain?

• capricorns take the limitations and rules, then challenge them.

• what others may not know is that capricorns live and breathe for their families. they’ll do anything for the ones they love. they get extremely protective and defensive if anyone is treating their loved ones wrong.

• capricorns wants a support system of people that genuinely care about them. they need people who are real and dependable, like they are. they do not want to be alone. they desire having others to lean on from time to time.

• when capricorns become successful, they shower their families with their riches as well. they want to share what they have and is at peace with knowing that everyone is taken care of.

• also, capricorns been running the game since their youth.

• when a capricorn child is free to express themselves, others will see that they have very strong personalities, like little bosses.

Aftercare (in kink/bdsm)

What is aftercare?

Aftercare is what happens after any kind of play or sex (even vanilla!). Aftercare is not just a bdsm term, everyone should have aftercare. Aftercare is for everyone, subs and doms. It’s the act of taking care of your partner after a scene or sex in general. It can be physical or vocal, but is meant to support & soothe emotional and mental needs.

Why is aftercare important?

Aftercare is not only important but necessary after play. As a dom, aftercare is my favorite part of the dynamic. But, I have learned that a lot of subs don’t realize doms need aftercare too! Aftercare is reassurance for both parties. At the end of this post, there’s a list of aftercare ideas. To further explain, aftercare serves as a reminder that each party enjoyed the play that just happened and neither are harmed or uncomfortable! Both parties need to feel like they did good and that both people feel safe. This is not the time to have an in depth conversation about what just happened, though. Keep the conversation light but with your partners well-being in mind. This goes for online play too. Clean each other up (or if you’re like me— take the time to clean up your sweet baby and praise tf out of them). subs— tell your dom you enjoyed the play, you’re okay, or just a simple thank you. If you’re non-verbal during this: this next part will help!

How do I establish aftercare?

Not everyone enjoys the same kind of aftercare. Physical aftercare like kissing, applying lotion, cuddles, is sometimes very over stimulating for some people.

Verbal aftercare like reassurance, asking questions, asking a sub to speak directly after play can also people overwhelming for people who go non-verbal during and after play.

So how do you know what someone prefers? Talk to your partner! Even if it’s a one-off kind of thing, a FWB, a kink dynamic, or a romantic relationship discuss before hand what your partner prefers.

You can do this by starting a sentence with: “After play/sex I need _____” or “I feel better when you do _____ after play.” (There are many other ways to do this as well!)

What if I don’t like aftercare?

Again, there are many types of aftercare! you don’t like physical touch or conversation afterwards? hey! that’s okay! Aftercare should always include hydration of some kind and maybe a snack! There are so many different forms aftercare.

The necessities:

make sure both parties feel comfortable, safe, and supported

hydrate!! water or gatorade are both excellent choices (water is good for you & Gatorade replenishes electrolytes)

cleaning (leave the room a mess, but if your partner prefers their body to be clean then this can be done.)

communication of some kind

for harder scenes (ex. pain play, impact play, rope play, etc.) please check your partner for any signs of physical harm. have a first aid kit ready.

do your research, know your stuff. don’t participate in play you don’t fully understand or feel fully comfortable doing. have a complete understanding of aftercare and what the scenes you do will require afterwards.

never leave your partner alone after play

Aftercare ideas

There are far more than I am listing, these are here to generate further ideas! Again, aftercare is different for everyone so these may not be for you!

In-person:

showering with your partner

taking a bath or running a bath for your partner

applying lotion (good for impact play!)

putting a blanket or clean clothes in a dryer so afterwards you or your partner feels warm and safe

watching a comfort movie/show

taking a nap

cuddles, kisses, playing with their hair

praise, praise, and more praise

have snacks ready

hydrate!! this is SO important!

ask questions about what just happened (keep it light because subspace/domspace)

color, read

hold your partner

listen to music together

Online:

reaffirming/reassuring language in the conversation

watch a movie together (there’s apps for this like discord or you can start it at the same time)

video or phone call (even if you’re just staring at each other in silence)

have your partner get water and a snack before hand so it’s ready for them

praise, praise, and more praise!!

light conversation

play an online game together

have your partner have warm clothes or a warm blanket ready before hand

clean up supplies ready before hand

reassurance is so important for both parties when you’re long distance or participating in online play