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AROMANTIC ALLOSEXUAL PEOPLE EXIST
WE ARE HERE
WE ARE REAL
IT IS POSSIBLE TO FEEL SEXUAL ATTRACTION WITHOUT ROMANTIC ATTRACTION
AROMANTIC ≠ ASEXUAL
As aro week approaches please remember that it's a week specifically for arospecs, not asexuals! If you're asexual and not aromantic then this week Is Not For You! It's not aspec week, it's arospec week!
It's not acephobic to want a week for ourselves! We deserve a week focused just on us!
sone of my close friends are aromantic, I shall give them $50
i think aromantics should get $50
i always thought romantic love was the plague and i was a plague doctor.
so here's an aro-colored plague doctor
me oversharing beneath the cut about how amatonormativity has screwed me up in ways I have never been screwed up before.
(rant beneath the cut is full of negativity, triggering, but perhaps relatable. idk. read at your own risk)
okay so let's have a mini story telling time about how romance plagued every aspect of my life until now.
My bestfriend in high school treated me of less value after she gets her boyfriend. This experience was what drove me into drawing plague doctors during valentines. These doodles were captioned with "Plague is in the air", because my friends in my circle told me to not hang out with her on that day because it's valentines day. So cool, I thought I should avoid them like they were the plague.
For the first half of college, I've been a wingman for way too many of my friends for my only female and best friend.
It has gotten to a point where the meaning of my companionship with my male friends had become solely for providing a connection to a girl they want to date.
In the long run, my bestfriend, who my 'friends' were pining for, actually has been pining for me. She asked if we could be a thing, I said yes because I thought that, romance isn't probably as disgusting as I think of it.
To protect tradition and to protect the feelings of the men she rejected (who I also wingmanned), we kept it hidden.
For the entire time, she emphasized how I was dense and oblivious about romance. For the entire time I was confused, disoriented, and even repulsed. I didn't know how to reciprocate and I certainly did not have THOSE feelings either at all.
Of course it didn't end well.
After that failed attempt at romance, I have been involved in three more encounters after that. Men suddenly started talking to me out of nowhere. Initially, I thought that they were just trying to make new friends. I didn't realize they were hitting on me but when I did, I cold-shouldered them out of my life.
The last one was the most traumatic. I have explicitly stated that he shouldn't attempt to romance me because I've admitted that I'm way too tired of dealing with it, but he was stubborn. He has also gone as far as sexualizing me against my will.
So yeah.
Amatonormativity made me lose faith in the meaning of my friendships.
It made me realize how friendship is easily overshadowed by romantic relationships.
It made me worry that my kindness is misread as a romantic gesture.
It made me constantly hate how friendship is only seen as a stepping stone for a romantic relationship.
And because amatonormativity has rendered all my significant connections meaningless, I'll spend every second of my life hating amatonormativity. I will always be repulsed at the concept that destroyed every goddamned friendship that I had. Nothing has ever made me feel THS sick. I will always think of it as the plague.
@michaelsfavgirl @charenel @cin-tim
if this post gets over 5k notes by aromantic spectrum awareness week (feb 18-24) i'll tell my homophobic "friend" that they're being homophobic and need to cut it out
“PLATOS”: An aromantic/bellusromantic piece of artwork.
Made for representing acts of affection that are mostly portrayed as romantic in non-romantic contexts. Hope y'all enjoy it. (Quick PS: The “*blush*” was put randomly because I didn't had creativity towards the end. T^T)
I WILL NEVER SHUT UP ABOUT THIS
NASA SUPPORTS THE AROS 😭😭😭😭😭
THERE IS NO GREATER ARO WIN FOR THIS ARO ACE PHYSICIST
Crush Culture - Conan Gray
Aromantic - Mike F. Roberts
Moment - Vierre Cloud (This song is aromantic, stfu)
Aromantic moodboard - Maxwell Anthony
I don't need love -Niic
Let's start a list of arospec songs:
I'll start with aro songs:
i'm so tired - troye sivan
FRIENDS- anne-marie, marshmello
break your heart- taio cruz, ludacris
never been in love- will jay
Here we go again! It's AroSpec Awareness Week!
You can go check out my blog for more info! I made many posts last year, and will probably do the same this year.
Image ID under the cut
[Image ID: Five digitally drawn pictures. They all have a green gradient background that fade into each other.
Image 1: A simple cartoon character with short brown hair, white skin and green cheeks. They're dressed in the colors of the aro flag (green, light green, white, grey, black). They're gesturing towards a central text in capital handrawn white letter that reads "It's time for Aro-Spec Awareness Week 2022". Another text typed in black says "From Feb 20th Until Feb 26th". Two white arrows are at the bottom of the image as decorations.
Image 2: The text is divided into three blocks and reads: "What does aro-spec mean ? It's short for "aromantic spectrum". Arospec people don't experience romantic attraction, or experience it differently." aromantic spectrum is written in green, romantic attraction is written in a dark red, and the rest is black. The same character previously described is standing on the right of the text as if they were saying the words. They're drawn a second time underneath the text, holding a green umbrella while saying "It's an umbrella term!". The same two white arrows are at the bottom of the image as decorations.
Image 3: The text reads: "However, arospec and acepec are two different experiences. Not every aro is ace, not every ace is aro. That distinction between romantic and sexual attraction is based on the SAM! (Split Attraction Model)". The words are typed in black except for the word aro which is green, and the word ace which is purple. A handwritten note on the side reads: "It can be used by anyone too!". The character is at the bottom of the screen and says in parenthesis: "Tho there are non SAM aro out there". The same two white arrows are at the bottom of the image as decorations.
Image 4: The image is filled with text with the exception of the character's head poking out of the bottom. It says in a handwritten white text: "Transcript at the end". At the top of the image is written "Some Vocabulary for the road:". Underneath is a list of terms in bold capital letters and their definition. "Allo: Being non-aro (alloromantic) or non-ace (allosexual)" ; "Amatonormativity: The assumption that everyone must want a lifelong monogamous romantic and sexual relationship." ; "Romance Repulsed/Favorable: How someone feels about romance! Some aro do like romance, others want nothing to do with it, and some are neutral." ; "QPR: Queer Platonic Relationship! An unique kind of commitment, determined by the people in it."
Image 5: The character is sitting on the decorative arrows at the bottom of the panel. White text above and next to them read: "This has been a brief introduction! There's a lot more to learn... so follow ASAW and be aware of your local aros! Thanks for reading!"
End ID]
what’s the point of the “aro and ace ppl aren’t oppressed!!” card to exclude us?
like first of all, aros and aces ARE oppressed in such an amatonormative world, but even if we weren’t, isn’t it the biggest goal of the lgbtq+ community to not be oppressed one day? we want a world where gay and lesbian people are no longer oppressed, which is a great thing, but when that happens, are we suddenly going to drop them from the community just because they “aren’t oppressed anymore”?
since when has oppression played a part in whether or not someone is queer?? trans women tend to get more shit than trans men even though both are severely oppressed, so are the former somehow more queer than the latter? last time i checked, the answer was, and still is, no...
if you aren’t allocishet, then you can consider yourself a member of the lgbtq+ community; not because of the oppression you face, but because you deviate from the allonormative, amatonormative, monormative, cisnormative, or heteronormative structures of society. period
i always thought romantic love was the plague and i was a plague doctor.
so here's an aro-colored plague doctor
me oversharing beneath the cut about how amatonormativity has screwed me up in ways I have never been screwed up before.
(rant beneath the cut is full of negativity, triggering, but perhaps relatable. idk. read at your own risk)
okay so let's have a mini story telling time about how romance plagued every aspect of my life until now.
My bestfriend in high school treated me of less value after she gets her boyfriend. This experience was what drove me into drawing plague doctors during valentines. These doodles were captioned with "Plague is in the air", because my friends in my circle told me to not hang out with her on that day because it's valentines day. So cool, I thought I should avoid them like they were the plague.
For the first half of college, I've been a wingman for way too many of my friends for my only female and best friend.
It has gotten to a point where the meaning of my companionship with my male friends had become solely for providing a connection to a girl they want to date.
In the long run, my bestfriend, who my 'friends' were pining for, actually has been pining for me. She asked if we could be a thing, I said yes because I thought that, romance isn't probably as disgusting as I think of it.
To protect tradition and to protect the feelings of the men she rejected (who I also wingmanned), we kept it hidden.
For the entire time, she emphasized how I was dense and oblivious about romance. For the entire time I was confused, disoriented, and even repulsed. I didn't know how to reciprocate and I certainly did not have THOSE feelings either at all.
Of course it didn't end well.
After that failed attempt at romance, I have been involved in three more encounters after that. Men suddenly started talking to me out of nowhere. Initially, I thought that they were just trying to make new friends. I didn't realize they were hitting on me but when I did, I cold-shouldered them out of my life.
The last one was the most traumatic. I have explicitly stated that he shouldn't attempt to romance me because I've admitted that I'm way too tired of dealing with it, but he was stubborn. He has also gone as far as sexualizing me against my will.
So yeah.
Amatonormativity made me lose faith in the meaning of my friendships.
It made me realize how friendship is easily overshadowed by romantic relationships.
It made me worry that my kindness is misread as a romantic gesture.
It made me constantly hate how friendship is only seen as a stepping stone for a romantic relationship.
And because amatonormativity has rendered all my significant connections meaningless, I'll spend every second of my life hating amatonormativity. I will always be repulsed at the concept that destroyed every goddamned friendship that I had. Nothing has ever made me feel THS sick. I will always think of it as the plague.
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☆ AROFUCKED/AROWEIRD
(Plain text : Arofucked/aroweird. End plain text.)
(ID : Two rectangular flags made up of six equally-sized stripes. The colors, from top to bottom, are : purple, light blue, cream, light green, forest green and dark grey. The flag on the right has a symbol in its center representing two dark grey intersecting arrows with a cream border.)
Arofucked/Aroweird : A term for when someone's aromantic identity and/or their relation to it is inherently so complex and transient that it feels unable to explain or comprehend. It can have ties to neurodivergency.
happy aro week ! here is my personal contribution, this has been spinning around in my head for weeks and it describes me perfectly. what if i was aro but what if i wasn't if you see me identify as aro yes i did because no i didn't
Reblogging to the OC blog
You’re doing great, sweetie!
posted this yesterday, but I got the day wrong 😅 my bad. Anyways, enjoy my boy being proud of himself.
Biased but #aro/ace rights!
I'M DOING AN EXPERIMENT
To prove something to a friend, please
REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
Let’s talk about the fabulous aromantics out there
HOLD UP HOW WAS I NOT AWARE OF THIS
happy ace visibility day! reminder to everyone on the ace spectrum that people can see us today and we need to be more careful when committing any potential crimes we may or may not be doing. thank you, this has been a psa
every so often you get a little too close to self-recognition through the blorbo and you gotta put that thought in a locked box for inspection at a later date