Hear Me Out- This But Performing In Front Of An Audience

hear me out- this but performing in front of an audience

"i never craved attention until i tasted yours."

PEOPLE WANT TO SIT NEXT TO ME

Hello, I’m sorry I’m in your dm, I know you don’t know me , but I’m a Nigerian trans woman who got attacked and stabbed by three men and didn’t get help from the hospital, police, or people around(proof and full story on my pinned page), that is to show you how transphobic and homophobic Nigerians can be, now I’m reaching out cause I need help to move out of this unsafe environment, please donate if you can and kindly reblog if you can’t,feel free to ask for further proof, you can even call me if you want to, my Dm is open for your requests, just help me get out of here please, I’ve a strong feeling they will try again, I don’t wanna be another story on the blogs that people will laugh at instead of finding justice for, few stories of how Nigerian LGBTQ community have been mistreated are all over my page. Please consider helping, my life is at risk and I need urgent help. I've been stucked on 70$ donation at least get me to 100$ please 🙏

i don’t currently have the fund to help but I implore anyone reading this with the resources to give support to our fellow community members in need

“what if kids identify with something and it ends up just being a phase-?” good. stop teaching and expecting kids (and adults honestly) to formulate permanent traits and ideas of themselves. everything in life is a phase. that doesn’t make it any less legitimate while you experience it. let people explore themselves and know it’s okay if what you think about yourself changes.

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

I could have sworn there was a playlist that Dave Malloy made somewhere of intentional Great Comet spoofs and old drafts of his songs, with lines like, "I have been snorkeling," and a bunch of stuff to the melody of "Pierre," including, "I used to wear sweaters." Does anyone know where that might be? 🤔 I'm pretty sure there was a Tumblr post that linked to a separate website that hosted the playlist, and that's how I first discovered it, but if I ever reblogged that at some point (this would be over five years ago now), I've lost track of it since 😔