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Writing Intimacy

i often see writers sharing a sentiment of struggling with writing kiss scenes which honestly bleeds into other portrayals of physical intimacy. i see it a lot in modernized styles of writing popularized by the recent trend in publishing to encourage short, choppy sentences and few adverbs, even less descriptive language. this makes intimacy come across awkward, like someone writing a script or clumsy recounting of events rather than a beautiful paragraph of human connection.

or just plane horniness. but hey, horny doesn't have to be mutually exclusive with poetic or sensual.

shallow example: they kissed desperately, tongues swirling and she moaned. it made her feel warm inside.

in depth example: she reached for the other woman slowly and with a small measure of uncertainty. the moment her fingers brushed the sharp, soft jaw of her companion, eliza's hesitance slid away. the first kiss was gentle when she finally closed the distance between them. she pressed her lips lightly to gabriella's in silent exploration. a tender question. gabriella answered by meeting her kiss with a firmer one of her own. eliza felt the woman's fingers curling into her umber hair, fingernails scraping along her scalp. everything inside eliza relaxed and the nervousness uncoiled from her gut. a warm buzz of energy sunk through her flesh down to the very core of her soul. this was right. this was always where she needed to be.

the first complaint i see regards discomfort in writing a kiss, feeling like one is intruding on the characters. the only way to get around this is to practice. anything that makes you uncomfortable in writing is something you should explore. writing is at its best when we are pushing the envelope of our own comfort zones. if it feels cringy, if it feels too intimate, too weird, too intrusive, good. do it anyway! try different styles, practice it, think about which parts of it make you balk the most and then explore that, dissect it and dive into getting comfortable with the portrayal of human connection.

of course the biggest part comes to not knowing what to say other than "they kissed" or, of course, the tried and true "their lips crashed and their tongues battled for dominance" 😐. so this is my best advice: think beyond the mouth. okay, we know their mouths are mashing. but what are their hands doing? are they touching one another's hair? are they scratching or gripping desperately at one another? are they gliding their hands along each other's body or are they wrapping their arms tightly to hold each other close? do they sigh? do they groan? do they relax? do they tense? are they comfortable with each other or giddy and uncertain? is it a relief, or is it bringing more questions? is it building tension or finally breaking it?

get descriptive with the emotions. how is it making the main character/pov holder feel? how are they carrying those emotions in their body? how do they feel the desire in their body? desire is not just felt below the belt. it's in the gut, it's in the chest, it's in the flushing of cheeks, the chills beneath the skin, the goosebumps over the surface of the flesh. everyone has different pleasure zones. a kiss might not always lead desire for overtly sexual touches. a kiss might lead to the desire for an embrace. a kiss might lead to the impulse to bite or lick at other areas. a kiss could awaken desire to be caressed or caress the neck, the shoulder, the back, the arms etc. describe that desire, show those impulses of pleasure and affection.

of course there is the tactile. what does the love interest taste like? what do they smell like? how do they kiss? rough and greedy? slow and sensual? explorative and hesitant? expertly or clumsily? how does it feel to be kissed by them? how does it feel to kiss them?

i.e. examine who these individuals are, what their motives and feelings are within that moment, who they are together, what it looks like when these two individuals come together. a kiss is not about the mouth. it's about opening the door to vulnerability and desire in one's entire body and soul.

"They are fucking brothers/sisters/brother and sister!", "Yes, I respect, but they are brothers!!!", "They are family!", "Who ever ships them, they have brain damage".

So? Your reality is ruined? You're the one who has brain damage. You're the one who harassing people for shipping. You're the one who insulting them and blackmailing them for shipping incest or even not.

Really. What's wrong with these people today? Lately I starting searching Pinterest for any pins or Ideas, something funny. There's full of antis, not even on TikTok. EVERYWHERE.

If someone telling you to respect someone opinion and their taste, so why you writing "yes, but..." under person comment who changed "you" that about respect and letting ships others what the hell they wants?

Antis love to talk about digital footprints and how proshippers are never gonna find jobs because of what they post online. Have the antis ever considered their digital footprints are also up for bids here? I don't think a potential employer will like seeing you send death and rape threats to people over fiction more than what I write in fiction. Just saying

Look what I found. Another brainless anti. This make me wanna ship incest even more

Curious, that's why I'm gonna to ask you. And even maybe make antis angry as fuck.

You have more incestuous ships instead of Ashley/Andrew? (Or maybe I'm mistaken? You ships them?) Lately I'm curious if people have so many incestuous ships.

I remember being into incestuous ships between 2016-2018 when I teenager and antis make me feel bad so I stopped and deleted my arts on Instagram :)

Now, I'm gonna back to my old illegal, beautiful ships, even feel little weird, because I came to this from very long time. How to not to feel this and how to prepare yourself for creating content because I have one idea for art from few hours and finally I want to start creating >.<

Remember, I don't compare fiction to reality. This is just little "guilty" feeling xd

Not that many tbh, although I do ship Jodi and Sam from Stardew Valley occasionally, I just don't really share or talk about it because I don't know anyone else who does, and I interact with a lot of sdv ask blogs and don't wanna make them feel weird lmao.

I think I did ship more incest but I just forgot, or it's hard to think of them of the top of my head.

Other than that I just prefer some dynamics like brother x sister, mother x son, but not father x son or father x daughter I guess.

If you wanna make art, do it, right now. There's an audience for it somewhere and laugh when the antis complain lol. Other than that I'm kinda lacking advice because I don't really make incest art.