Thot Daughter Or Gay Son?
Thot daughter or gay son?
Everinn and Emillian are the thot daughter and gay son.
Meredith's puritan homophobic ass got both.
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As someone who really enjoys both reading and writing bantery couples, but who is also a victim (and survivor 💪🏻) of prolonged verbal abuse, it can be very triggering when fic writers think they’re writing banter, but are actually writing verbal abuse (especially as it’s NEVER tagged as such)
The line between banter and verbal abuse is actually very thick, so here’s some tips on how to do better:
1. Banter is mutual. That is very key. It is NEVER one person constantly mocking the other with none given back. That’s not banter. Both parties must be in on the joke.
2. Think about your characters. What are their triggers, sensitive spots, and insecurities? You MUST know those, and so must both of your characters. Then don’t write banter that pushes at those things (exception being if one’s partner discovers the trigger in text and if boundaries are clearly communicated and set so that thing is not teased about again). The fun part about bantery relationships is how well the characters must know each other and any boundaries to enjoy saying things to each other that you can’t say to someone you’re not as close with. In order to write that, you must know the characters that well yourself. Do the work.
3. Both characters must be having fun. If they’re not having fun teasing each other in a scene, think about why and have them communicate in another way
4. Banter is light hearted and generally jokey. A character saying “you’re ugly and worthless” is not banter. “I can’t believe I have to spend the rest of my life with this idiot” while shaking their head in bemusement after their partner does something harmless but stupid is (provided that their partner is in on the joke)
5. Think about the relationships that you, the writer, have with your friends and loved ones. If you have teasing relationships with someone in your life, draw on that experience. Think about the tone used and types of things said when you’re teasing your friends. If you don’t have any teasing relationships in your life, and that isn’t a communication style you’re comfortable with for yourself, see if you can do some research and inform your writing using the relationships of other people in your life, or even media if you have to (though be careful with that, and make sure the banter in said media is true banter and not abuse)
6. Then, if you have ever been bullied, think about the types of things and the tone that was used in that situation. Then don’t write that as banter.
7. Banter will occur in situations where both parties are comfortable with it and with each other. Don’t have one character call the other a “sensitive idiot” if they’re crying, that’s just mean
8. Banter is not yelling. Banter is not yelling. Read that again. Banter is not one character yelling at the other. That is, at best, fighting.
9. Banter is done in good spirits. Tone is KEY. There is a massive difference between “you’re an idiot” with a character shaking their head in fond exasperation and “you’re an IDIOT!” with the character angry and yelling
10. And finally, if you write one character constantly teasing the other in a way that constantly oversteps boundaries and isn’t mutual and not done with love, and the other character TEXTUALLY being upset by this, don’t tag that as banter. Tag that as verbal abuse. Because that’s what it is. Thank you.
(PS: if you’re not confident that your banter is banter and not abuse, find a beta. Preferably a beta who is confident in that area and isn’t afraid to tell you what’s what)
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