Not That Anybody Asked, But I Think It's Important To Understand How Shame And Guilt Actually Work Before

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

i just had the funniest experience in vr chat, i joined a random server and the one i joined had Japanese people so i waddled around in my goofy club penguin avatar that i have saved, after a while a guy walks up to me and clones my avatar so were both penguins then another guy shows up and clone my avatar

now keep in mind there only speaking Japanese i don’t know what they are saying, then another guy joins in, so i got a group of three penguin friends

we just waddle around and goof about, the one of them tries to talk to me, but not only do i not have a mic i also don’t speak Japanese, they figure out i don’t speak Japanese and start listing various places, they get the part of being European right, and after listing a lot of places they ask if im from the UK and when i nod they all just start cheering. after hanging out for a while one of them gets real close to me and whispers…

“penguin brothers forever”

Honestly, this sounds fucking FANTASTIC to me, and we should do it. Cry harder, Mitch.

Trending 27th - June 2024

This month, it will have been 8 years since The End of the Galaxy, Wander Over Yonder’s second season finale (NOT series finale for reasons only shrewd fans would know), premiered. If you watched this episode all the way to the end of the credits, you’d know the crew never planned on stopping there. Even so, Craig is seemingly under the impression that Disney has little-to-no interest in WOY, which might be why he never went back to the company after he left Netflix, where he got to tell the story of Kid Cosmic in no more than 24 episodes and end it on his own terms. Just recently, he revealed his next show under the Hanna-Barbera Studios Europe banner: Foster’s Funtime for Imaginary Friends. Aimed at preschoolers and taking place after Goodbye to Bloo, this Cartoonito series will see Bloo acting as a (clears throat) mentor for the smaller kid-like imaginary friends and showing them around Foster’s. As for the Powerpuff Girls revival, it was only in development, but not in production (I might have a reason, but I digress). Regardless, WOY still has unfinished business, and the more we spread awareness, the more likely Disney will get the message and invite Craig back to work on ending it his way, once he’s done with his current projects, that is.

That being said, here’s the question of the month…

What gives you the motivation for not giving up on Wander Over Yonder?

In the past, I gave assorted explanations and brought up specific details that prevented me from moving on. Surely other fans have their own reasons - let’s hear them all! And maybe we’ll be more inspired than we are now!

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hotel? trivago.

my dumb? founded. my flabbers? gasted. my gob??? smacked