Those Poor Boys

“Those poor boys”

“She deserves to be punished too.”

“I’m not saying I support rape, but-”

“Sorry to say - she deserved it.”

“She put herself in harm’s way”

“But if she was fingered, then that’s not rape.”

“She ruined their lives.”

; this seems to be a misconception so:

; pro-para does not mean pro-c !!

pt: pro-para does not mean pro-c :end pt

; there's a HUGE difference between the two and it's infuriating that people don't bother to learn that. Pro-para essentially means you don't hold ableist ideologies against paraphiliac disorders and you believe not all paraphiles are inherently abusive, etc. Plus believe they should be allowed to exist in society safely. ( which is TRUE !! Paraphiliac disorders are categorized by recurrent and intense sexually arousing fantasies / urges etc that are immoral or distressing involving things such as children, non-consenting adults, animals, etc. They are psychiatric disorders and therapy is recommended in situations where it's uncontrollable / is a danger to yourself or others. ) Pro-CONTACT is what you should avoid, pro-c is believing it's okay for paraphiles to act immorally / illegally relating to their disorder and is anti-recovery since it denies the necessity of therapy / recovery in instances of being in harm of oneself or others. You can be pro-para and not be pro-contact. It's important to be pro-para and understand what such disorders really are if we want to properly destigmatize psychiatric disorders and generally un-normalize ableism.

9, 12, 14, and 18 for the disability ask game :)

; 9. Have you had any ableist encounters that were js kinda funny ?? - I don't have the memory for this but one I do remember vaguely is this person was complaining about I think disabled ppl needing " unnecessary extras, privilege even !! Difficult !! " ( their words ) support and such, and that's not funny but it was more of they were saying this to me as if I'd agree yk ?? As if I was their fellow co worker complaining about the traffic lol .. What was really funny is I had noise cancelling headphones on, a stim toy in hand, was sitting in a dark corner and avoiding ppl like the plague, and at the time had a lil autistic pin on my bag. Like honey I am not your target audience, I am your target.

; 12. which stripes of the disability pride flag do you identify with ?? - I believe the white ( invisible && undiagnosed ) & green ( sensory ) ones only !?? Maybe yellow .. ( cognitive && developmental ) but I'm not sure .. The exact meaning of that stripe gets jumbled a lot so I'm never 100%. /nm

; 14. what’s a symptom you have that you feel is underrepresented ? - for me it's difficulty w temperature regulation && recognition !! I rarely see it talked about tbh, and if it is it's only ever brief lol .. I could talk forever about my struggles relating to them tho .. ( oh oh hyperfixating on neurodivergence bc you Need To Be Sure™ even though you're literally proving yourself right right there lol )

; 18. do you have any disabled headcanons !?? - I have HCs that are based off like heavily / implied to be canon things .. But also Partially Deaf Rise!Raph ( post-rottmnt movie mostly ) and Demi-Verbal Donnie .. !! ( no that's not me projecting onto Don what ) .. Oh and Luz && Hunter being beloved auDHD siblings, bc I don't think those are canon .. But idk maybe I'm js autistic but it's so obvious lol /lh

; these answers may be shitty but I' answered them the best I could at this current moment in time !! ( these were so fun to answer. I possess joy now .. Thank you !! /gen )

callout post for my mutuals um. hi guys i love you

; my fyp is so fucking weird

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I was just talking to Ahmed @90-ghost (alongside Av, who might be reading this, idk if they’d like to be part of this post tho). He has given me permission to write a post about our conversation.

This whole thing has gotten Ahmed to the point where he admits he’s started to hate tumblr after 12 years of being on here. He has over 3k messages in his inbox and can’t handle it right now, his brother and other family members are still in Gaza and he himself doesn’t have the money to help them out. I’ve noticed that donations have slowed among palestinian fundraisers in general, before this whole debacle that a few individuals on this site started. this is anecdotal, but I know Ahmed gets like $30-$50 per week in donations at this point, and that barely makes a dent in his and his family’s needs. Remember that people in Gaza need to pay massively inflated prices for what basic necessities are available right now. I think things are looking pretty dire to the people who would like to flee Gaza but don’t have the money. It already was dire that Egyptian government, working in lockstep with Israel and the west, charges $5k+ to Ghazzawis. Hala Agency, Ibrahim Al-Argani, and the other scumbags running the Egyptian state are all demons and they’ve lined their pockets throughout this genocide. But I digress—it was dire already and now the enthusiastic aid that helped people like Ahmed seems to have run dry.

All that is to say: Ahmed can’t continue to verify peoples’ documents or promote their fundraisers at this stage. He’s privately talked to hundreds of Ghazzawis and looked at their IDs, and he was the only person doing it for a while (a very small handful of other Palestinian users on here were doing it, but they’ve also gotten overwhelmed and stopped). When he was in Gaza, Ahmed was displaced multiple times, left sleeping in tents or on the streets while in active physical danger, starving, forced to drink unsafe water, and often sick. It’s not an exaggeration to say that his body and mind have been pushed to the limit. When he told me he’s depressed all day after doing this work while attracting a ton of negativity, I told him he’s allowed to stop for the sake of his own health, because frankly he needs to focus on his physical recovery. There’s nothing selfish about that, it’s not sustainable for him to be doing this, particularly not when he’s still under the immense stress of his brother and other relatives remaining in Gaza and relying on him for help.

Since I know people will ask: I currently don’t know of anyone on tumblr who still vets fundraisers. Everyone I know of who did has had to stop. I don’t know about the inner workings of Operation Olive Branch, but they seem to be one of a few collectives with enough members to distribute this work. It IS work, and those of us who have tried to do it have done so with a low failure rate (el-shab-hussein and nabulsi’s spreadsheet had over 200 entries and they misidentified a scam as legitimate ONCE). I hope everyone will be more considerate towards the people at collectives like OOB.

This has always been a matter of personal discretion. The vetting process some users tried to implement on here is meant to help people who want to help and accept the risk of offering aid to strangers. If you don’t trust bloggers who’ve been proudly Palestinian on this site for years, that’s up to you—genuinely, it’s fair to think “I don’t know this person and I don’t know what standards they’re operating on.” In the future, anyone who has such concerns should consider asking good-faith questions to the people involved and to converse with them like adults before jumping to accusations, conspiratorial posts, etc.