sparxaf

Sparx AF

LITG fanfic writer | Brown girl | US mid-westerner who says soda instead of pop | she/her/hers on ao3/wattpad: christy_sparkle

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I Know I've Been Guilty Of This In The Past (particularly With S5). I've Tried Really Hard To Be Better

💖 I know I've been guilty of this in the past (particularly with S5). I've tried really hard to be better about it ever since someone pointed out to me that they were feeling bad about enjoying the season because everyone made them feel like they shouldn't like it. What an awful thing to do to someone. Just siphon off their joy and for what? So they can be as jaded and unhappy as I was with it? What did that gain anyone? When you're an adult and you're saddled with a job and bills and responsibilities, you have to find and hold onto the little joys. The silly things that make you swoon or smile or kick your feet. The hot drink that fills you with five minutes of bliss. And if that joy comes in the form of a slightly disproportionate pixel with an inexplicable amount of abs, telling you the same toxically romantic thing that a different pixel is also saying, who are we to take it from you? Who are we to make you feel like you have to justify that joy?

So, I'm imploring everyone to listen to Suzi here. It's fun to complain, and I love to do that, so if I play, I'll probably complain about it, but I'm not gonna go into people's comments and inboxes to make them feel like shit for eeking some joy out of this stressful life.

I get that everyone is very excited about unbelievably-hot-sexy-tattooed-necklace-floppy-hair-boy, but can I make a humble request?

I'm trying really hard to say this nicely but I've had a hellish week so it's probably going to come out a little harsher than intended.

Once you start playing, and you inevitably realise you're not having a good time, and you decide you don't want to play any more, please don't ruin it for those of us who keep going.

Last season, I wasn't the only one who felt like people were getting really rude and/or judgey over those of us who were still playing. Yeah, it's not perfect. Oftentimes it's downright bad. But we're still playing it, and we're trying to have a good time.

I don't want to be reminded that my LI says the same things as the others. I know. I don't need to be reminded that their proportions are off or that their face is weird or whatever. We know. But we're trying to enjoy the game as best we can. There's just no need for me to post something raving about my LI and have the comments, the asks, whatever saying 'you know his route is exactly the same as [other person] though right?'. It just makes me not want to bother posting to tumblr at all. It's funny if you're laughing and commiserating with your friends if we're all playing together, but when you're not playing, and I am, it actually comes across as really patronising. It makes me feel like you're looking down on me for enjoying a game that you deemed not up to your standards.

I'm not saying I've never complained about the game, that would be insane. I've got a whole blog where I talk about it all the bloody time. But I'm also playing and I'm making jokes and memes with other people who are also playing. We're commiserating together.

Argh, I'm not wording this right.

Here.

If you and your friends are all watching a movie, and you aren't enjoying it, go ahead and sit on your phone that's totally fine.

You're welcome to look up every now and again and ask what's going on, or look up and smile at a kiss scene and go 'awww that's cute' and go right back to your phone.

But don't yell out insults at the movie while your friends are having a good time watching it. And especially don't make fun of your friends who are laughing at the happy bits, or crying at the sad parts.

Don't tell them they're being silly because the movie is dumb and you've seen better.

I just want to watch a movie with my friends, I guess.