Stop Calling People's Triggers Stupid. I Don't Care If Someone Is Triggered By A Fucking Cloud With A

stop calling people's triggers stupid. I don't care if someone is triggered by a fucking cloud with a smiley face, you do not get to determine whether or not to respect someone's triggers just because YOU find it silly. fuck off.

absolutely off the rails behavior when cis lesbians become enraged when you tell them that it's butchphobic to exclude butches who are transfemme, trans women, transmasc, men, take testosterone, have penises, and/or get top/bottom surgery from the butch and lesbian community. like the fact that we have historically always belonged to the lesbian community has been coming from the mouths of gnc and transfemme & transmasc butches for decades but everyone plugs their ears and doesn't listen.

the lesbian community has such a long and rich history of being a safe place for transfemme, trans women, transmasc, masc, intersex, genderqueer, non binary, and male presenting people who take testosterone and get top and bottom surgeries. before the rise of lesbian separatism and political lesbianism, transmascs & transfemme butches in lesbian spaces were not an issue. also in the past there just wasn't anywhere else for us to go. we were shoved into lesbian spaces by force, but also wanted to stay there because it's a community that's dear to our hearts and still means a lot to us

lesbians were the ones who made it safe for us to be there in the first place.

it's unfathomable to see people who say you should respect butches when it comes to their pronouns, identity, etc., to not invalidate their genders, to not assume anything about what gender they identify with- but the second they find out that some butches who are transfemme, trans women, or take T and still identify as lesbians and dykes they police our identities and bodies and insinuate that we can't be real butch lesbians for x, y and z reasons.

it's just insidious to exclude transfem butches and butch trans women on so many levels. i see this constantly and it's never called out as a form of butchphobia as well as a form of transmisogyny, especially when that person does not want to get bottom surgery. to call any MtF butch a man that's invading the lesbian community is to admit that one knows nothing about the complex gender identities and struggles transfemme butches and butch trans women face. to identify this way is one of the most prolific and powerful expressions of butchness, and what it means to be a butch lesbian. to deny these people the right to call themselves butch is inherently, inarguably butch and lesbophobic as well as trans/misogynistic.

to chase any of these people out of butch, lesbian, dyke and sapphic spaces is inherently butchphobia. yes, butchphobia affects perisex cis butch women, but it also affects so many more people. it affects transmascs and men. it affects genderqueer and non binary people. it affects bigender men. it affects transfemme lesbians and trans lesbian women. it affects trans girls and mtf lesbians in general. it affects intersex people. it affects lesboys. it affects boy/guydykes. it affects queer people of color. it affects studs.

it affects dykes, lesbians, and sapphics in general. this is a form of lesbophobia, trans/androphobia, intersexism, and especially butchphobia, no matter what. we have to accept ALL butches who don't fit into a neat little box of what a masculine queer person should be like.

If we didn't put so much pressure on men to be 'alpha' stone cold sex gods, we would get at least one step closer to preventing young insecure men being sucked into that manosphere shit. If we taught men that it's okay to be emotional, that their self worth isn't affected by how many women they sleep with or how dedicated they are to the 'grind', maybe then we'd see the makings of a better world. Less incels made to feel victimized by a woman's right to rejection, less young boys thinking that rejection makes them failed men. If we taught them that their self-worth isn't based on women, and that doesn't mean that 'women ain't shit', perhaps we'd see a breakthrough.

It's so frustrating that people tend to see women's rights in direct opposition to alleviating men's issues. We can do both. The patriarchy steps on men's toes too, it hurts everyone in certain ways. To abolish the patriarchy means to address women's rights and their struggles, as well as men's issues. that's a conversation that not many people are willing to have; they see 'men's issues' and instantly think 'misogynistic erasure of women's issues', and it shows.

Being sympathetic towards men doesn't mean the enabling of sexism towards women, nor does it mean ignoring how a man's actions can reenforce that sexism. you can hold men accountable without demonizing an entire gender for how they were raised in a system that aims to not only destroy women and their rights, but the men who are being dragged along by a rope thinking that's the only way for them to live. But how dare I try to make people see nuance in a nuanced issue? man bad and all that.

me when the queer community invents another binary (it's progressive and inclusive this time guys I swear) instead of just fuckin, I don't know, ditching these wack ass binaries that do nothing but segregate us into groups of 'most oppressed' and 'less oppressed so you should shut up'

Really hate that the queer community's response to the creation of a gender trinary (girl, boy, and nonbinary, which is still not all-encompassing) was to... reinvent the binary. We just started grouping all genders into "masc/male-aligned" and "fem/female-aligned" and it's so fucking stupid. Even with the occasional allowance of "neutral/unaligned" it still maintains the binary as the standard. And then they don't let you use certain labels if you don't have the "right" gender alignment. The fuck.

It's really telling to me when a perisex trans person grips onto 'TME/TMA' for dear life. Just say you don't care about intersex people in the least, and downright hate us at the most. Your thinly veiled attempts at being most oppressed in the oppression olympics aren't cute and harm those of us who are erased and/or harmed by this god awful millionth binary you fuckers created.

YEAH. It pisses me off so much. I just want to browse queer tags without seeing nsfw but I guess some people are too GOOD to properly tag their shit. y'all... there are existing tags. Creating new ones feels like a way to dodge the filter and disrespect those of us who don't want to see sex posts in sfw tags! is it REALLY so much to ask for people to not post their ENTIRE dick and balls without proper tagging??!

I'm not entirely convinced some of these blogs are real people though, some of them feel like bot accounts or pieces of shit that steal the nsfw photos of trans women for fetish content. still fucking annoying because tags get flooded by improperly tagged nsfw. 'oh but if we tagged these things correctly we'd get mass reported or something!' an issue that needs to be resolved, but not by pulling out the ancient texts of old to make your fuckass 8 million fuckin tags that EVADE MY FILTERS I am so TIRED-

The amount of people who don't know how to tag shit properly on queer tags is INSANE. There's so much porn/nsfw on our feed because no one can just tag something 'nsfw' they have to invent some new fucking tag like 'lesbian ns/fw' or 'ns/ft.' I don't want to have to filter 50+ tags just because youre too lazy to tag properly.