So I Think I Figured Out Why.Why Racism Is More Okay Than Animal Cruelty.

So I think I figured out why. Why racism is “more okay“ than animal cruelty.

And the same logic applies to the story of the young woman whos teacher said that the rapist boyfriend should do something “really evil“ like kick a dog, instead of just you know raping and abusing his girlfriend.

You can find it on satirizings account, but here is the short version (because for some reason I can’t insert a link):

let me tell you guys something that ACTUALLY happened in my screenwriting class last weekone of the female writers in our class is writing a feature about this gang of teenage girls who sort of become vigilantes and murder men who harass women Their first kill is this guy named taylor. taylor is one of the girl’s boyfriends. it is heavily implied and the writer confirmed that he abuses and rapes her. not explicitly seen, but she has bruises, there are scenes implying it etc.so. she wrote the part where they kill taylor. and one of my professor’s comments was about how he felt like he didn’t hate taylor enough. my prof went on to say “i feel like we need to see taylor be horrible. like bad solution, he kicks a dog”

So of course seeing this last one as a women you think what is wrong with them. And I guess it is the same thing about racism and people of  color, but I can’t confirm it, because I have never experciend  racism against me in my life. And that is actually one of the cues behind the logic of humans ways to think about this whole: animal abuse is worse than [insert certain group of people] abuse. But let’s start with animal abuse directly. Let’s say you see a puppy. It is cute, it is cuddly and the worst thing it has done in his life if pee inside the house because it got excited to see you. Noone wants to hurt that puppy. And that is the cue. Most people don’t want to hurt animals. Wanting to hurt animals for fun is actually a sign of mental illness. Killing animals for useage like food, furs or defending yourself is somehting different. But this is about hurting animals for fun. So you have something that doesn’t deserve to get hurt getting hurt. And that is horrible.

But what about people?

While most people agree that abusing an animal is bad, it’s not the same with people. Becaus we all have someone we want to hurt. At least once in your life you wanted to hurt someone. May it be a kid from school that was mean to you or your boss, because he was unfair to you, or whatever. It doesn’t matter who you didn’t like, you wanted them nothing good. That doesn’t necessairly mean you wanted to torture them, but at least let them slip on a banana peel or get scream at by their boss.

You don’t want that for animals. Even if you don’t like an animal, you know animals don’t have morals the way humans do. If you attack a dog and it bites you, you don’t blame it. But if your boss screams at you for something they did wrong you blame them. You want to see them fall, hurt in some way.

You wanted st some point in your life hurt a human, but not an animal. There can be reasons to hurt a person but not an animal. And that is the main point why people see animal abuse as worse than [insert people group here] abuse.

The other thing that I already teased above: If it doesn’t happen to you, you don’t see it as bad as it is.

Even if you faced something similar in your life it is never the same as being a person that actually happend to. I for all of my life got asked why my skin is so pale and that I should go into the sun more often (where I only get red) and I kept ignoring them. But that doesn’t mean I know anything abour actual racism. They made comments about my skincolor, but I never got called names for it or declined a job. So when I see something abour racism I tend to think that it surely isn’t that bad, but then I remember it is. Just not for me. Because I am not the one facing it on a daily biasis. And I never will. BUT I can try to look through it from another persons perspective and know that even if I don’t face something like that, it’s still there and those people face it all the time and suffer from it.

So it’s easier for white people to look over racism against people of color and it’s easier for men to overlook rape. As horrible as that sounds, men don’t get catcalled as much. They don’t get told that dressing a certain way will get them raped, they don’t get told they can’t walk home alone because something could happen. At least generally that is not the case, so they don’t see Taylor in that story as bad as women who face that every day.

That doesn’t excuse people acting shitty, it’s just an explanation why humans generally think that animal abuse is worse then abusing a person or a group of people.

I just realized that about 99 % of my insecuritys about my looks do not come from the media.

Becauuse I know the media is fake and I do not give a shit what the media thinks of me. I mean why would I? It’s not like the media is going to tell me, that I can’t dress that way because they don’t like it.

But rather my insecuritys come from my family. My grandmother has it with my weight and my parents have it with my the way I dress.

I had digestive problems for a while because I didn’t know about my wheat intolerance. So after every meal I was terribly bloated. And that hurt like a bitch, but the best part was my grandma asking me every single time if I was pregnant. And when she saw me before I had eaten she said I was too small, that I needed to eat more. Spo imagine getting told in the moring to eat more and getting asked after breakfast if you’re pregnant because your belly is so big, I always knew that hollywood for some fucked up reason only cast a certain type of woman with genes that made their stomachs look flat and personal trainers and make up artist and so on, so I knew it was unrealistic to look like them. i didn’t want to look like that, but getting told after every meal that I looked pregnant is something different. And she said that to me with size S for my tops, so I can’t exacly be called thick in the first place.

I am wearing my lipstick today a little different. I felt like experimenting, it looked great in the mirror. And I went to my parents and they were like: What is wrong with that? I don’t even say that when they look like shit. No my mother had dresses on that made her figure look terrible and did I say: Hey, you look so fat. No I did not, I told her- if she asked me about it, that it did not suit her well. And if she didn’t ask I didn’t say anything.

Out of everyone they are the ones who most likely criticise the way I dress or do my make up. And it’s almost always negative. And if it is not it’s an: you always dress so great. Like they did not tell me two days ago I looked hideous.

And I don’t ask for their opinion. My mother asks for mine all the time if she is unsure. But I am sure of what I wear. I dress myself, I look in the mirror I feel good looking and I meet them and they practically just look at me and if they don’t like it are like: What the hell is that. And all of that self esteem goes to shit.

One time it was terribly hot, I was wearing something short. You could not see my underwear of anything, it was certainly long enough to cover everything, because I don’t like such short clothes on myself either, but I was just leaving to go to my boyfriend to stay at his place to sit around there, where it was even hotter usually, so it wasn’t even a public place. And they told me I should’t go out like this. And they told me I looked like a streetworker.

We had 36°C in the shaddow and I was dying from the heat, my underwear didn’t show, I wasn’t even wearing a crop top. I was only gonna hang around my boyfriend anyways, so I didn’t see the problem anyways. And they literally told me, they wouldn’t let me walk around on university like that. And I was like: well I am not even going anywhere like that. And then in all her glory my mother told me she didn’t want me to get raped because of the way I dressed. I asked her if she really thought that rapists cared about their victims clothes and she said it would make a difference. And when I told her it doesn’t she ignored it and just said even if I was right she still thinks the same thing.

And well I told her about victim-blaming and she said she’d never do that. But yes, she does. And so does my father. I learned that day that my parents really think that if a woman dresses a certain way she is partially to blame for getting raped.

And the thing is: every time the talk about the way I look negativly now, I think about that. So every time me parents are like: Your lipstick is weird. You shouldn’t wear that because I don’t like it. I think about the fakt that they would blame me if I ever got raped.

If I ever have children I will not tell them what to wear just because I don’t like it. I will only tell them about their looks if they ask me. Or if they want to go out in nothing but boxershorts while it’s snowing.

THE W(HOLE) NEXT YEAR IS SOOO GOOD I LOVE YOU SM MAN

Thanks a lot, always nice to know people liking my work!

parent cave

I can say I am glad the term man cave never came up about the future housing plans with me and my boyfriend. I mean we do not agree on everything, like what color the walls will have, but we generally agree we both need a workspace for our own and a parent cave.

Like not a man cave for a man to run away from the family and no- not a parent cave to run away from the child, but rather a room with stuff that is no suitable for children. Like R-Rated movies (no not the kind you are thinking of right now, more like Tarantino movies) or our show weapons, who are not sharp or anything, but I am not letting a little kid near them anyways. And that will be a locked room. I mean I can save my computer so the child won’t be able to play me +18 video games and I’d never play them in front of them, but what stops a 12 year old from putting a Horror-Movie in the DVD-player and start watching?

So instead of man cave we’ll have a parent cave to make sure our children are safe from stuff to adult or dangerous for them, because you can teach your child all you want that knives are dangerous, sometimes they have a friend over who doesn’t care.

As logical as Tywin seems most of the time his hate for Tyrion gets him to do less logical things. Bronn was a great leader of the gold cloaks, the amount of thiefs dropped in half and Tywin solemly put someone else in his place so that Tyrion who was a great hand of the king lost in power. And he send his tribesmen away who were very loyal to Tyrion or anybody who made sure they would get them fed and weapons but he send them away because Tyrion controlled them and stripped the power of of Tyrion. Tyrion who was the only one that was smart enough for Tywin at his own war counsil and who led the defense of the city. Who sank Stannis fleet. And his hatred for Tyrion is so strong he doesn’t care about it but belittles him, instead of using his mind for his own goals.

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