Need To Reblog This Again Considering All The Fandom Dramas Going On

need to reblog this again considering all the fandom dramas going on

Just a quick reminder for people new and old to fandoms.

You do not owe someone an explaination for shipping something

You do not need to defend your ship

You do not need to prove your ship is ‘healthy’ in order to ship it

You do not need to ship healthy ships

You do not need to ship hetero, gay, or queer ships that satisfy some quota of diversity for the fandom

You do not have to ship at all

And on the flip side:

Do not try to harm others

Do not tell others they need to harm or kill themselves

Do not cross post your hate

Do not forget to tag NSFW items as people browse while on a work network

Do not post your long fics without putting it under a cut. Some people use mobile and this is really hard for them to scroll, or use text to speech

In the end, ship what you want, don’t ship what you don’t want to ship, and be courteous to one another. And as a last piece of advice, don’t focus on your notp. Post your ships instead and build up what you love, not what you hate.

Just keep moving further into the mystery of being.

My dad and I once had a disagreement over him using the adage "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

I said, "That's just not true. Sometimes what doesn't kill you leaves you brittle and injured or traumatized."

He stopped and thought about that for a while. He came back later, and said, "It's like wood glue."

He pointed to my bookshelf, which he helped me salvage a while ago. He said, "Do you remember how I explained that, once we used the wood glue on them, the shelves would actually be stronger than they were before they broke?"

I did.

"But before we used the wood glue, those shelves were broken. They couldn't hold up shit. If you had put books on them, they would have collapsed. And that wood glue had to set awhile. If we put anything on them too early, they would have collapsed just the same as if we'd never fixed them at all. You've got to give these things time to set."

It sounded like a pretty good metaphor to me, but one thing I did pick up on was that whatever broke those shelves, that's not the thing that made them stronger. That just broke them. It was being fixed that made them stronger. It was the glue.

So my dad and I agreed, what doesn't kill you doesn't actually make you stronger, but healing does. And if you feel like healing hasn't made you stronger than you were before, you're probably not done healing. You've got to give these things time to set.

“If you must look back, do so forgivingly. If you must look forward, do so prayerfully. However, the wisest thing you can do is be present in the present… Gratefully.“” - Maya Angelou

(via thepersonalquotes)