It Is So Insane To Me That People Think This Could Ever Work. Male And Female Anatomy Are SO Different,

It is so insane to me that people think this could ever work. Male and female anatomy are SO different, and they are huge risks to organ transplant even when they find a perfect match for blood type etc. The very few cases where we have seen successful uterine transplant were so that women who wanted to have children but did not have a functional uterus (often d/t uterine cancer or Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser syndrome). Before and after transplantation, the woman has to be placed on heavy immunosuppressants so her body will not reject the uterus, and then the goal is for the woman to get pregnant and have a child, after which she will have a hysterectomy so she can be taken off of the immunosuppressants. Literally the only reason for this process to occur is that a biological women who doesn't have a uterus very strongly want a biological child.

Do TIMs really think that any of us enjoy having a uterus or would want one for any reason other than to have a child? Are grown men really that jealous of an organ that literally destroys a part of itself once a month and leaves us in excruciating pain? Doctors will never perform a transplant that doesn't provide the body with a function it is lacking. It's why you don't need a kidney transplant if you only lost one kidney. The absolute audacity of this TIM saying they want a procedure that is still not reachable for the biological women struggling with infertility, just so he can be "the first trans woman to have an abortion" is proof that TIMs have no idea what it truly means to be a woman.

I absolutely agree. The only time we have a need for plastic surgeons or anything "cosmetic" is when people need something reconstructed after a car accident or some other traumatic event. My mom had a coworker that got a "tummy tuck" after losing a bunch of weight and then proceeded to get sepsis and almost die. It is absolutely not worth the risk in the name of pointless beauty standards.

i am anti-cosmetic surgery as a whole at this point idc!! idc if that isn’t “progressive”!! “it’s a woman’s choice to get it <3” yes it’s every individual woman’s choice to have the same face and i’m sure it’s completely divorced from misogynistic, eurocentric, capitalistic beauty standards that will shift over time and make those women feel bad about themselves all over again

Moscow mules are where it's at!

As a nurse, I was concerned with how I looked for like the first month, and then I realized that I was showing up in scrubs (and at that point in time we were masking every day) and all anyone saw were my eyes. Nowadays, I am mainly concerned with having clean teeth and deodorant on. I was also coming from Pandemic Nursing school wherein I barely left the house and had largely stopped wearing makeup daily. It is so true that when you are enjoying your job and you have pride and confidence in your abilities and skills set, you stop caring about if you look perfect or not at work.

Also, I have often heard women say that their makeup routine is "for fun" and "to show off their unique personality", and while something like rainbow eyeshadow might be fun, it's also a lot of damn work and it costs time and money. I promise you can be unique without spending an contouring your face. Something I have discovered recently is that there are fun ways to show off your personality through your appearance that don't require obsessing in the mirror every morning and don't cost an arm and a leg:

-fun glasses! My vision just keeps getting worse and this time I bought round plastic lavender frames which remind me, a little of Luna Lovegood, and then a second pair of 60's inspired cat eye frames.

-scrunchies. If you have a sewing machine, scrap fabric, and elastic, you can make these for free in any color or pattern! Here is a tutorial if needed.

-I have a coworker who always wears fun socks and rolls up her scrubs to show them off!

-I like to do different kinds of braids for work. It makes me feel like the main character of a fantasy novel, even if I can't bring a sword to work.

-if you work in healthcare or somewhere you can wear sneakers/trainers/tennis shoes, buy a well made colorful pair next time you need them.

-if you have your ears pierced and you like wearing stud earrings, there are so many unique earrings on Etsy. I have mushroom ones that are my favorite, but I also have racoon ones, pumpkins, fall leaves, snowflakes etc. I will put a pair in and leave them there for a week.

None of these are required of course, but I think many of us have that inner voice that screams you have to be different™️ and unique somehow, so I think these are fun ways to make your appearance "stand out" in a positive way that doesn't line the pockets of beauty corporations. I had a teenage patient recently who complimented my fun shoes, and a 12 year old girl who had on her own glasses told me she liked my new ones. Oh, and one of my coworkers told me exactly what species my mushroom earrings were, which is the kind of conversation makeup could never spark!

The solution to being obsessed with your appearance is just to get a busy job and/or start working on actually achieving things like I promise you can’t waste time on the shape of your eyebrows when you’ve got competing deadlines. I promise you’ll realise how unimportant your pore size is, when you’re kicking academic or career goals or trying to build something or doing some complicated task. I am begging any woman who is fixated on her face/body to get an intellectually rigorous job or a hobby or focus on a high-intensity sport or some shit. Just do anything that takes you out of your head like I’m not trying to be mean but you can defeat this loser, self-limiting behaviour

I would rather some people feel uncomfortable and embarrassed with other people's judgements about them having an age gap relationship than I would have one more girl or young woman go through being sexually groomed in their late teens/early 20s by a man ~7+ years older than her.

It’s early days (1% in) but Eve by Cat Bohannon might be shaping up to be a wonderful companion piece to Invisible Women.