Ok I Know I Leave Some Comments For You OP But I Want To Repost And Add My Thoughts, Hope It Doesn't

Ok I know I leave some comments for you OP but I want to repost and add my thoughts, hope it doesn't bother

Endos, pro endos and anti endos, all the three sin of the same mistake and that's the problem with all this syscourse thing, no one is winning, no one can win, it's about making all the whole community into a fight of stances and this is the shit that happens because of it

"What's the shit that you're talking about?"

People being excluded because they don't share the same specific mindset, the system community forcing people to choose a side from syscourse and shit like that, that's the shit I'm talking about, making the system community a endo syscourse one

Tag things as you want, don't include stances or things that doesn't fit you in tags, interact with the tags you like most, use the tags that describe you... It's so bad to see that syscourse makes the tags a problem and distressing

The system, no, the syscourse community is really toxic and shitty, you can't find a good place there, you might think that you can feel understood, like you're ok with them and similar things, but most of the time you're just hurting yourself by engaging with things that upset you and making you part of a discussion that will never stop, it can make you end up worts actually, doesn't matter what side of syscourse you are

Syscourse spaces are very exclusionist, I tell this from experience, and most of the time you'll only see hate, stress and problems, that's what I don't like the system community, I don't like the endo syscourse, I don't like how syscourse now it's a requirement for the system community... That's why I'm not part of it, I don't consider like that, but for content purposes I have to tag it like that tho I'm not

Honestly the best people you'll find in this community are:

The ones who are NOT into syscourse, or if they are they put "neu" because they don't want to deal with

People who don't make their stance their whole personality and put it everywhere

The real good people you'll find are not in the syscourse part of the community, because they can be very double moral and shitty the moment you don't align perfectly with their mind sent

For example me, I'm not anti endos but I don't believe that endo systems are a thing and I don't want them interact, my stance is very complex and yet I've been attacked and exclude from all parts of syscourse, that's why I don't have a syscourse stance public anymore

If you're not breaking boundaries interact with who you want, use the tags you want and don't enter syscourse for your own sake

The good people won't be caring about your syscourse stance

The feeling when interacting with both sides (endos and anti endos) and seeing the bad and good sides of both (both harass people, both can go out of their way to avoid dnis, but also both can bring people closer together, both can post silly fun things, the majority of antis are normally people traumatized by endos fakeclaiming them, harassing them, most antis Do Not go about harassing people. Most endos/pro-endos are trying to be nice, most dont go out of their way to harass people, most don’t agree with those who harass people, most are just living their lives)

Then feeling bad when tagging stuff because I never know what to tag it with because I don’t know which side to choose ;-;

I say I lean anti because of trauma, but as long as people are nice I’m ok to live and let live.

I'm surprised it only took one day in the silly systems discord server to happen a problem, I was expecting one in like... a week or something ???

The thing is, good think they left, and if they unfollow me it's better for me, I don't want people like them following my blog

The funniest thing is that in the questions of verification AND the rules it was stated "no serious topics discussion this is a silly server" and the user get super mad and decided we all suck because we stop them because they were breaking the rules... LMAO???

I want to answer questions or talk or anything, invade my inbox please /nf

That moment where you come to front because the host is not so you your brothers discover the reason you formed at

This is kinda cool for us, we get that splitting is shit but we were fucking blank fragments who now have a purpose that's cool???

Awesome, making me and my siblings our profiles and such

Do you want to see some intros from us?? We're kinda attached to Tumblr so we don't mind that at all, we might be the first intros, and maybe the only intros, here in our main blog lmao

Not to make anyone worry, but saying you're a system can make you a target for abusers and bullying.

By stating you're a system

You're disclosing that you went through debilitating trauma at a young age

You're disclosing that you may act like a young child in certain situations, and that child may not know, or understand certain acts

You disassociate to a level where we do not know what was done by/to the collective body

You're telling people that you may have patches of amnesia, disorientation, and where you may split under pressure

Many systems have issues with self harm, suicidal thoughts, substance use disorders and unfortunately, many abusers will take advantage of this

Systems, due to their amnesiac nature, are very easy to gaslight, often by saying that a different part/alter did or didn't do something

But Kyle! What can I do about it?!?

Choose, very carefully, who you tell that you have a system. We try not to tell new people in our life until we're fully trusting that they won't take advantage of the knowledge of the system. Even then, we can count on one hand how many of our in person friends and family are aware of our system.

Avoid linking social media, this includes discord, where you are 'out' about your system to other social media, especially around workplaces. Some workplaces, schools, universities and other places still hold stigma around DID (thank you, Split /s).

Be careful what you tell people about your system: keeping alter counts private, not giving out certain alter's names, using pseudonyms/symbols for alters are some of the ways we've done this. If someone we don't want to know about the system asks about an alter name, the majority of the time, we'll say that they're an OC.

Most people don't know what DID and OSDD are unless they have been in certain circles or happen to have an interest in it, so you are usually safe… but I always air on the side of caution.

Do what you wish with this list, I wanted to put these thoughts out there. Stay safe, feel free to reblog with more ways you keep your system safe.

Drink water, have something to eat, have your meds if you need them, use your mobility aids if you need them, and do something nice for yourself today.

With love,

System Dad (Kyle / 💜)

IS ONE OF OUR FAVES, WE EVEN HAVE A MISS PEREGRINE HERE OMFG

I NEED TO READ THE BOOKS