This Is So True! Personally, As A Nonbinary Person Myself I Prefer To Present Androgynous Cause It Gives

this is so true! personally, as a nonbinary person myself i prefer to present androgynous cause it gives me a lot of euphoria but i also love to present femme or even masc if i can make it look a bit more girlish(does this make sense?). also the season we're at might influence the way i present(typically on the fall/winter i present androgynous more often because of the low temperatures and on the spring/summer i present femme more often because of the high temperatures). it might also depend on how i feel in the day. this is my experience :)

a random transphobe: *misgenders you*

you: i'm sorry but my pronouns are ___/___

them: omg you're too sensitive....(continues saying a lot of bullshit)

you: *accidentally misgenders their dog*

them: *proceeds to get mad at you for misgendering their dog*

like why the fuck is the dog more deserving of respect than me?

Reblog if you believe people can cuddle without it being romantic or sexual.

this is your daily reminder to stop dehumanizing having sex without romantic feelings!

as a perisex nonbinary person, sometimes is hard finding a community in the trans community! like the same hate ideology they use for intersex people, they also use it for non-binary people. simply cause we fall outside of their stupid binary. nonbinary 🤝🏻 intersex people tryna fight against this stupid binary

Getting blocked by a trans blogger with a post with 700 notes about how an intersex identity is inherently transphobic because .... they refuse to try to understand it and block all intersex people who have anything to say. Trans community, collect your bigots, please. You can't just swat any criticism of your bigotry away with "transmisogyny" when you're out here calling us bigoted for EXISTING. Y'all are doing more damage to gender liberation by doing this to intersex people than any intersex person ever could by having an identity you don't understand. Transmisogyny. Fucking kill me, I'm sick of you all.

Why is this so common from yall? Why do you think it's okay to yell "transmisogyny" at fucking anything INCLUDING INTERSEX IDENTITIES THAT AREN'T ABOUT YOU. Literally just say you'd rather intersex people be dead so your war can be trans ppl verses terfs without us interrupting you both. Just say that we are in your way and that we disgust you. Just say that you, as a trans person, will never give a fuck about intersex people and would rather us fucking boil alive than consider us and our needs and our identities. You'd rather continue throwing us to the wolves, ensuring we have no support or community with you all, insisting our activism harms you because it asks you to learn something new. And yall are talking about INTERSEX TRANS PPL TO BEGIN WITH LIKE THIS holy fucking shit. Perisex ppl are demons and as long as you're not fighting to include us, you're participating in our eradication.

if you genuinely believe that trans men and cis men are enemies and need to be pitted against each other: you drank the terf juice.

if you believe that pre transition or never transition transfems "look too threatening" or "too cishet" or "unsafe for other queers to be around": you drank the terf juice.

if you misgender butch trans women and multigender transfem lesbians and remove them from lesbian spaces: you drank the terf juice.

if you police transfems and call them "loud," "aggressive," "mean," or "rude," just because they have deep voices or high testosterone bodies: you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe that all men and mascs need to be barred from entry into non binary, lesbian, and other queer spaces: you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe all cishet men are inherently queerphobic, evil, and dangerous to be around: you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe trans and cis men are inherently violent and dangerous because they're men: you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe that cis-passing trans men aren't queer and/or don't belong in queer spaces because they look and sound "too cis" or 'threatening': you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe that anyone who is AMAB and/or has a penis is inherently violent: you drank the terf juice.

if you genuinely believe it's okay to profile strangers to assume they're cis or het (or ANYTHING): you drank the terf juice.

literally ALL of these things are terf ideologies and actions. in order to accept ourselves and be accepted, we must accept that just like how our identities are not inherently violent- neither are cis and het folks'.

blaming cis mens' gender instead of their actions and behaviors for their dangerous and queerphobic actions removes the responsibility from the individual man. that was one man who did something wrong.

hold that individual person accountable for their actions and leave their gender and/or birth sex out of it- they're irrelevant to the situation.

making trans women, intersex trans women, transfems, nonbinary people, genderqueer people, etc. uncomfortable by policing how they look and sound is not the way to go. policing transfems and preventing them from queer spaces is not the way to go. policing trans men and mascs and preventing them from entering spaces they belong in is not the way to go.

excluding queer men and mascs from the communities they rightfully belong in isn't helping anyone. cis gay men need community. cis asexual men need community. cis aromantic men need community. cis polyamorous men need community. genderqueer, non binary, and gnc cis men need community. cis bisexual/mspec men need community. trans women who are also men need community. trans men need community. intersex men need community. the list goes on.

community means working together, not fragmenting ourselves off into the tiniest micro pockets imaginable for the sake of "Safety". running afraid from every. single. man and masc you encounter will not keep you safe- femmes and women are capable of abuse. we cannot fall into this "woman good man bad" trap. being afraid of a group of people wholesale doesn't help you heal from whatever trauma you have. it's going to keep you scared for the rest of your life. it's best to move on and stop judging strangers for features they can't help or didn't ask for.