Lesfir - Dark Charm Mess

extra's that didn't quite make the tiktok cut :3

The Ascended route for Astarion isn't bad in my opinion. It's evil, but not bad. Also I love how Astarion is no longer afraid and he has so much confidence.

My Tav broke her oath so that he may thrive, and in turn he gave her eternal life. That's such a good start of their happily forever after romance story. I love it.

The whole situation with a!Astarion reminds me of some victimhood rhetoric. You have to behave "right", otherwise you are not a survivor, you can't be called that, despite what happened to you. You have to present yourself in a certain image that fits into people's perceptions, you're not allowed to feel the "wrong" emotions, especially towards those with similar trauma. If you have been hurt, you have to be a saint, otherwise others will happily tell you how wrong you are, how you should be "better".

It's the same here.

It's not okay to want to release trauma through empowerment, it's a continuation of the cycle of abuse. Forgive, let the situation go, because it's the "right" thing to do. If you deal with trauma toxically, you become Cazador 2.0. And don't forget, you have no right to want sexual relations, because you have a trauma, it's a lifelong stigma! Have fun with your new, "healthy" life and no matter that you gave up power and advantages, you did the "right" thing!

This kind of stigmatization reminds me too much of real life not to get angry.

Yes Thank you!!

Fandom culture has changed so much, I honestly just don't get it anymore

It used to be absolutely normal to like morally questionable or straight up irredeemable characters, there was no "if you like a bad guy, you are agreeing with the bad guy" in my 2013

Now nearly in every fandom villain lovers are getting bullied, fandoms are busy protecting pixel's feelings, while severely hurting real people's mental health with this neverending flood of toxicity

And it genuinely upsets me, because villains and the whole concept of liking "against the good guys" characters in media/ literature/ art/ etc was always a safe space for outcasts and people who felt rejected by society, for being queer, for just being different and unable to fit in for any reason

And seeing that even inside online fandom culture villain lovers are getting nothing but this bs is heartbreaking

And all this discussion about "healthy relationship with imaginary bf" is the whole different bucket of crap that I would waffle about at some point

How these people are doing in literature classes, I mean, every other classical book has some kind of toxic love story, do they need a trigger warning for every book or something