Why Isnt T4t A Bigger Thing... Like Its One Of The Most Revolutionary Things We, As Trans People, Can

why isn’t t4t a bigger thing... like it’s one of the most revolutionary things we, as trans people, can do. so many of us spend our lives fighting for the acceptance, love, understanding, and just the mere tolerance of cis people. we are taught that our ultimate goal to strive for is to be palatable to cis people. in order to be seen as human beings worthy of their time, we must be at the highest level of trans attractiveness, trans submissiveness, trans weakness.

however, t4t rejects every single notion of that. it tossed out everything that says we must be subjected to cis people’s consumption, that we must be so close to cis that we abandon our own identities as trans to submit to that standard. it recognizes that we do not need cis people to be loved, to be accepted, understood, and so much more than simply tolerated. we do not need cis people for happiness. we do not need cis people for anything. we have one another, and we can love one another, and appreciate one another’s struggles and alleviate all of them.

i’m trans and would only date other trans people. why? because i do not owe cis people anything, and nothing they can give me means anything to me either. i will love exclusively my trans sisters and siblings for as long as i fucking live. i do not need the approval of cis people to be worthy of love. i do not need to be palatable to cis people to be worthy of love. i do not need to be understood by cis people to be worthy of love. i do not need to be tolerated by cis people to be worthy of love.

i ask you this: what have cis people ever really done for us?

i ask you this: why do we owe them love when they so rarely give us the same?