If Youre Someone Who Struggles With Executive Dysfunction I Cannot Emphasize How Important It Is To Set

If you’re someone who struggles with executive dysfunction I cannot emphasize how important it is to set reasonable, attainable goals for yourself. If your goal is “I need to clean my entire room today” but you’re not used to doing so often enough for it to be habitual, chances are pretty good that that isn’t a reasonable, attainable goal for you. Start small. Start with something you think you could do even when you’re struggling. Pick something that makes you feel good about yourself afterward. And don’t put pressure on yourself to do more than that if you’re not able to, because that pressure will make it harder to do the small thing.

For me, it’s making my bed. It’s simple, it takes me about three minutes to do, it makes my room look 300% better even if everything else looks like a lost game of jumanji so I feel proud of myself for doing it, and I don’t expect myself to do any more than that. Interestingly, once I’ve done the small thing it often gives me a burst of motivation to do more, but even on days when I can’t do more I still feel good about making my bed.

It can be anything. Make your bed, brush your teeth, pick up the clothes off your floor and throw them in a pile, remove the mugs from your room (no pressure to wash them), make one phone call, do five minutes of something creative, anything that feels small and simple to you. And don’t beat yourself up on days when you can’t do the small thing. Executive dysfunction is a bitch, but starting small is much easier than giving yourself big goals that feel completely overwhelming. 

*whispering to myself as i try to email my academic advisor* fear is the mind killer. fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. i will permit it to pass through me and over me. when it is gone i will turn the inner eye to see it's path. where the fear is gone there will be nothing. only i will remain.

online friends are just. i miss you like we’ve met before. you know my family inside and out and none of them know you. the ocean is achingly big but you know i’d cross it for you. you text me good morning as i finish dinner. i wish you could come over for dinner. we have a hundred plans of things to do together and they all feel so far away. i love you as if you were here. for now i’ll love you from here.

the academic urge to lie on the floor because of existential angst

Doing this again because I accidentally deleted my old blog and no longer have it kcdbkcj. Also because I used my deadname for my last collage.

Yours is literally so pretty and there’s so much going on in mine lmao. Tagging @ironicsopsychotic, @redlyncentral @daydreaming-cheese-weasel (did i already tag you the last time I did it? if so im sorry lol) and @wondereternity . As always let me know if you would not like to be tagged :)

Thank you for tagging me to do this game @brekker-by-brekkerr!

Rules: google/search your name + your favorite color + the word ‘aesthetic’. take the first four (non collage) photos and viola you have your aesthetic moodboard!

This was really cool, I'm tagging @captain-of-the-historicfuture, @zeldaiscool19, @maybebrilliant, @fentasticallyconfuddled and @missinglittlebritishfriend if you want!