Bas Via Insta! (Part 2)

Bas via Insta! (Part 2)

how am i supposed to go on with my day now

OH my god. I FORGOT to add something I thought of recently!

My theory now is that Korn's mom has already died at this point. That's why he has some insight into what might help Tonkla with his grief.

I wonder what he kept of his mom's or if he was allowed to keep anything. 😭😭😭

Not sure if u talked abt this but i also want to get ur opinion on korn and tonkla's first sex scene because ive seen some posts how it wasnt a sweet moment bc tonkla is vulnerable at that time n korn is taking advantage of him. Hm.. I have some thoughts abt it.. But i wanna hear yalls thoughts

I don't think i've posted about this. I talked to a few people in dms about it though because i saw those posts too. i don't agree with them.

In terms of character development and what it shows us about the characters and their relationship, I think it shows how Korn has slowly closed off because of the pressures of his work, his father, and the whole situation.

In the flashback scene Korn is very emapthetic & emotionally supportive! He's there for Tonkla at an incredibly difficult time and has good advice. Tonkla maybe hasn't had anyone ever taking care of him that way.

So we get to see a different aspect of their relationship and understand why Tonkla loves Korn. And I think the show as a whole and the ending supports that.

I did feel like sometimes the way people talked about it removed Tonkla's agency completely. Because he was a victim of abuse and in present time he does have less social power, less economic power than Korn and Korn has set certain limits on the relationship that Tonkla doesn't like, people tended to only see him as a powerless victim. And they put Korn in the villain box and interpreted everything he did in the worst light.

As for like the mild dom/sub nature of the scene, I understand why it might make some people uncomfortable. BUT i really dislike the whole idea that only totally vanilla sex is healthy and cosnensual while other dynamics are inherently abusive or unhealthy. In real life of course you should have more communication and negotiation but this isn't real life.

It's a creative portrayal meant to communicate things about the character and their relationship. And it does speak to Korn feeling more comfortable when he's in control. And Tonkla was taken care of, told he was taken care of, that he wouldn't be hurt. And that says a lot about the beginning of their relationship and what they both got out of it.

And feeling safer as the one in control is NOT the same as feeling good about having power OVER someone or wanting to control them in an unhealthy way.

This was a bit of a ramble, I have a lot of thoughts lol. And it can be nuanced and hard to say exactly what I mean. Curious to hear from others!

just tonkla licking his lips after he takes Korn's underwear off, reblogging for no reason at all 👀

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