You Were Inside Of Me. I Could Feel The Mood Shift, But I Didn't Know Right Away What It Meant.

You were inside of me. I could feel the mood shift, but I didn't know right away what it meant.

"Is this my hole?" Your fingers traced my lip, and when I opened my mouth, rested on my tongue.

"Yeth Thir" I spoke around your finger

"Then why did you kiss him?" Your hand left my mouth, then quickly slapped across my cheek. "Did you have my permission?"

"No" I murmered, rocked by the enormity of my error. We've changed some boundaries since the last time I wanted to kiss him, and I acted impulsively. I failed to anticipate your wishes for how I maintain your property.

"If you use my property without permission you should apologize."

"I'm sorry, Sir" I wail, apologizing for failing to plan ahead and putting you in this position. "I'm sorry" for misusing your property. "I'm sorry" for putting you in a position where you have to correct me. "I'm sorry" for sullying your hole with him. "I'm sorry" for making you correct me during what should have been your relaxation time. "I'm sorry" because my body has moved on without me, and I tried to stop cumming but you keep using my hole and it feels so good I can't stop, no matter how hard I try. I sob into your shoulder and know simultaneously that this is the reaction you wanted, but I also feel like it's an inconvenience to listen to my sobs. I try to quiet down, try to lose myself in the rhythm of your body in mine and not be quite so loud.

After I hear your groan of satisfaction I hear you quietly say "very good, little rabbit. You did well, I'm so pleased with you."

I’m getting a lot of people on that post I made about minding your own business who don’t seem to understand what BDSM is

Conflict is difficult in any relationship. If you practice D/s, it can make conflict easier to work through, but it’s also possible that it makes even harder. Power dynamics will always come into play when someone is hurt or feeling overlooked.

We had some conflict over the weekend. He hurt my feelings and it felt like he stole the joy out of a situation that usually makes me happy. I waited a bit and then told him he really hurt my feelings and it’s hard not to resent times he puts a dark cloud over things I love to do. He said he needed time to process the information.

It frustrates me when he wants time to process. Although it can be a healthy strategy for getting things right, and not just running with your first reaction, in that moment of letting him know I’m hurt, I’d really like some reassurance right then. I don’t think there’s any wisdom in trying to force the conversation if one party isn’t ready. So asked him to please let me know right away when he could talk about it.

Without D/s, I’m sure I wouldn’t respect the space he needed and would have instead pushed him to keep the conversation going. But he told me to give him space and I did. Understand that I can only do that because I know he loves me and I trust that we will be revisiting my hurt. This would not work with someone I cannot trust or that would just brush it off and never let it be brought back up.

He came to me after an hour or so (THAT FELT LIKE ETERNITY) and listened, apologized and we discussed how it might have been handled better. Before D/s it definitely would have blown up OR I might have just kept my feelings to myself. Just another way D/s is the right choice for us.