Enigma-13 - Enigma

its so unfortunate when different peoples neurodivergent traits clash horribly. like yes i totally understand that the man at the other table cant control his stimming and loud vocal tics and i think he deserves to have a nice day out at a restaraunt without judgement. however if i dont remove myself from the audible vicinity in the next 20 seconds i will explode.

what does it mean to be mspec and gay/lesbian? like does it mean, homo-romantic bi/pan/poly/omni-sexual (or vice versa)? or bi/pan/poly/omni-romantic and homo-romantic (or sexual) at the same time? or both? ???

there’s a few meanings!

1) (mspec)romantic + homosexual or homoromantic + (mspec)sexual

2) being attracted to multiple genders, and because of your own gender, you’re gay for all of them

3) being mspec, but highly prioritizing or much more strongly feeling your attraction to the same gender to the point that gay/lesbian fits you a lot of the time

4) using the historical, non-exclusionary definitions of gay and lesbian and thus being gay/lesbian because you’re mlm/wlw/nln

5) having a fluid/flux/flexible orientation (typically in this situation, the person always or almost always feels mlm/wlw/nln attraction and sometimes is attracted to other genders, but it varies)

6) (i’ll use lesbian for this explanation, but it also works for gay) being attracted to women and nonbinary people/certain groups of nonbinary people (such as unaligned enbies or demigirls), and though you consider your attraction to all of them to be lesbian, you also want to acknowledge that you’re attracted to more than one gender

7) i’ve seen this one less, but i have seen some gays/lesbians use mspec gay/lesbian labels because they had a partner come out as trans (as in, they were in a lesbian relationship but the partner came out as a trans man, etc) and though they still identify as gay/lesbian wrt all other situations, they’re still attracted to their partner and recognize that that makes them mspec

and there could be more, but that’s off the top of my head!

good traits gone bad

perfectionism - never being satisfied

honesty - coming off as rude and insensitive

devotion - can turn into obsession

generosity - being taken advantage of

loyalty - can make them blind for character faults in others

being dependable - always depending on them

ambitiousness - coming off as ruthless

optimism - not being realistic

diligence - not able to bend strict rules

protectiveness - being overprotective

cautiousness - never risking anything

being determined - too focussed on one thing

persuasiveness - coming off as manipulative

tidiness - can become an obsession

being realistic - being seen as pessimistic

assertiveness - coming off as bossy

pride - not accepting help from others

innocence - being seen as naive

selflessness - not thinking about themself enough

being forgiving - not holding others accountable

curiosity - asking too much questions

persistence - being seen as annoying

being charming - can seem manipulative

modesty - not reaching for more

confidence - coming off as arrogant

wit/humor - not taking things serious

patience - being left hanging

strategic - coming off as calculated

being caring - being overbearing

tolerance - being expected to tolerate a lot

eagerness - coming off as impatient

being observant - being seen as nosy

independence - not accepting help

being considerate - forgetting about themself

fearlessness - ignoring real danger

politeness - not telling what they really think

reliability - being taken advantage of

empathy - getting overwhelmed with feeling too much for other people

I haven't personally verified this as I'm not at a computer, but multiple people in multiple places are saying the same thing. This is fucking insane. First the endless war on UBlock, then the Chromium changes to shut out some blocker functionalities entirely next year, now this?

Something is deeply rotten in recent Google/YouTube policy. I can't imagine that this is legal - how is this not anticompetitive? Google needs to get mega fucked in the press and the courts sooner rather than later.

And I need to switch to Firefox as soon as I get home.