The Ultimate It-Girl Guide

The Ultimate It-Girl Guide

to start every new year

grab your fluffy pen and notebook besties. this is our year! claim it! this year and beyond it’s a must that we gain confidence, have goals, ideas, self love and the will to bring our vision boards to life. i put together this guide to help keep myself on the right path and for you all to get inspiration to do the same ఇ

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1 ) Attitude

pretty girl with a pretty attitude to match

making sure we have a positive attitude will always help us succeed in whatever we do. i know things can go wrong and can be discouraging but trying to look on the bright side and being optimistic will make life so much better. if something does go wrong, we have to try not to completely shut down, we should take a moment to process what happened, see if there’s a possible way to fix it, then do so.. and if there’s not we must feel whatever it is we are feeling (whether that’s sad, angry, frustrated etc), then eventually let go of that negative feeling, accept the outcome, then move on gracefully

this also applies to just everyday life situations. we don’t want to be known for having a nasty attitude in general. let’s try to check ourselves in the exact moment we realize that we’re being rude or bitchy. now i’m not saying be fake nice or anything like that because it’s normal to get an attitude at times, i know i do. i just mean we should be more mindful when speaking to others and try to consider their feelings as well

2 & 3 ) Affirmations and Manifestations

Affirming

it’s important to recite positive affirmations to yourself daily, truly believe what you’re saying and watch how beautiful life blooms for you.

some New Year affirmations to get us started

this year will be my best year yet

this year will be very luxurious for me

i am healing from my past

i have the power to create the life i desire

nothing can stop me from living the life of my dreams

this is my glow up year

i choose to love and accept myself unconditionally

i will be gentle and patient with myself this year

i will put in the work to make my vision board come to life

i will do things from here on out that will make my younger self proud and things that my future self will thank me for

Manifesting

bringing my desires to life

make a vision board with everything you desire (it’s not too late) ... it can be tangible : getting supplies you need at the store so you can hang it up in your room, it can be on Pinterest, it can even be in your notes.. however you want to do it, it’s up to you ෆ it’s the intent behind it that matters 🎀

manifest daily or weekly (have a journal and a pen for manifesting only)

Put In The Work : manifesting is all about strongly believing and knowing that you already have what you want but that doesn’t mean you should sit there and do nothing, you also have to have the will to make your visions come to life, work towards your goals and dreams.

4 ) Pretty On The Inside And Out

look good feel good. it’s time to get ourselves together girls, inside and out. no more putting things off, no more being lazy & no more being careless with how we come across and make others feel ♡

this year we are making our health a priority by eating better. let’s consume more fruit, more salads, more water etc .

let’s workout more often - go to the gym, try pilates, try yoga, try zumba etc

you can even romanticize working out so it can be a better experience for you. buy cute workout clothes , pieces that will motivate you to want to workout. buy cute workout necessities .. for example : pink yoga mats , pink water bottle , pink towel , pink dumbbells , pink bag to carry everything , bring your headphones to listen to your favorite music while working out

meditate !! life can be so stressful and it can take a toll on us mentally, physically and have us take our frustration out on others, so my suggestion would be to meditate regularly. meditation is a big part of my daily life. it helps me calm myself and makes me really relaxed. you can do it in silence or with some calming meditation music/sounds (i use meditation music mostly because it helps me concentrate

let’s work on our personalities - being a mean girl is so lame. let’s be more considerate, more generous, more thoughtful, more mindful, more caring, more compassionate. give compliments and give advice with good intentions.

keep our nails and toes done (and when i say done you don’t have to get acrylic & tips if you’re not into that, i mean keep your nails and toes clean & filed)

make healthy hair a priority

make clear skin a priority

dive into your personal style (see #8)

5 ) Journal Prompts

journaling is free therapy !!!

it’s important to start a new day, new week, new month and new year with journal prompts

journal prompts help us sort out how we feel

doing these help guide us on what we need to work on within ourselves and help us remain appreciative by writing down what we are grateful for regularly

each day or each journal entry write down one or three things you’re grateful for

each week write down 3 goals you want to accomplish

you can look up journal prompts on pinterest, make up your own or buy a journal with them already in there (i suggest having one of these because it’s so helpful and easy to get started if you don’t really know how)

journaling is a free form of therapy. i suggest journaling a lot because other than the fact that it’s very healing, some people don’t have others to talk to or they may not feel comfortable being so vulnerable with people, so journaling is a great alternative. it’s like your own personal therapy session 💗

when you’re sad, depressed, anxious, happy, overwhelmed, grateful etc ! writing down how you feel can help so much. even when you don’t know exactly how you’re feeling, just jot down any words that come to mind

here’s some of my Journal Prompts for the new year ↓

6 ) Beauty and BRAINS

learning never gets old. there’s always something new to learn and it’s always good to keep your mind sharp!

read more

listen to podcasts

search and look up things you’re interested in

be thirsty for knowledge even if you’re done with school

teach yourself something new! like a new hobby, sewing to make your own clothes, crocheting, painting, learn to do your own nails, learn to do your own hair .. the possibilities are endless

7 ) Cull Cull Cull

out with the old, in with the new

go through your following lists on all social media and unfollow accounts that’s not good for your mental health, accounts that don’t serve you in any way!

go through your emails and delete junk mail

go through your contact list and delete numbers you never call, block people who are toxic and even change your number if you feel like it will benefit you in the long run

unsubscribe from things that no longer serves purpose

go through your closet and get rid of everything you’re not wearing, everything that’s taking up space .. donate it all!

clean out your vanity/ makeup case! throw out all old makeup, clean your makeup brushes, clean your hair brushes (better yet buy new ones), wash your scrunchies and hair ties

8 ) Style

find your style this year! start buying pieces that you love!

what kind of clothing makes you feel good about yourself?

what are you comfortable wearing?

what makes you feel pretty?

play around with some things until you find what’s right for you <3

buy timeliness pieces

do you like to wear color? neutrals? black and white?

be mindful when shopping

make sure everything you buy is something you love and something you want a part of your dream wardrobe

keep in mind, you do not have to break the bank to get cute outfits! you can thrift, you can go to places like Target, F21, find pieces on depop etc .. so don’t ever feel like you can’t be cute on a budget <3

it’s time to stop living through others and live life ourselves! ♡

you can create a beautiful wardrobe just like your favorite influencer! you can do anything you want to do, start anywhere! even if you’re starting from scratch, one piece will eventually turn into lots of pieces and in no time you will have the closet of your dreams !

extra tips: my post on how to find your aesthetic ↓

9 ) Romanticizing life

it’s up to us to make our lives magical and worth living! romanticizing life is such a good way to do that.

ways to romanticize your life

use your best things! don’t wait for a “special” time to wear your favorite clothes or perfume, make everyday special

buy yourself flowers

take yourself on a date

play dress up with all of your pretty clothes

have tea using fancy teacups / tea kettle

use candles or fairy lights for cozy vibes instead of regular lights around the house

watch the sunrise / sunset

when you wake up comb your hair and put on something cute and comfy even if you are staying home

take yourself shopping and out to lunch regularly

get dolled up just to take pictures

find a spot under a tree and read

make your room your favorite place to be, your sanctuary <3

write love letters

explore a library or museum

take bubble baths regularly with candles, rose petals, crystals and soft music playing

do face masks and mani/pedis on yourself for an at home spa day

go to a coffee shop to journal

one by one replace all of your things until everything you own is pretty and aesthetic .. even little things

example : hair brush, combs, hand mirror, vitamin/pill case, water bottle, cookware, bath towels etc

10 ) Girl Power

there’s so many of us online who have similar tastes in things and seem cool and i’m sure you know someone in real life like this too and i know we can be shy or scared to approach people but we should make it a goal this year to be friendlier to one another

we should step out of our comfort zone and make friends with girls who seem cool to us

we should uplift eachother

we should give credit when credits due

be less messy

leave the drama behind

no more mean girl persona

you never know, you could meet your new best friend sometime this year <3

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PSA: this is a timeless ItGirl Guide! even if you come across this mid 2024 and beyond, it still applies! yes it’s curated for a new year but it’s never too late to learn tips & tricks, it’s never too late to better yourself! this will be an active guide for years to come because i feel like i’m never going to be fully done with this, i’m always thinking of ways to improve, or tips i want to share, so i may add to this later or make this a series ෆ

i hope you all love this ItGirl Guide and can get some inspiration from it ♡ til later dolls, sending love always

xoxo,ℳ

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what to invest in to look and feel good this 2024

nutritionist or books on healthy and balanced nutrition

dental treatments

endocrinologist, if you need to know and take care of the functioning of your hormones

treatments for the care of your skin and hair, such as hairdressing, good products for hair and face, facial cleansing, treatments that your skin needs, go to a dermatologist if you need it, know what type of skin you have and know what are the right products to take care of it.

gym, a sports activity or time to do some exercise on your own, such as training at home. this not only helps your body look good, but also improves your physical and mental health.

psychological therapy, there are still people who believe that the psychologist is only necessary for people with serious problems, but that is not so, a therapist can guide us and help us to improve in the areas of our life that we want.

energy therapies, which would be complementary to psychological therapy, such as reiki, energy cleansing, access bars, among others.

quality time with yourself, do the things you enjoy, your hobbies and also time with people who make you feel good and from whom you can both enrich each other.

and if you have more ideas about this, share them in the comments, it can be of great help to other people ✨

this year i'm making it a habit to have my feelings and just let them pass. i truly believe pain is stored in the body... so when i feel a feeling i just let it rise up and take over. feel it, acknowledge it and let it go. there is no benefit in concealing every single emotion. it's much more beneficial to express my negative emotions and let them exist than to push them down and shame myself for feeling them. with great growth comes great vulnerability.

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Reading tip for when you’re reading something educational (self growth, skill based etc)

When you start your self development journey / want to take it even higher, most of us turn to reading books or articles. We take notes and highlight the areas that we found impactful, we remember those points for a couple of days and then boom - we forget.

books are such a wealth of information but it’s not possible to read every single book you’ve read once multiple times.

you might find it frustrating that you can’t seem to remember all that information when you need to, or you keep racking your brains trying to remember exactly where you had read that particular insight.

here’s a method to help you out.

If you have a kindle / read online, make a Word doc/ pages doc of all the things you’ve highlighted. Copy the highlighted areas, which would be areas that you found hopefully/ intriguing/ interesting, and paste them on the word doc. Use only one document for all your notes of different books and every month or so, take about 30 minutes to rapidly go through them. if you read physical books, take a photo of the sentence/ paragraph that you liked, crop it out so that the other stuff isn’t there, and put that photo in the document.

this allows for a couple of things - information isn’t lost when you finish reading the book. Sometimes we find the solution to a problem too early and when the problem crops up, we don’t remember that we had already found the answer. Two, it allows for revision and three, you may see that with time, the way you understood that particular point changes.

this is not for fictional or fantasy books - this is for books that talk about self development, marketing, sales, technical know how, etc. Stuff that you should remember and would impact your progress positively.